I understand dysfunctional parenting touches the lives of newborns, infants, toddlers, children and teens residing in EVERY single American community.
Though when I read stories about emotionally troubled young American children of African descent I think about one particular experience of many sad child-related experiences I regularly witnessed during the 80s-90s when I was providing police services to a Brooklyn, NY community populated by many aspiring, soon to be popular American Rap and Hip-Hop performers.
After witnessing his rise to American fame and glory, I learned one of these young rappers was a depressed, angry, neglected and unsupervised teen named Shawn Carter, today known as “Jay Z” a nationally and internationally mega-popular American recording artist who travels around our beautiful tiny blue orb informing our foreign neighbors as well as OUR nation’s children and teens that American girls and women, aka MATERNAL HALF of our population, are less than human ^itches and ^hores undeserving of basic human respect.
Mid-Sunday afternoon I’m directed to the Lafayette Gardens Houses to assist EMS with a birth. Enter a dingy apartment, observe several young women and children watching EMS tend to a woman lying on a shabby mattress laying in the middle of the apartment’s living room floor.
A man in his late 30s, apparently awakened by the noise, enters the living room rubbing sleep from his eyes, seemingly annoyed and wanting to know what all the commotion is about. When he learns he is about to become a father, he makes a remark that I cannot recall, as he heads back to bed.
However, there was a remark made by one of the women witnessing the birth of this male NEWBORN that will remain with me for my entire life, “He’s gonna be a baddd boy, I can tell by looking at him he’s gonna be baddd.”
The women witnessing this beautiful human event all laughed and chortled at the naysayer’s prediction for the newborn’s future, as if it was funny.
For me, it was one of the sadder moments I witnessed during my life and police career. I thought caring, loving, responsible family and friends would offer a newborn nothing but best wishes for a fun, SAFE, productive life. I still think that is true, yet sadly this, as well as other Brooklyn experiences I had tells me not all people celebrate a new human life in the same way.
Witnessing the events and circumstances that surrounded this newborn baby’s entrance into our world, saddened and maddened me, knowing this child was doomed to be raised, nurtured and socialized surrounded by primary child care-givers and other adults who moments after his birth had already painted a bleak future for him. 😦
Sooner or later one realizes reporting what appears to be substandard child-rearing environments would take up much of the day and in the end the children end up where they started, back in the care of a irresponsible MATERNAL or other PRIMARY CHILD CAREGIVER failing to recognize that placing ABOVE ALL ELSE the EMOTIONAL WELL BEING of their child(ren) will most likely result with a fairly or wonderfully happy child maturing into a reasonably responsible teen and adult respecting themselves, their peaceful neighbors and the authority responsible for maintaining peace in all American neighborhoods.
Americans using the terms Gangsta Culture, Street Life, Street Hustle or Street Culture are describing what I term America’s expanding Culture of Child Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment, aka Poverty, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children as well as teens from experiencing and enjoying a SAFE, fairly or wonderfully happy American kid childhood!
I met this newborn more than thirty-years ago. I wish I could meet him today and learn about his life experiences.
I can only hope he was smart and strong enough to resist being mentally conditioned by his caretakers, their friends and/or community to embrace “The Street Culture” NYC gang member and admitted victim of Childhood Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment Little Carmen was forced and conditioned to embrace at a young age…through no fault of her own.
“The Hate U Give Little Infants Fvvks Everyone”. ~Tupac on T.H.U.G. L.I.F.E.
The late Tupac Shakur, a popular American recording artist, urban story teller and victim of Childhood Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment was well aware that not only are American kids being UNJUSTLY OPPRESSED and DEPRIVED from experiencing their full human potential, Tupac realized OUR NATION is being deprived of enjoying the potential achievements offered to ALL Americans by reasonably well adjusted kids maturing into responsible teens and adults who care about the future of OUR Nation.
One time White House guest Kendrick Lamar, a popular multiple Grammy Award winning American urban story teller and victim of some pretty horrific criminal early Childhood Trauma, Abuse, Neglect and Maltreatment is an adult who managed to physically survive the American terrorism he began witnessing when he was FIVE-YEARS-OLD.
However, in his music and interviews Kendrick has made it clear the TERRIFYING CHILDHOOD TRAUMA, Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment he experienced during a critical period of his Human/Childhood Development continues causing him to experience emotional pain and torment well into adulthood.
Kendrick Lamar Talks About ‘u,’ His Depression & Suicidal Thoughts (Pt. 2) | MTV Video News April 2015
It is time to end “America’s War on Poverty,” correctly renaming our Nation’s expanding social disorder and # ONE HEALTH CRISIS known as CHILDHOOD TRAUMA, to
“America’s War on Childhood Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment”
Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations
Robert K. Ross, MD, President and CEO of The California Endowment, gives a compelling overview of the role that exposure to childhood trauma plays in the lives of troubled and chronically ill Americans.
After watching Dr. Ross’ presentation one of the questions all concerned, compassionate Americans should seriously be asking ourselves, our elected, civil, social, community and religious leaders is, “What real substantial changes in our society’s attitude and laws need to occur to prevent Child Abuse and Neglect that often causes young kids to mature into depressed, frustrated, angry, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults as a result of experiencing the emotional and/or physical trauma of an abusive childhood?”
At 2:12:25 in this documentary about Mafia hitman and victim of Early Childhood Trauma/Abuse, Richard “The Iceman” Kuklinski, Dr. Park Dietz explains why young Richard most likely developed into a emotionally disturbed, paranoid, cruel, heartless teen and man who did not give a frig about anyone else, including his wife and kids.
Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?
Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community
Victims of Child Abuse
This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.
A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea
What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.
Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect
Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.
Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.
Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.
Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.
In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.
Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.
“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway”