Laura Ingraham Blames “Deficit Of Fathers” For Violence In Neighborhoods Like Baltimore

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Laura Ingraham Blames “Deficit Of Fathers” For Violence In Neighborhoods Like Baltimore

On May 26 2015, while sharing a chat about American crime with O’Reilly, Laura Ingraham mentioned “Moms do the best they can.”

With all due respect to Ms. Ingraham, my life experiences and my common sense tell me MOST moms do a good job, however I witnessed a population of mothers who have little clue about raising and nurturing children to become peaceful, fairly well adjusted teens and adults.

Early in my police career when I was assigned to a Brooklyn community a few of my training officers advised to be prepared to experience “culture shock.” When I asked what is meant by “culture shock,” I was told, “You’ll find out.”

I did find out what “culture shock” is, though it was not a culture of violence and harmful anti-social activities many were insinuating I would be shocked by.

The aspect of this Brooklyn, NY community that shocked me to the core was witnessing children being emotionally scarred by a “culture of child abuse/neglect” that Kendrick Lamar raps and speaks about some twenty-five years after I first witnessed the “culture of child abuse” that today CONTINUES damaging many individuals and their communities.

In his 2015 Grammy winning rap performance of, “I,” Kendrick Lamar writes, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

In a 2011 LAWeekly interview I recently read, Kendrick clearly explains what caused his early depression and why he continued to experience depression into adulthood.

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“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

In a October 2012 LAWeekly writer Rebecca Haithcoat interviewed Kendrick Lamar suggesting Kendrick’s, “songs are full of passion and pain.”

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In my experience Kendrick’s words clearly describe the emotional pain he and his school mates suffered because they were given life by immature, irresponsible people who subjected them to horrific acts of child abuse and neglect.

Recently, Tavis Smiley and O’Reilly were talking about poverty when Tavis stated he is one of TEN children. Sadly, he revealed his NINE siblings continue to struggle while he is the only one in his family to grow and prosper.

Knowing the negative influences of “The Street” culture in her community, Baltimore grandmother Toya Graham, while still a teen begins builds a family of SIX children, one of whom, her teen son Michael Graham-Singleton, was observed trying to cause grave harm to humans attempting to protect peaceful people from harm.

In a CNN interview Ms. Graham strongly suggests, “At no time is my son a thug.”

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/04/child-abuseneglect-is-baltimore-mom-toya-graham-perpetuating-poverty-prejudice/

In my opinion Kendrick Lamar’s description of his immediate and extended blood relative family pretty much explains why poverty and pain continues to harm so many children…poverty and pain caused by immature, irresponsible young women who really need to stop harming their kids, beginning by building smaller families they can better care for and supervise.

Holding off building a family until acquiring some practical skills and life experience while still a teenager would also be very helpful in easing the pain and struggles of poverty many immature moms subject their children to.

I realize criticizing women and not criticizing men seems unfair.

Like it or not, agree with me or not, women are the givers of human life, and in most ancient and modern societies the primary caregivers and nurturers responsible for raising society’s young.

In America, each woman has an inalienable right to determine when she is prepared for motherhood. Married or not, men do not make that decision.

I hope this writing opens Ms. Ingraham’s and millions of other people’s eyes to the cries of child abuse/neglect many American kids experience because they were introduced to life by immature, irresponsible teens and women, aka known as moms.

#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

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2015 Grammy Winner Kendrick Lamar Reveals He Is A Victim of Horrendous Child Abuse/Neglect That Scarred Him For Life

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Kendrick Lamar – A victim of America’s expanding & shameful ‘National Epidemic of Child Abuse & Neglect’

red-dotIn March 2015 I shared comments on Kendrick Lamar’s 2015 Grammy award-winning Rap Performance, “I”. YouTube video…

In his Grammy award-winning Rap Performance titled “I”, Kendrick Lamar writes, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

After looking at the Rap lyrics written by Kendrick, I recognize he and I have both tread in similar worlds or communities.

Kendrick doing so as a depressed adolescent, me as an often frustrated uniformed NYC police officer dealing with children suffering from depression. In my experience, depressed children who often resort to committing anti-social harmful acts against their peaceful neighbors.

I’d like to share one of my experiences in dealing with a child who was suffering from depression that apparently resulted from frustrations and anger he felt toward his mother.

I try to calmly relate my experiences, though I am told my writings are not always sensitive. I apologize if my frustrations seep into the my accounts of personally witnessing child abuse, as well as its effects on developing infants, toddlers, children, teens and their communities.

red-dotI am processing a mid-teen I arrested for stealing food and fighting to keep it when he got caught. I called his mother before speaking with him, when she arrived at the precinct I escorted her to the juvenile detention room, where the teen went-off on her, sharply criticizing her for ignoring him, for ignoring his brothers and sisters, blaming his mother for the situation he is in.

The kid was in tears as he verbally pummeled his mother, suggesting she did not love any of her children and the only reason she had them was to collect welfare to escape living with her own crazy, drug addicted mother.

I stood there numb, watching one of the most heartbreaking and disturbing, yet insightful moments I ever witnessed in my career. The kid had a mental breakdown venting what I assumed were years of built up frustration and disappointment.

Appearing unaffected by her son’s torment and outburst of emotion, his mother did not protest her child’s accusation, nor did she seem concerned about his fragile condition as she left the interview room “for a smoke” while he was still sobbing.

What do I say to this kid? How do I deal with a depressed child who believes he is not loved by his own mother?

What are his perceptions of me as a person responsible for protecting and helping people, yet I can’t help fix his problems, instead I arrested him?

This mother who apparently raised an emotionally abused and maltreated child said she was going for a smoke and never returned, abandoning her child, leaving him in the care and custody of the City of NY.

I spent an hour trying to locate her before transporting the kid to a juvenile detention facility, which due to the kid’s emotional state was probably best for both of them at that time.

Not that many are concerned with spending/wasting government money, but this mom’s refusal to love, nurture and accept responsibility her child being released to her custody cost the City of New York four hours of overtime that evening.

Four hours of overtime earned while dealing with an unloved, angry, frustrated, depressed child who at fifteen-years-old was charged with a crime because he wanted food to feed himself and his siblings.

Frankly, that was four hours of OT I could have lived without, though what I gleaned from this experience gave me more insight into the mind of a child born to a woman some pejoratively characterize as a “Welfare Queen.”

Certainly, I wish I could cure the ills and trauma experienced by a child that feels unloved, however I cannot. Though I can relate my thoughts and comments for improving the lives of children born to mothers imbued with a “clueless” mindset for raising children, and toward life in general.

Society should no longer tolerate people making babies as a means to escape the dysfunction of their own care-givers. Society needs to rethink our policies for rewarding teens and young women with free cash for making babies born out of depression, immaturity and selfishness, not love between partners in a family type relationship.

