Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations
Robert K. Ross, MD, President and CEO of The California Endowment, addressed inmates at Ironwood State Prison offering a compelling overview of the role that exposure to childhood trauma plays in the lives of emotionally troubled and chronically ill American teens and adults.
If you were a child raised by crazy or less than stellar parenting, regardless of whether or not you read my thoughts and concerns about this topic, I strongly advise you listen to Dr. Ross share his thoughts and concerns.
During a February 2014 on-air discussion about “Gangsta Culture” with Obama adviser Valerie Jarrett, Bill O’Reilly intelligently and compassionately talks about America’s expanding National Epidemic of Child Abuse & Neglect, aka Poverty, that for decades has deprived countless children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood.
Besides, O’Reilly, Milwaukee Sheriff David Clarke and Bernie Goldberg, how many Americans are addressing this topic that is at the core of most all the issues and social problems many of my American neighbors of African descent are today experiencing?
Speaking At The Eulogy For The Honorable Reverend Clementa Pinckney, President Barack Obama said:
With all due respect to my American neighbors supporting the Black Lives Matter movement, I believe your cause would better serve all Americans if your organization were to honestly, openly and compassionately address the National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect, aka Poverty, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of depressed children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood.
I strongly suggest members of the Black Lives Matter target communities that for decades have embraced The Street Culture Baltimore Mom of The Year Toya Graham desperately struggled and failed to prevent her young teen son from embracing.
https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/
In his 2015 Grammy award winning Rap Performance titled “I”, Kendrick Lamar raps/writes, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”
In paragraph eight of a January 20, 2011 LAWeekly interview Kendrick, born in 1987, the same year songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy award, told the interviewer:
“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”
“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment.”
My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”
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It seems evident to me Kendrick identified the source of his depression, the roots of poverty, the child abuse/maltreatment that prevented him, his brothers, sisters, cousins, neighborhood friends, elementary and JHS classmates from experiencing and enjoying a fairly happy, safe Average Joe and Josie American kid childhood.
Seems the adults responsible for raising the children in Kendrick’s immediate and extended family placed obstacles in their children’s way, causing their kids to deal with challenges and stresses young minds are not prepared to deal with…nor should they or any other children be exposed to and have to deal with.
It seems evident to me these PARENTAL INTRODUCED obstacles and challenges cause some developing children’s minds to become tormented and go haywire, not knowing OR NOT CARING ABOUT right from wrong…because as they mature, young victims of child abuse realize their parents introduced them to a life of pain and struggle, totally unlike the mostly safe, happy life the media showed them many American kids were enjoying. RESENTMENT
I cannot speak for anyone else, but if I was raised in Kendrick’s family I would most likely be silently peeved at my parent(s) for being immature irresponsible “living wild” adults who deprived me of a safe, happy childhood.
Though like many victims of child abuse, most likely I would deny my parents harmed me, seeking to blame others for the pain my parents caused to me.
I wonder how little Kendrick and his classmates reacted when their elementary school teacher introduced the DARE presenter and they learned about the real dangers of drugs and how they harm people, including their parents? Cognitive Dissonance
In a Oct 25, 2012, LAWeekly interview Kendrick talks about being a SIX-YEAR-OLD child who was not able to trust and rely on his mom…essentially he speaks about being emotionally abandon by his own mom.
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Kendrick Lamar Still Feels Anger & Hatred On ‘The Blacker The Berry’ (Pt. 3) | MTV News
Nationally Popular Victim of Child Abuse – Kendrick Lamar Talks About ‘u,’ His Depression & Suicidal Thoughts (Pt. 2) | MTV Video News April 2015
American talk show host, author, liberal political commentator, entrepreneur, advocate and philanthropist Mr. Tavis Smiley was introduced to life by a young woman who was eighteen-years-old when she began building her family of ten children.
During a discussion about poverty Tavis revealed to Bill O Reilly his NINE brothers and sisters to this day (May 2015) still struggle with poverty, and that he is the only one of his sisters and brothers to enjoy a prosperous American life.
Does anyone have doubts that as he learned about our world young Tavis experienced anger and frustrations over his situation, or that a young maturing Tavis regularly questioned the choices his mother made for him, his brothers and sisters? SILENT RESENTMENT
Frankly, I too experience pain, anger, frustration & disappointment caused by an American system & society that permits & seemingly encourages the human OPPRESSION, abuse and/or neglect of our Nation’s most precious & valuable resource, our children.
I am disappointed & frustrated by a significant population of immature moms like Baltimore mom Toya Graham who I believe had no morally or ‘legally’ acceptable right to introduce SIX children to a life of hardships & struggles while depending on her responsible neighbors to feed, clothe & house her SIX children. One of whom was observed joining other depressed teens in attempting to cause grave bodily harm or death to police officers charged with protecting peaceful people from angry, depressed teens like her son Michael & many of his depressed classmates.