I believe a part of the solution for protecting children from “clueless” parenting is to utilize the same camera technologies we are proposing/demanding our police officers use to protect them and the public.

I am hoping when camera technology proves its mettle in protecting police officers, as well as identifying officers who require further training or officers who have no business serving the public in a LE capacity, we will use that same technology to protect children by monitoring the common area of homes in which caregivers have established a track record for failing to properly raise, nurture and/or supervise their children.

Recently I watched a video that saddened me as well as enlightened me when I learned child welfare investigators test the hair of child abuse victims for “ambient” exposure to drugs.

Holy smokes, the numbers were critical. At the least cameras would expose signs of intoxication in homes identified as requiring extra care to prevent children from being emotionally and or physically harmed.

red-dotIn 1987 singer/songwriter Suzanne Vega garnered three Grammy nominations, including Record and Song Of The Year for her Top 5 hit about child abuse, “Luka.”

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay
I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

Most kids will clam-up rather than say an ill word about their abusers. However, I’ve met a few child abuse victims whose level of frustration with their caregivers pushed them to make poor choices causing the police to become involved…and subsequently reveal their true feelings, as the young teen I arrested in the anecdote I shared.

Kendrick Lamar writes, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

I do not know Kendrick (see below)*, I’ve searched my memory file for times in my past when depression may have crept in. I can’t think of any as a kid, except for the time I forged mom’s signature on a 6th grade report card and got caught, sending mom into a rage I’d never witnessed before or after. She was wholly upset that I was a cheat and liar, engaging in an act contrary to all her schooling about honesty and truthfulness. Mom’s reaction made me depressed because I hurt and disappointed her, real bad.

Reading Kendrick’s lyrics I am certain he’s grown up knowing depressed kids like the fifteen year-old I arrested for thievery.

Suzanne Vega is a Grammy nominee who wrote lyrics about child abuse, Kendrick Lamar is a Grammy winner who wrote rap lyrics that include expressing signs of child abuse.

Considering he has decided to share his thoughts and experiences with the entire world, I am curious to know what Kendrick believes caused him to be a depressed adolescent? (Continue reading to learn the cause for Kendrick’s lifelong sadness)*

I am also curious to learn Kendrick’s opinion for why some/many of today’s lyricists characterize women as “witches and bhores in their music,” totally unlike the artists from earlier generations, almost all who praised and loved women – aka their moms, sisters, grandmas and daughters – in their music?

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Quentin is one of several YouTubers who offered kind and positive replies to my comments:

Quentin Coberley: “Much respect. Kinda changes my perspective of the police force and my accusations of certain individuals who stereotype or discriminate. But, none the less very good thought provoking thought and I agree 100% on asking why these music “artist” objectify women are call them bitches, or how every other word is nigga,money,bitch, or molly. Some music “artist” are truly pathetic. They need to create stories like rappers such as Kendrick, em,tupac,notorious B.I.G, and immortal technique”

Quentin Coberley wrote, Much respect. Kinda changes my perspective of the police force and my accusations of certain individuals who stereotype or discriminate.

Hi, Quentin.

Most of the men and women I worked with in the NYPD were raised and nurtured to embrace compassion, empathy and respect for all life. Most of my sworn, and civilian co-workers, many who also lived in this Brooklyn, NY community, were raised to be honest, truthful and to respect our neighbors.

After completing a year of classroom and field training, when they learned I was assigned to what was considered a “high crime” Brooklyn community, a few of my field training officers told me to be prepared for “culture shock”.

When I was told this I thought to myself, “what are they talking about, how much different can this American community be from my American community?”

I was a toddler when Motown was in its infancy, we grew up together as virtual friends. My Motown friends wrote and composed great music intended to make people smile and dance, which many of my friends and neighbors did when we enjoyed the music they shared with our tiny blue orb.

Before becoming a cop I worked in a service industry dealing with people from all backgrounds, this is when I learned that ALL my fellow humans, regardless of their background, have the capacity to be decent people or just plain jerks.

Plus, when our military deployed my dad to Korea as a mechanic, he met a black guy who grew up not far from him in Queens, NY. They became friends and upon returning from Korea, they opened an auto repair business, got married and started building their families. I was just a kid but as far as I could tell, the only difference between my dad and his friend/partner Jesse, was that Jesse had a dark complexion, a cooler hairstyle and seemed to smile more than my dad.

So what are my training officers talking about when they tell me I will experience “culture shock?”

Soon after being assigned to my new precinct I noticed that many people in the community, especially young men and teens, embrace a 24/7 attitude projecting, “I’m not in the mood to be messed with.”

I understand young people puffing their chests out, I grew up around more than I can count, I understand that in some communities acting fearless is a posture required for self-protection and to maintain a reputation, however I don’t understand why so many in the community are angry 24/7.

What really baffled me was the great number of young people in the community, guys and gals, who had uncontrollable tempers that often turned into seething rage, not only when dealing with the police, but when dealing with people within the community?

I was also puzzled by the attitudes of some/many young people toward the police. Sure, in my resident community we did not like the police messing with us when we were just trying to hang out and have some fun, but we respected the fact that the law kept our families safe and the officers were doing their job.

During the many times the police chased us off our hang-out corner or broke up our drinking and pot parties in the nearby state preserve, even when the police were less than professional in dealing with us, I cannot recall anyone taunting or overtly showing hatred toward the police. While some were not happy being “harassed” by the police, we knew they were right and we were wrong.

Anecdote:

One evening during my first week as a beat cop in my new precinct, I’m walking to my post along a residential city street lined with fairly nice brownstone homes when three teen boys walk by and begin taunting me, “Look at the shiny brand new cop with his shiny new badge and shiny new gun,” is one of the taunts I recall.

Can I be plainly honest? I was scared. I was a brand new cop who reviewed the crime reports for my beat before patrolling it on foot. I learned that on my tiny five block beat there were numerous crimes reported during the previous weeks and months, many of them violent and many of the suspects described by victims were teen boys.

Due to my inexperience and concerns for my personal safety I decided not to introduce myself to these community members. I continued walking not reacting to their taunts, experiencing my first encounter with a few young people I reasonably assumed were described as unnamed criminal suspects on one or more of the crime victim reports I read before walking to my post.

I continued walking to my post >>> wondering why I was subjected to unprovoked taunting and hate?

Later that week, not far from where the taunting occurred, I responded to a call of an unconscious male. I found two young hot dog vendors with bullet holes in their heads lying on the floor of their rundown rented storage garage. I watched the pool of blood expand as I called for back-up.

As a new cop this was not the first encounter with violent death. After completing my academy training I was assigned to a Neighborhood Stabilization Unit where I first witnessed the aftermath of homicide.

A married cable installer from Virginia is getting a hummer in his work truck when her pimp shows up and places a cannon size bullet through the installer’s head that also pierces a heavy steel security gate of a Bodega across the street from where the victim was parked.