I am deeply troubled by moms much like Tavis Smiley’s mom, who as a teen irresponsibly began building a family of ten children she introduced to a life of childhood oppression, pain, hardship & struggles.
No one forced Toya Graham or Tavis Smiley’s mom to irresponsibly introduce SIXTEEN HUMAN LIVES to a life of pain & struggle.
Ms. Graham & Mrs. Smiley are much like countless numbers of depressed, immature teen moms across our nation who made a conscious decision to introduce their children to a life of emotional pain & turmoil causing them to experience life scarring Childhood Trauma that Grammy winner & victim of Childhood Abuse & Neglect Kendrick Lamar laments his “living wild,” Violent Felon embracing parents caused him, his three siblings & numerous cousins to experience…instead of experiencing a fairly happy American kid childhood with Safe Streets to travel & play on that all young kids have a right enjoy.
I am sad, angry, frustrated & disappointed that a majority of my American neighbors choose to ignore the CHILDHOOD OPPRESSION, CHILD ABUSE & NEGLECT many immature, irresponsible moms like Ms. Graham & Mrs. Smiley cause their/society’s children to experience during a critical period of their human development.
Frankly, I believe these mom should be held criminally liable for receiving public funds to support their children, & then failing to place the emotional well being of their children ABOVE ALL ELSE, often resulting with kids like Freddie Gray maturing into a depressed teen & adult who causes harm to himself & his struggling or peaceful neighbors.
Sadly, far too many children raised by criminally negligent moms often develop into depressed, angry, frustrated, unpredictable, sometime suicidal (NY Times May 18, 2015 – Rise in Suicide by Black Children Surprises Researchers) teens & adults causing emotional & physical harm to their peaceful neighbors, resulting with the police becoming involved.
Sadly, regularly dealing with depressed, emotionally disturbed teens & adults much like Kendrick, Tupac Shakur, Freddie Gray & Michael Singleton took a toll on my emotional well being that resulted with me abandoning a Brooklyn community after spending twelve years of my life trying to protect peaceful people from Violent Felons who raised depressed kids like Kendrick Lamar, an emotionally damaged man torment by childhood & adult depression, as well as experiencing suicidal thoughts.
Yes, some police officers need to do a better job of remaining professional, adhering to their training, keeping cool, not allowing the human suffering & oppression of children & teens many police officers witness on a daily basis to erode their humanity or basic human respect for others.
Just as some single & married moms need to do a better job of parenting by raising, nurturing, socializing & supervising infants, toddlers & children who mature into fairly happy, responsible teens & adults respecting their peaceful neighbors & the authority figures responsible for maintaining peace in our neighborhoods.
I’m sorry to pick on moms, though since ancient times they are the primary caregivers we look to keep us safe, cared for & loved right from our start.
Growing up during the 60-70s I listened to virtually ALL American music artists of African descent writing songs admiring, praising, wooing, lamenting, loving and respecting the MATERNAL HALF of our population.
https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/08/30/when-why-did-our-moms-become-less-than-human/
I am curious to know if members and supporters of the Black Lives Matter movement have wondered why for the past three decades, many popular American music performers of African descent have been characterizing the maternal half of our population as *itches and *hores…essentially less than human creatures or people not worthy of respect?
Honestly, I have a feeling most BLM supporters don’t have the strength or will to face the truth about who is responsible for filling our prisons with depressed, angry, frustrated teens and young men who were victims of early childhood abuse and neglect at the hands of immature teen girls and women who irresponsibly begin building families before acquiring the skills, PATIENCE and means to properly raise a fairly happy American kid who enjoys a Safe Fun Street to play in.
Milwaukee Sheriff David Clarke offers sound advice to all Americans, “Fix the ghetto!”
I’m with Sheriff David Clarke. I believe we also need to re-examine society’s child protection and welfare laws.
If we do not take affirmative action to protect children, “the ghetto” will continue to thrive, fueled by poor parenting, resulting with depressed kids maturing into depressed teens and adults who often vent their angers and frustrations on their peaceful neighbors, instead of the person(s) responsible for introducing them to a life of hardship, pain and struggle.
With all due respect to my American neighbors of African descent, the oppression of humans that led to racism and slavery has largely been replaced with a new form of human oppression that impedes and deprives many American children from experiencing and enjoying a fairly happy American kid childhood with SAFE STREETS to travel and play on.