I handled my first encounter with violent death pretty well, although shook up and disturbed that a person was killed over a few dollars, I tucked the event away in my mind’s “Experience” folder.

However, witnessing the aftermath of violence perpetrated against these two young people, who were working people no different from me, I began to develop a healthy wariness of dark complected humans.

Working in this community, it did not take long for me to understand what my training officers meant by “culture shock.”

However, after gaining some experience in serving this community I determined what my training officers characterized as “culture shock” had little to do with “black” culture, and had everything to do with a culture of “Child Abuse.”

A Culture of Child Abuse and Neglect that Kendrick Lamar, Tupac Shakur and dozens of other American rappers directly or indirectly describe in their lyrics.

Quentin, in the comments I initially published in this thread I wrote I had no idea why Kendrick was a depressed adolescent, though because of my life experiences I suggested the source of his depression was his home life.

During a LAWeekly interview in January 2011, Kendrick clearly explains what caused his early depression and why he continued to experience depression into adulthood.

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 siblings, and they all got six kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.

I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment.

My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

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Quentin, imagine you’re an elementary school kid being taught about how our society functions, learning right from wrong, being schooled to be a good citizen and to respect your neighbors. During your schooling you are introduced to DARE programs informing you about the dangers of using drugs and how they can seriously impair your ability to enjoy an emotionally stable and physically healthy life.

After class is dismissed you head home to parents who created a home environment Kendrick raps about or describes in this and other interviews.

Obviously these conflicts can cause a developing child/mind all sorts of concerns and confusion. In school Kendrick was being socialized to become an educated, peaceful person while at home he was being taught/conditioned to embrace anti-social values that cause great harm to his friends, neighbors and community.

Certainly it is not difficult to understand why Kendrick and many of his school mates developing in similar environments are depressed.

Most kids aren’t stupid, and neither is Kendrick.

As Kendrick matures and become knowledgeable about the ways of our world, he realizes the life his parents introduced him to is not the same life the media tells him most Americans kids enjoy.

As Kendrick matures he and his school mates in similar situations become resentful of their single or married caregivers who gave them a life filled with dysfunction, disrespect, struggle and emotional pain.

I have to believe that while dealing with his adolescent depression, many times Kendrick asked himself, “Why did mom and dad have so many children they could not afford to care for?”

“Why didn’t my parents have fewer children they could more easily provide for, nurture and supervise? Was I born from love, or to be exploited for a larger share of food stamps and social hand-outs?”

Excerpt from a January 2011 LAWeekly Kendrick Lamar interview:

“The hardest thing for me to do is to get you to know me within 16 bars,” the rapper says on a track…”Average Joe,” in which he relates a story of being shot at by a gang, even though he’s not affiliated. The problem isn’t that Kendrick Lamar can’t reveal himself. It’s that there’s too much he wants to reveal. His thoughts tumble furiously; words swarm so frantically that in one song he eventually chokes on them.”

For nearly a dozen years I witnessed hundreds of depressed children attempting to cope with the abuse filled childhood upbringing Kendrick raps or speaks about.

Consider the emotional torment a child experiences when being taught in school to be a good person, and at home witnessing activities he is being taught in school are harmful to him, his neighbors and community.

Young Kendrick wants to speak out and tell people he cares about to stop doing harmful, destructive things, though he knows if he does he’ll be looked down upon as a troublemaker, someone who cannot be trusted among many of his neighborhood peers, many who have been conditioned to “The Street” Baltimore grandmother Toya Graham feared her son Michael Graham-Singleton will become a part of.

Though witnessing Michael and many of his peers apparent depraved indifference toward peaceful human life charged with protecting peaceful people in the community from harm, I believe Ms. Graham may be too late to save her son from the emotional harm she caused him by building a large family she could not properly provide and care for…subjecting him to a life that caused he and his sisters to struggle…a life of poverty and hardships.

Other thoughts possibly tormenting Kendrick’s developing mind, realizing that if he ‘snitches’ trying to end the madness harming his family and friends, his parents will go to jail and he’ll end up living with other relatives just as “wild,” or he may end up placed in foster care.

Kendrick also knows if discovered, “snitches” pay a heavy price for impeding the flow of “Street” cash by snitching and getting brothers/sisters arrested. Kendrick realizes that as much as he wants the madness to stop harming people, he will be placing his safety and his family’s safety in harm’s way if he actually tries to stop it.

These are a few of the realities of the life Kendrick and many of his school mates were raised, nurtured in, and slowly conditioned to accept.

So yeah, compared to the average young American, I am certain Kendrick’s mind, as a developing child and an adult, is often ‘tumbling furiously’, perhaps contemplating furious thoughts about the people responsible for depriving him and his school mates of an average American life, in part because they built a large family they could not possibly expect to live an average, somewhat peaceful and happy life.

Quentin, early in my police career when I was assigned to this Brooklyn community I was advised to be prepared to experience “culture shock.” When I asked what is meant by “culture shock,” I was told, “You’ll find out.”

I did find out what “culture shock” is, though it was not a culture of violence and harmful anti-social activities many were insinuating I would be shocked by.

The aspect of this Brooklyn, NY community that shocked me to the core was witnessing children being emotionally scarred by a “culture of child abuse/neglect” that Kendrick Lamar raps and speaks about some twenty-five years after I first witnessed the “culture of child abuse” that today CONTINUES damaging many individuals and their communities.

In a October 2012 LAWeekly writer Rebecca Haithcoat interviewed Kendrick Lamar suggesting Kendrick’s, “songs are full of passion and pain.”

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Ms. Haithcoat is partially correct, though in my mind Kendrick’s words clearly describe the emotional pain he and his school mates suffered because they were given life by immature, irresponsible people who subjected them to horrific acts of child abuse and neglect.

Quentin suggested, “They need to create stories like rappers such as Kendrick, em,tupac,notorious B.I.G, and immortal technique.”

Quentin, these teens/men are writing about their experiences as emotionally abused/neglected children, or writing about the community-accepted/ignored abuse they witness depressed children experience that caused them to harm themselves and peaceful people in their community.

Personally, I find most Rap Hip Hop performances very depressing, as well as featuring sounds I have heard before…sounds that have been ‘borrowed’ or ripped from many of my peaceful, musically talented/gifted Motown friends.

Quentin, your reply to my original post in this thread tells me you are a rational, open-minded, empathetic person. You have my respect. 🙂

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http://www.metrolyrics.com/luka-lyrics-suzanne-vega.html

red-dotTupac Amaru Shakur born Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) was an American rapper admired by many, including Kendrick Lamar. These two men share something in common, they rap/speak about the child abuse they, many of their friends and school mates were tormented by as they developed into teens and young adults.

http://www.metrolyrics.com/thats-just-the-way-it-is-lyrics-2pac.html
http://genius.com/2pac-dear-mama-lyrics
http://genius.com/2pac-dopefiends-diner-lyrics/

red-dotFor several decades a majority American rappers have been sharing their tales of experiencing child abuse or witnessing their friends and school mates cope with depression caused by emotional abuse and neglect.

Seems for about the same period of time a good majority of Americans wish to ignore their loud, angry cries of child abuse.

In my opinion, many caring, educated, intelligent Americans are willfully ignoring the poverty, pain and struggle immature irresponsible females subject their children to, mainly by building large families that cause their kids to experience hardships many American kids do not experience because their parents acted responsibly when planning to build their family.

red-dotRecently, Tavis Smiley and O’Reilly were talking about poverty when Tavis stated he is one of ten children. Sadly, he revealed his nine siblings continue to struggle while he is the only one in his family to grow and prosper.

red-dotKnowing the negative influences of “The Street” culture in her community, Baltimore grandmother Toya Graham, while still a teen begins building a family of six children, one of whom, her teen son Michael Graham-Singleton, was observed trying to cause grave harm to humans attempting to protect peaceful people from harm.

In a CNN interview Ms. Graham strongly suggests, “At no time is my son a thug.”

Ms. Graham personally witnessed her son “acting with depraved indifference to human life,” yet she refuses to recognize her son is a damaged person, nor does she appear willing to accept responsibility for causing her son to develop into a angry, depressed child willing to join other depressed angry children in actively attempting to cause great harm to peaceful people.

In this writing I share my opinions of Ms. Graham and thousands of irresponsible moms across our nation much like her.

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/04/child-abuseneglect-is-baltimore-mom-toya-graham-perpetuating-poverty-prejudice/

red-dotIn my opinion, Kendrick Lamar’s description of his immediate and extended blood relative family pretty much explains why poverty and pain continues to harm so many children…poverty and pain caused by immature, irresponsible young women who really need to stop harming their kids. Beginning with building smaller families they can better care for and supervise.

Holding off building a family until acquiring some practical skills and life experience while still a teenager would also be very helpful in easing the pain and struggles of poverty many immature moms subject their children to.

I realize criticizing women and not criticizing men seems unfair.

Like it or not, agree with me or not, women are the givers of human life, and in most ancient and modern societies the primary caregivers and nurturers responsible for raising society’s young.

In America, each woman has an inalienable right to determine when she is prepared for motherhood. Married or not, men do not make that decision.

Before closing, please, let me make it clear that I was also serving/protecting the families of my civilian co-workers, most all were hard-working competent, caring mothers living in the community, and struggling to keep their children safe from influences of depressed children raised by immature, irresponsible mothers in the community.

A question/observation I frequently heard asked by my civilian co-workers and other caring, responsible adults living or working in the community:

“Do you see how she is raising that child!?”

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Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations

American citizen offering his opinion about SINGLE-MOMS harming their children.

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Emotional Abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community

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Social Activist Sandra Bland

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/07/17/sandra-bland-indirectly-speaks-about-child-abuse-and-neglect-harming-her-quality-of-life-and-community/

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Victims of Child Abuse

This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.

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A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea

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Depraved Indifference for Human Life?

What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.

red-dotVictims of Child Abuse – Brooklyn, NY:

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

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Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

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Victim of America’s expanding and shameful *National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect,* aka *Poverty*, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood!

#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

American Victims of Child Abuse/Neglect Endorse Hillary Clinton!

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Thug Love: Gangsta Rappers Endorse Hillary Clinton – Downtrend

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V. Saxena wrote, “Gangsta rappers Waka Flocka Flame, Ja Rule, Snoop Dogg, 50 Cent and A$AP Rocky, all of whom earn millions by promoting destructive lifestyles to teens,…

VS, I agree each one of these men is promoting…however depending on one’s point of view and life experiences, exactly what they are promoting is debatable.

From my point of view, after spending nearly a dozen years providing police services to a Rap Hip Hop influenced Brooklyn, NY community, I believe each of these men is writing/rapping about the child abuse/neglect they suffered or witnessed their friends, school mates and neighbors have to deal with during a critical period of child development.

I understand he is not among the hardcore rapping guys, though in his 2015 Grammy award winning rap performance, “I”, Kendrick Lamar reveals, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

After looking at rap lyrics written by Kendrick, reading a few interviews posted online as well watching and listening to several radio interviews posted on YT, I recognize Kendrick and I have both tread in similar worlds or communities.

Kendrick doing so as a depressed adolescent, me as a often frustrated uniformed NYC police officer dealing with children suffering from depression. In my experience, depressed children who often resort to committing anti-social harmful acts against their peaceful neighbors.

In this 2011 LAWeekly interview Kendrick clearly explains what caused his early depression and why he continued to experience depression into adulthood.

Quoting a January 2011 LAWeekly interview with Kendrick:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 siblings, and they all got six kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

Because we have tread the same sidewalks and experienced what life is like for some kids in the community he raps about, I am going to surmise Kendrick is sharing experiences that caused his depression, as well as the ever-present sadness many of his siblings, friends, neighbors and schoolmates born and raised under similar circumstances experience in their developing lives.

If you read the interview think about a young kid being taught in school to be truthful, honest, not to cheat ect… Then picture the kid going home to the life Kendrick describes.

Fact is, in the January 2011 interview Kendrick clearly described the driving force behind poverty and the child abuse many kids suffer, causing them to develop into depressed, emotionally damaged teens and adults.

I’ve met and/or observed hundreds of children who much like Kendrick were victims of early childhood abuse/neglect. I understand how the abuse impacted him, depriving him and many of his schoolmates of a normal mainstream American life the media showed him most American kids were enjoying.

I’d be willing to wager each one of the American rappers VS reports is supporting Mrs. Clinton to become our next president, has at some time during their childhood development experienced some form of emotional abuse/neglect or physical maltreatment at the hands of their immature, irresponsible caregivers.

I’ll go even further, speculating much like Tupac raps about in “That’s Just The Way It Is”, many American rappers, their friends and fans have contemplated suicide or wished they were never born.

Last week The NYTimes reported, “Rise in Suicide by Black Children Surprises Researchers

Kendrick and Tupac know why their friends and classmates are filled with pain kids should not experience. They’ve clearly rapped and spoken about it.

However, many people seem to interpret their lyrics as violent, denigrating and anti-social, which they are, though most all seem to willfully ignore what causes these damaged men and teens to rap about the pain they suffer, the emotional and/or physical pain they’ve caused or witnessed others cause to peaceful people living and working in their communities.

A question I’ve been pondering for some time.

Motown and me grew up together, we were virtual buddies. My mega-talented buddies wrote, composed and performed music that showed their love and affection for ladies.

Today, not too much respect for females, in fact for some reason many rappers characterize females, aka their moms, sisters, grandmas and daughters, as Witches and Bhores, or less than human.

What has changed over just a few generations?

#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

“Hood Rat” or Victim of Child Abuse & Neglect!