If Americans sincerely wish to reduce community and gun violence that often leads to police fear and anxiety, that sometimes leads to police misconduct and/or aggression, the question all concerned, compassionate Americans should seriously be asking ourselves, our elected, civil, social, community and religious leaders is, “What real substantial changes in our society’s attitude and laws need to occur to prevent abuse that often causes young kids to mature into depressed, frustrated, angry teens and adults as a result of experiencing the emotional and/or physical trauma of an abusive childhood?
How much longer will supposedly concerned, caring Americans ignore the pain shared by a growing number of YouTube broadcasters?
In closing my grammatically challenged writing, I’d like to mention I try to calmly relate my experiences, though I am told my writings are not always sensitive.
I apologize if my frustrations, sadness, anger and disappointment seeps into my accounts of personally witnessing child abuse on a regular basis, as well as witnessing how childhood trauma affects for too many developing infants, toddlers, children, teens, adults and American communities.
Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations
Robert K. Ross, MD, President and CEO of The California Endowment, gives a compelling overview of the role that exposure to childhood trauma plays in the lives of troubled and chronically ill Americans.
After watching Dr. Ross’ presentation one of the questions all concerned, compassionate Americans should seriously be asking ourselves, our elected, civil, social, community and religious leaders is, “What real substantial changes in our society’s attitude and laws need to occur to prevent Child Abuse and Neglect that often causes young kids to mature into depressed, frustrated, angry, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults as a result of experiencing the emotional and/or physical trauma of an abusive childhood?”
At 2:12:25 in this documentary about Mafia hit-man and victim of Early Childhood Trauma/Abuse, Richard “The Iceman” Kuklinski, Dr. Park Dietz explains why young Richard most likely developed into a emotionally disturbed, paranoid, cruel, heartless teen and man who did not give a frig about anyone else, including his wife and kids.
Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?
Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community
Victims of Child Abuse
This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.
A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea
What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.
Unedited Mirror:
http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=798_1437634337
Victims of Child Abuse – Brooklyn, NY:
https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/
https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/
https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/
https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/
Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect
Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.
Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.
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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.
Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods by offering life-sapping addictive drugs to his struggling neighbors regardless of the age, emotional or physical condition.
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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.
Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.
“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway”
#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
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Recognizing Preventing Child Abuse/Neglect 
You might want safe streets…Hell, maybe SOME of these others want safe streets. But I doubt they have the political strength to do what it takes to GET them. I know the Bum doesn’t, he always comes out swinging–against the cops. The thug could be his son…But where was this father-figure when it could’ve done some good?
My parents lived in Detroit. My Mom, age 9, could walk safely down the streets.
There were no “No Go Zones”, no “Better not go down THAT street, unless you want to get raped/murdered”.
ALL STREETS WERE SAFE!
It wasn’t because the 50s were somehow magical, OK? It was because Detroit had STRESS.
Stop
The
Robberies
Enjoy
Safe
Streets
Cops would dress up as civilians, let thugs attack them…then shoot the thugs.
(Everytime I hear or repeat that, I think of some cop in drag with basketballs stuffed in his shirt yelling in a falsetto “And I’m SOOO Helpless!” like the thief in the old Huckleberry Hound cartoon did.)
Eventually the thugs were too afraid to attack ANYONE!
Enter a Black Mayor who disbanded the STRESS Units, replaced honest cops with the “Thugs With Badges” protesters keep claiming, and presided over a week-long riot that drove out anyone interested in their financial or physical well-being. They wanted a city without cops? They GOT it! And everything that goes with it!
Half a century later, Chicago has the same “solution” in one sector, and Baltimore has the same experiment with their “Space To Destroy”.
They Just Don’t Learn? No, they’re responding to the Blacks’ spoken desire to have no cops “interfering” with their lives!
And of course, anytime cops DO interfere, the cops involved get fired FOR DOING THEIR JOB!
That’s why in Chicago, when thugs blockaded the Magnificent Mile shopping centers…The cops ran security FOR THE THUGS not the stores!
If you want safe streets, we need to start backing our cops, not our thugs.
If Blacks get mad because a thug gets shot, remind them it wasn’t an innocent saint, it was a cold-blooded thug attacking a cop and got what it deserved. Don’t let the media run pictures of these thugs back when they were children!
But like I said, I don’t think there’s the political WILL to do all these, do you?
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EPGAH asked, But like I said, I don’t think there’s the political WILL to do all these, do you?
Hi, E. I believe far too many Americans are concerned about being viewed as racist if they share their honest opinions for why many of our African American neighbors are not fully experiencing their peaceful vision for L, L, (Love) and Happiness.
Sadly, the majority’s silence is not helping young victims of Childhood Trauma like Freddie Gray, Kendrick Lamar, Tupac Shakur and Michael Singleton.