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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“Hood Rat” or Victim of Child Abuse?

March 17, 2015

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red-dotI appreciate Philip, the presenter, being upset with the young girl we all witnessed sharing violence with an innocent teen and five-year-old child.

However, I believe characterizing this child as a “Hoodrat” or animal is a totally irresponsible reaction in that the violent child is apparently a victim of child abuse committed by the people or person legally and morally responsible for raising and nurturing this abused child into a peaceful person.

I too am angry when I witness acts of violence being committed by young children, though based on my life experiences witnessing this type of ugliness on a regular basis, I choose to seek and identify who is primarily responsible for this emotionally abused child acting out with violence.

In some circles, adults with a common sense approach who characterize a child as an animal, might be viewed as a bit damaged themselves.

In other circles many might believe common sense people using inflammatory titles and headlines to draw public attention to their ad-packed Youtube channels that are linked to their for-profit website,  well, many might infer the common sense folks are willfully perpetuating grief and sadness experienced by thousands of victims of child abuse and neglect who matured into damaged teens and adults.

Sadly many of the people highlighted in the videos on these for-profit YouTube channels, with links to for-profit websites, are victims of all types of early childhood abuse, neglect and maltreatment that understandably causes them to develop into depressed, angry frustrated teens and adults.

Much like Baltimore grandmother Toya Graham‘s son Michael Graham-Singleton who was observed acting with depraved indifference toward peaceful people attempting to protect his peaceful neighbors from the anger and depression many kids experience as they mature, realizing their mom and/or dad introduced them to a life that caused them pain, hardship and struggle…a life depriving them of experiencing some/much of the fun the media tells them many American kids were enjoying.

The root causes of crime and violence are in part related to a child’s early up-bringing and care.

In his 2015 Grammy award winning rap performance, “I”, Kendrick Lamar reveals, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

After looking at the rap lyrics written by Kendrick, I recognize he and I have both tread in similar worlds or communities.

Kendrick doing so as a depressed adolescent, me as a often frustrated uniformed NYC police officer dealing with children suffering from depression. In my experience, depressed children who often resort to committing anti-social harmful acts against their peaceful neighbors.

In this 2011 LAWeekly interview Kendrick clearly explains what caused his early depression and why he continued to experience depression into adulthood.

Quoting a January 2011 LAWeekly interview with Kendrick:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 siblings, and they all got six kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

Because we have tread the same sidewalks and experienced what life is like for some kids in the community he raps about, I am going to surmise Kendrick is sharing experiences that caused his depression, as well as the ever-present sadness many of his siblings, friends, neighbors and schoolmates born and raised under similar circumstances experience in their developing lives.

If you read the interview think about a young kid being taught in school to be truthful, honest, not to cheat ect… Then picture the kid going home to the life Kendrick describes.

Fact is, in the January 2011 interview Kendrick clearly described the driving force behind poverty and the child abuse many kids suffer, causing them to develop into depressed, emotionally damaged teens and adults.

I’ve met and/or observed hundreds of children who much like Kendrick were victims of early childhood abuse/neglect. I understand how the abuse impacted him, depriving him and most all his schoolmates of a normal mainstream American life the media showed him most American kids were enjoying.

Perhaps this case of child maltreatment and emotional abuse/neglect, will in part, offer a reason for why some/many kids growing up in America experience depression, lack empathy for their neighbors, often resorting to committing violent and other crimes to vent their anger and frustrations.

I met this NYC mom while providing uniform police services to the City of New York some years ago.

One evening a call for police service brought me to a young mom’s second floor walk-up apartment in a private dwelling, she was reporting the theft of a Boom-Box radio taken from her kitchen window sill by someone trespassing on her building’s fire escape.

Entering this young mom’s apartment I observed several children, some in diapers, a few older, sitting on a living room couch, an aluminum fifty-five gallon, half-filled trash can was sitting right in the middle of her tiny living room, as if it was her coffee table. One of her living room walls was smeared with several dark stains of what I believed to be human waste.

I calmly recorded her theft complaint and left, immediately reporting my observations to my sergeant who instructed me to contact child welfare. Forty-five minutes later the children were removed from this mom’s care, temporarily placed in the custody and care of the people of New York City.

Sadly, this was not my only interaction with this mom.

Months later I arrested her younger brother for robbery. According to the victims and one witness to this act of violence who recognized her brother from the neighborhood, he placed what appeared to be a handgun in the face of two victims and threatened their lives while demanding and taking their property.

Until she arrived at the precinct to protest her brother’s arrest, I had no idea my young prisoner was related to the mom whose maltreated children I caused to be taken from her months earlier. At the top of her lungs, much like Michael Brown’s father when he was recorded reacting to the perceived injustice to his family member, she adamantly insisted her brother was not a robber.

I showed her the gun I recovered from her brother’s pocket, I told her one witness knows her brother from the neighborhood, still not convinced she came very close to being arrested for becoming disorderly and refusing to leave the precinct station house once her business was done. Later I learned that she appeared in court when her younger brother was arrested months earlier for an unrelated robbery.

What was the point of lying about her brother not being a street thug, when there are public records indicating she knew he was committing acts of violence toward people months before she looked me in the eye and vehemently denied her brother is a robber?

I believe I know the answer to my own question. Again, I have no formal training in understanding why people tend to act the way they do, however based on my life experiences I believe Boom-Box mom lied to me without a care or second thought because she was raised to believe lying and denial is how people cope with uncomfortable situations..or..she never acquired and developed the critical thinking skills required to look past living in the moment, or the “here and now’.

Time and time again I interviewed adults and teens who lied to me about easily verifiable facts, often placing themselves at risk for being arrested for obstructing or impeding criminal investigations. Is this something most people with average critical thinking skills would do?

After every day or night’s work I had a 30-40 minute commute home, which gave me time to reflect on the day’s events, how I responded to them, and what I learned from them. Many nights I would drive home with a smile on my face, thinking to myself, “Holy smokes, I can’t believe I get paid to have this much fun identifying and locking up dangerous people.”

During many of these winding-down, reflective moments I would actually experience a euphoric feeling of being “high on life.” For me, at that time in my career, chasing down seriously dangerous bad people who illegally armed themselves with firearms for the purpose of committing mayhem on a mostly peaceful population of working class and poor fellow Americans was the ultimate high, as well as a fringe benefit of police work.

In many cases after taking an alleged dangerous person into custody, I had the opportunity to speak with them and gain ‘some’ insight into what makes them tick. I have no formal training in psychology, however, after meeting and talking with many people who are alleged to have committed crimes in this community, I personally concluded many of the people I arrested were raised and nurtured in environments that lacked real love, understanding, caring and guidance.

Driving home after my first interaction with the aforementioned Boom-Box mom, I thought about her values, her understanding of what is expected of the people who nurture our children, her consideration for laws that society imposes on all people who assume the serious responsibility of rearing children.

I concluded Boom-Box mom was “clueless,” lacking good judgment and skills in all areas required for her to be a good nurturer.

I asked myself, “What is going on in the mind of a mother who invites a law enforcement official into her home, in which she has created a environment for her children that posed a serious risk to their physical well being and health, as well as their psychological development?”

“Does she not realize what she is doing to her children or how her clueless behavior can imprint and affect them for life?”

“Before calling the police did Boom-Box mom not realize society enacted laws protecting her children from the physically harmful and emotionally abusive home she created for them?”

I have to believe Boom-Box mom’s method for parenting is a learned behavior, instilled either during her own upbringing or gleaned from the people she is friends or associates with. Which leaves me wondering if Boom-Box mom ever invited friends or guests to her apartment, and if she did, why didn’t they report the apparent maltreatment and emotional abuse she was exposing her helpless children to?

I am not trying to be harsh by characterizing Boom-Box mom as totally “clueless.” I believe she is a victim of a society accepted cycle of dysfunctional family and community environments…from birth, it appears Boom-Box mom was not shown what a loving environment is made of, it’s difficult for me to be mad at people who are victimized by the recurring cycle, and it certainly makes me better understand why so much rage, anger and frustration exists in the hearts and minds of young “black people” who are raised in these environments.

If I was being raised in the cycle of poverty by a “clueless” parent, as I mature, learning more about the world and witnessing how others are having fun, prospering, loving their families and lives, more than likely over time I’d be real upset, simmering, maybe even rage as I aged and my home environment does not improve.

I think about Boom-Box mom’s children and what they have to look forward to, what skills does she offer her children…what goes through her baby’s minds as they gather around the trash can mom placed in the middle of their living room, day after day watching television depicting the good lives Americans of all backgrounds are enjoying?

What really saddens me……is knowing, based on my experiences, that Boom-Box mom’s “clueless” mindset is replicated by mom’s and parents throughout this community. It saddens and angers me that little kids are in many cases, doomed from the start, or before they are conceived.

When I look back at the environment my parents created for me and how I responded to that environment, I realize my goals were to please my parents by respecting and appreciating what they were doing for me. And most importantly doing my best not to disappoint them because they loved me and made sure I knew it by actively being involved in my life, and aiding me in shaping my life as I developed into a peaceful person who felt loved and cared for.

Two immutable rules in our household were impressed upon me at a young age, “Always be truthful” and “Before judging, wear the other person’s shoes.” Thinking back mom and dad never used the word “empathy” when admonishing me for not thinking before I shot my mouth off, they always said “wear the other person’s shoes.”

I am thinking if my mom and dad placed a trash can in our living room, ignored feces smeared on our walls, got sis and I removed from their custody because they were not providing basic care for me and sis…I am thinking I’d be a pretty messed up kid incapable of embracing the concept of empathy, or purposefully not showing empathy for others because my life sucks and I don’t care about others.

Or perhaps I’d use my intentional lack of empathy as a means to peeve or ‘get-back’ at my parents by engaging in anti-social behaviors that would eventually get me arrested, causing my parents to recognize that I exist, or depending on their views of the police, causing them to interact with authority people they may not necessarily like or trust, thus peeving them.

As I wrote, my experiences occurred years ago.

Recently I looked at current crime stats for this community and learned there has been a significant decrease in reported crimes, though there is still a good amount of violent crimes being committed.

If society continues failing to monitor caregivers who require public funds to raise, nurture and support their children, these kids will continue to be raised in environments like the one Boom-Box mom created for her kids.

I am hoping when camera technology proves its mettle in protecting police officers, as well as identifying officers who require further training or officers who have no business serving the public in a LE capacity, we will use that same technology to protect children by monitoring the common area of homes in which caregivers have established a track record for failing to properly raise, nurture and/or supervise their children. Especially in communities with higher crime rates where kids are more often exposed to some/many neighbors with a mindset for lawlessness.

Recently I watched a video that saddened me as well as enlightened me when I learned child welfare investigators test the hair of child abuse victims for “ambient” exposure to drugs.

Holy smokes, the numbers were critical. At the least cameras would expose signs of intoxication in homes identified as requiring extra care to prevent children from being emotionally and or physically harmed.

My Logic:

If a person requires public funds to raise and nurture a child, society is essentially investing in America’s future by offering support to irresponsible women who in many cases give life to children they are not prepared to care for without, and in some/many instances, with our support.

By bearing a child/children without having the means to provide for her child, a mom has already demonstrated that she is not a mature, responsible person.

Society compassionately, and because we do not have any other choice, provides support and care for a child born to a immature, irresponsible mother, and due to financial constraints we do little to insure our investment in immature mother’s children is being used to raised and nurture her kids in a physically and emotionally healthy environment.

Cameras would allow society to closely monitor our investment without being overly intrusive or having to hire more child welfare investigators to protect children from immature, irresponsible caregivers, which we should be doing now.

Society created laws to protect peaceful people from anti-social people.

To protect society from children who develop anti-social attitudes, we arrest teens for committing crimes, yet we do not hold accountable the mothers and fathers legally responsible for nurturing and supervising these kids?

Why is that?

Does society’s current and long-standing policy for ignoring children born to immature females and anonymous or immature males need to be re-evaluated?

Seems reasonable society should have a right to closely monitor our investments and insure that kids are being raised and nurtured with love >>> and not indifference.

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#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

yellow-horizontalIn this October 2012 LAWeekly interview, Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar questions the choices his parent made.

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Is American Journalist Charles M. Blow Racist?

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Is American Journalist Charles M. Blow Racist?

February 2, 2015

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American Journalist Charles McRay Blow (born August 11, 1970)

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Recent events in my country, concerning issues existing for many generations, have motivated me to share my life experiences that include dedicating twelve tears of my adult life to providing uniform and investigative police services to a predominantly poor NYC community.

Prior to publishing his thoughts and concerns for his family’s safety, as well as issues involving police procedures for detaining people reasonably suspected of being involved in criminal activity, I heard of Charles Blow yet knew nothing about his views of our world. After reading his thoughts and concerns for his son, as well as watching a few recorded on-air interviews, I still don’t know much about Charles Blow’s views of our world, though I do know his concerns for his child’s safety when dealing with police authority, have merit.

I know Mr. Blow’s concerns have merit because I’ve served alongside police officers with sour attitudes, I’ve stood next to police officers as they acted less than professional, allowing themselves to be baited by an angry, frustrated resident(s) of the community they serve. I’ve experienced the shame and embarrassment witnessing one of my colleagues perform his or her duties in a manner not consistent with our training. I’ve also experienced concerns for my safety because an officer decided it was more important to voice his/her personal opinions, then it was to quell a situation with a potential for violence. We are supposed to be the good guys who are expected to remain rational and calm, it pained me when some officers I worked with failed to remember that.