Peace
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Everything’s viewed as racist, from not hiring disruptive Black kids, to Black thugs getting punished more often than whites who aren’t thugs.
Blacks commit 5-8 times as much crime as whites, but rather than proof of something systemically wrong with Blacks, that’s counted as proof of a “Racist System”.
White thugs are shot 3X as much as Blacks, but BLACK thugs getting shot gets riots, white thugs getting shot for attacking cops gets a slow-clap from me! Why the difference, unless there’s something wrong with Blacks?
And the media helps with this, helps browbeat the truth-telling “racists” into silence!
If you tell the truth too much, you’ll lose your job and maybe worse, as the media will happily publish the home address of yourself and loved ones!
When a thug gets killed, by civilian or cop, do they run pictures of the thug, or a little kid with a halo effect behind/over its head?
Trayvon “The Bum’s son” Martin was NOT a 12-year-old cherub, he was a 17-year-old tattooed monster who had decided to “Ground and Pound” the wrong prey.
How many criminals get claimed as a son by the PRESIDENT OF AMERICA?!
Tamir Rice WAS 12, but 5’7, 175 pounds, so looked like an adult thug. Hence the use of ONLY HEADSHOTS by the protesters! Never mind that it was dead for pulling a toy gun WITHOUT THE ORANGE PIECE IDENTIFYING IT AS A TOY on a cop! Which was actually illegal in that city, because of a PREVIOUS incident, but noone paid attention to those little details!
“Never Pull A Gun On A Cop” USED to be almost as obvious as “Never Give Yourself A Hot Coffee Spongebath”! What happened?
Mike Brown attacked a cop in his own police car and got shot.
The media REALLY went to town with him, from “Gentle Giant Turning Its Life Around” to the “HANDS UP DON’T SHOOT” lie!
AND PEOPLE BELIEVED IT!
The Rams held their hands up on the field and on camera because “It could’ve been us!”
Yes, if they were stupid enough to attack a cop, it could’ve been! NFL players DO tend to have long jackets!
The State conducted an autopsy, the thug’s parents hired a second doctor to conduct a DIFFERENT autopsy–and the lie persisted despite two autopsies debunking it pretty damn thoroughly!
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Hello, E. Obviously you are dealing with many of the same frustrations a lot of Americans are experiencing.
Frankly, I believe name-calling is counter-productive, though I understand the anger, frustrations and disappointment that often inspires people’s passions.
Peace.
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Which name calling? Thug is a violent criminal. Cops don’t go on shooting sprees (Though I couldn’t really blame them anymore if one did, it’s a higher-stress job than say, being a postman, or Chuck E. Cheese, or a jilted TV worker–yes, those are references to previous shooting sprees!) They only kill the bad ones.
Or if you really want to go Conspiracy Theory, they went Deep Cover, joined the police, saved hundreds of black lives…until they got the opportunity they were looking for to assassinate a Low-Value Target!
Possible, but ridiculously implausible.
Cops kill the criminals that refuse to surrender and fight their case in court instead of in the streets.
To phrase it another way, they only kill the criminals that STAY violent when confronted by the police.
That theater killer SURRENDERED and didn’t get shot. Dylan Roof SURRENDERED and didn’t get shot.
OJ SURRENDERED and didn’t get shot. That makes them the modern equivalent of Moriarty, right?
If they choose Trial By Combat instead of Trial By Jury, they get what they deserve.
BUT whites don’t riot when thugs get shot or the court decisions don’t go our way.
Gilbert Collar got shot in Alabama. Black cop, white thug, allegedly most racist state in the nation–ZERO RIOTS!
OJ got off, where were the riots?
I admit that sports nuts tend to go overboard when their team loses, but comparing that little outburst to looting and razing a whole city’s commercial district is like trying to convince someone that a housecat is the same as a tiger!
Acting like fictional Orcs (or whatever other monsters you prefer) is counterproductive, as if they act like monsters, they will be perceived as monsters, making it OK to TREAT them as monsters.
Remember, we live in a world where Perception>Reality.
Worse, though, they call their riots “fight for justice”! From burning down Ferguson–TWICE–to Baltimore, to the “Justice Or Else” march against Washington, they can’t get that they’re retaliating against PUNISHMENT, not random violence. In short, THEY GOT JUSTICE! What are they rioting for then?
As to disappointment, that is the right word. 10 years in the military, I assure you, this is NOT what I was fighting to defend! And to add insult to injury, ex-military are painted as a larger threat than Black Lies Matter and the Moslem terrorists! And our pensions were cut so they could free up money to give to illegals.
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There is certainly a lot to find out about this topic. I really like all of the points you have
made.
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