A good friend I’d known most of my young and adult life, a peaceful, well mannered college educated man with three years experience in the NYPD strongly implored me to apply for the job. After some discussion I decided to take his advice because I trusted and valued his opinions.

However, my friend did not prepare me for one important aspect of police service/culture that caused me much concern, a mind-set that cops never witness, expose or talk about unprofessional conduct, a mind-set that police officers never admit fault or expose other officer’s faults. A mind-set that officers who speak-up about unprofessional conduct need to be punished, no longer trusted and shunned for not adhering to the police code of silence.

From the beginning of my career I learned an unwritten rule in police work “Always have a [plausible] story ready.” In my experience, for the most part, this mentality existed from brass down to my patrol supervisor, “Always have a story ready!”

Setting aside the ‘protect another cop at almost all costs’ mentality, a vast majority of the cops and bosses I worked with were decent people doing a job that at times was thrilling, exciting, challenging, demanding, rewarding and boring as heck, yet at times is extremely dangerous…citing the sunny afternoon three of us chased an armed young man through a city housing project and I listened to the bullet he fired at us whiz by my ear at about a 1000 feet per second as he entered the lobby of a building. After the bad guy got away I asked three old timers sitting on the bench nearby why they did not scatter after the knucklehead let a round loose? Nodding their heads in agreement, one of the gentlemen spoke for them, “Officer, that kind of foolishness goes on around here all the time.”

Surprisingly, not one person enjoying this beautiful sunny day watching three plainclothes officers mired down with bullet-resistant vests, gun-belts, our equipment clanking away as we chased on foot this armed young man around the perimeter of a hi-rise housing complex building, not once but twice, as if he is taunting us before he entered the lobby, recognized the young man fleeing from police.

Nor did anyone except for colleagues I spoke with afterwards, come forward to express concern or fear after witnessing the young man attempting to seriously injure or murder one the people trying to protect their community from violence and harm posed to them by this young man when he clearly demonstrated his lack of empathy by aiming and firing a deadly projectile at me, causing me to hear a sound that if the young man had aimed his deadly weapon at me one half-inch or so to his right, I would have never heard.

I wonder if incidents like this have anything to do with why some/many cops at times act less than professional when interacting with some/many community members?

This was one of many occasions I pondered, which came first, The Police Blue Wall of Silence, or The Community Wall of Silence?

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On my blog I write about a few of the reasons I believe some/many police officers adopt or at times exhibit a less than professional attitude.

Later in this writing I address Mr. Blow’s specific questions about why police act the way they do when detaining people. Though first I would like to share my thoughts about those who toss around the racist word, characterizing Mr. Blow as racist.

Growing up in the ’60s this is the definition of racism I was taught:

noun – a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human racial groups determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to dominate others or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others.

Through my years I noticed some/many people have a tendency to alter or broaden long-standing established definitions for words, I believe they do this to make a word fit their agenda or because they are not familiar with its established definition.

Frankly, I view racist/racism as words representing hate, anger and hostility. I have not read many of Mr. Blow’s writings, nor watched many of his on-air interviews, though I have to believe a man raised by a mother who nurtured him to become a educated, successful person does not believe one human race is inherently superior to another, as some people suggest in their Internet writings when characterizing Mr. Blow as a racist.

Do I believe Mr. Blow holds prejudice in his heart? Yes, I do. Perhaps his prejudices mirror or in some/many ways resemble mine?

I won’t list all of my prejudices, though I will share a few starting with Sheldon Silver, former longtime speaker of the New York State Assembly.

Sheldon Silver is a respected man and leader in his community.

A community/faction that wishes to live by their own standards and laws.

A community that according to some/many victims/witnesses residing in the community wishes to hide from public view crimes committed against spouses, women and children.

A community embracing religious views that IMO deny an American woman’s lawful right to experience her vision of Life, Liberty and The Pursuit of Happiness.

A community that according to victims/witnesses who mustered the strength and courage to speak out, chooses to protect violent men and/or men who emotionally and physically abuse their spouses or children.

A community where some/many will shun and attempt to shame those strong enough to expose the injustices within their community.

Based on these known facts, not only am I prejudice toward some/many of Sheldon Silver’s supporters and fellow community members, I believe these people are loathsome human beings for adopting and embracing a philosophy that protects the predatory criminals in their community.

I am certain not everyone in this community embraces the Community Wall of Silence mentality for protecting their criminal minded neighbors, I’m sure there are some/many who fear retribution if they speak out, however because they have not spoken out to protect their neighbors from harm, I believe the entire Sheldon Silver community is diseased, populated by anti-social people.

Until I learn there is a change in this community’s attitude, I will continue to view the entire Silver community as people not worthy or deserving of my respect. I have little compassion for educated people who abuse or maltreat their loved ones or neighbors.

Another of my prejudices is based on personally witnessing some/many females in the predominantly poor NYC community I served for over a decade, not only fail to provide a stable, healthy loving environment for their children, but in many instances fail to perceive/realize the environments they created for their kids is causing emotional and psychological damage that in some/many cases will last a lifetime.

Am I wrong for holding prejudice toward some/many teen/adult caregivers who in my opinion selfishly exploit the birth of a child in order to acquire public funds/support to rescue them from the dysfunctional family they were raised in as children?

Frankly, I view some/many of these irresponsible moms differently from Sheldon Silver supporters because I believe a majority of Silver supporters enjoy a better quality of life and do not face the same challenges a person living in a community where violence can and does erupt more frequently. Though the bottom-line is there are people from both communities who willfully and/or ‘cluelessly’ fail to protect/children from harm.

Yes, there are people from all communities and backgrounds who fail to value a child’s well being and fail to protect children from harm. When reliable evidence shows me there are clans/groups/factions/communities that embrace a philosophy for looking the other way when their neighbors are committing crimes against their spouses, children and neighbors, I will add them to the list of people I no longer trust or respect. They will become people I view with distrust and wariness, or what some people may define as racism or prejudice.

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I believe a quote from Mr. Blow’s website, http://www.charlesmblow.com where he comments about his mom’s steel in raising her children exposes the core reason for why some/many children mature into angry, frustrated people who often vent their negative emotions on their peaceful neighbors in the form of crime and violence.

Quoting from Mr. Blow’s website, “An isolated boy, Blow is fiercely attached to his mother, a woman with five sons, brass knuckles in her glove box, a job plucking poultry, a soon-to-be ex-husband, and a love of newspapers and learning.

Like every single one of us living on our tiny blue orb, we were given life by a woman.

Yeah, there is a man involved in the creation of life though most all cultures depend on women to nurture and raise children who mature into peaceful, happy teens/adults who understand and embrace empathy, as well as scores of other traits necessary for developing into a peaceful, healthy teen/adult.

Obviously Mr. Blow loves and respects his mom and her brass knuckles. My mom raised me and sis under the threat of a cat-and-nine-tails stored in our kitchen’s utility drawer, a subliminal reminder not to cross the lines she established.

My mom married a young Korean war vet who I learned developed a fondness for alcohol during his time overseas, though like many women who fall for a guy with a substance abuse issue, she accepted or ignored his character flaw and married him anyway.

Dad was a peaceful liquid drug addict who mom always maintained was a good provider and never physically abused her, though when she learned he stepped out on her with another woman she was soon on a Mexico bound plane, returning a few days later with a divorce decree.

My mom was left fending for three of us, she ended up being hospitalized with a nervous breakdown. I can only imagine the stresses and challenges Mr. Blow’s mom faced providing for six people, all boys no less. Feeding and clothing five boys is difficult enough for a single mom, add on the stress of supervising/disciplining five maturing boys and I’ll bet Mrs. Blow had more in her parenting arsenal than brass knuckles. 🙂

It cannot be easy for a single mom to assume all the roles required to socialize kids and keep them on the straight and narrow. Sadly if my mom had not ignored the red flags of substance abuse my dad was flying before she married him, her life may not have hit a rough patch. Though I understand, even empathize with young people who fall in lust and make poor choices.

Obviously Charles’ mom was a bit stronger than mine in coping with the loss of her children’s father and life mate. Seems she did a pretty good job raising and nurturing a motivated child who repaid her love by aspiring to become a man she would be proud of.

Most of us want to make our mom’s proud, because like Mr. Blow and myself, we appreciate and respect all they have done for us. We recognize there is one person in our lives who is primarily responsible for insuring we developed the skills required to be peaceful, fairly content people who respect our neighbors and communities.

However, unlike the majority of our children raised and nurtured by loving, caring moms, there are some/many mothers who make babies without first acquiring the skills required to nurture a developing human life.

Based on my experiences during a decade of providing uniform and investigative services to a predominantly poor NYC community, I have a theory for why some/many children lack empathy or compassion, and often mature into frustrated, angry teens/adults who vent their anger and frustrations on their peaceful neighbors.

This is one of many experiences that I base my theory on.

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If Mr. Blow and I were born to this mother, I believe our ability to develop into peaceful members of our society would have been seriously impaired. I also believe we may not respect our moms or any other women, regardless of whether or not they are part of our lives.

One evening a call for police service brought me to a young mom’s second floor walk-up apartment in a private dwelling, she was reporting the theft of a Boom-Box radio taken from her kitchen window sill by someone trespassing on her building’s fire escape.

Entering this young mom’s apartment I observed several children, some in diapers, a few older, sitting on a living room couch, an aluminum fifty-five gallon, half-filled trash can was sitting right in the middle of her tiny living room, as if it was her coffee table. One of her living room walls was smeared with several dark stains of what I believed to be human waste.

I calmly recorded her theft complaint and left, immediately reporting my observations to my sergeant who instructed me to contact child welfare. Forty-five minutes later the children were removed from this mom’s care, temporarily placed in the custody and care of the people of New York City.

Sadly, this was not my only interaction with this mom.

Months later I arrested her younger brother for robbery. According to the victims and one witness to this act of violence who recognized her brother from the neighborhood, he placed what appeared to be a handgun in the face of two victims and threatened their lives while demanding and taking their property.

Until she arrived at the precinct to protest her brother’s arrest, I had no idea my young prisoner was related to the mom whose maltreated children I caused to be taken from her months earlier. At the top of her lungs, much like Michael Brown’s father when he was recorded reacting to the perceived injustice to his family member, she adamantly insisted her brother was not a robber.

I showed her the gun I recovered from her brother’s pocket, I told her one witness knows her brother from the neighborhood, still not convinced she came very close to being arrested for becoming disorderly and refusing to leave the precinct once her business was done. Later I learned that she appeared in court when her younger brother was arrested months earlier for an unrelated robbery.

What was the point of lying about her brother not being a street thug, when there are public records indicating she knew he was committing acts of violence toward people months before she looked me in the eye and vehemently denied her brother is a robber?

I believe I know the answer to my own question. Again, I have no formal training in understanding why people tend to act the way they do, however based on my life experiences I believe Boom-Box mom lied to me without a care or second thought because she was raised to believe lying and denial is how people cope with uncomfortable situations..or..she never acquired and developed the critical thinking skills required to look past living in the moment, or the “here and now’.

Time and time again I interviewed adults and teens who lied to me about easily verifiable facts, often placing themselves at risk for being arrested for obstructing or impeding criminal investigations. Is this something most people with average critical thinking skills would do?

After every day or night’s work I had a 30-40 minute commute home, which gave me time to reflect on the day’s events, how I responded to them, and what I learned from them. Many nights I would drive home with a smile on my face, thinking to myself, “Holy smokes, I can’t believe I get paid to have this much fun identifying and locking up dangerous people.”

During many of these winding-down, reflective moments I would actually experience a euphoric feeling of being “high on life.” For me, at that time in my career, chasing down seriously dangerous bad people who illegally armed themselves with firearms for the purpose of committing mayhem on a mostly peaceful population of working class and poor fellow Americans was the ultimate high, as well as a fringe benefit of police work.

In many cases after taking an alleged dangerous person into custody, I had the opportunity to speak with them and gain ‘some’ insight into what makes them tick. I have no formal training in psychology, however, after meeting and talking with many people who are alleged to have committed crimes in this community, I personally concluded many of the people I arrested were raised and nurtured in environments that lacked real love, understanding, caring and guidance.

Driving home after my first interaction with the aforementioned Boom-Box mom, I thought about her values, her understanding of what is expected of the people who nurture our children, her consideration for laws that society imposes on all people who assume the serious responsibility of rearing children.

I concluded Boom-Box mom was “clueless,” lacking good judgment and skills in all areas required for her to be a good nurturer.

I asked myself, “What is going on in the mind of a mother who invites a law enforcement official into her home, in which she has created a environment for her children that posed a serious risk to their physical well being and health, as well as their psychological development?”

“Does she not realize what she is doing to her children or how her clueless behavior can imprint and affect them for life?”

“Before calling the police did Boom-Box mom not realize society enacted laws protecting her children from the physically harmful and emotionally abusive home she created for them?”

I have to believe Boom-Box mom’s method for parenting is a learned behavior, instilled either during her own upbringing or gleaned from the people she is friends or associates with. Which leaves me wondering if Boom-Box mom ever invited friends or guests to her apartment, and if she did, why didn’t they report the apparent maltreatment and emotional abuse she was exposing her helpless children to?

I am not trying to be harsh by characterizing Boom-Box mom as totally “clueless.” I believe she is a victim of a society accepted cycle of dysfunctional family and community environments…from birth, it appears Boom-Box mom was not shown what a loving environment is made of, it’s difficult for me to be mad at people who are victimized by the recurring cycle, and it certainly makes me better understand why so much rage, anger and frustration exists in the hearts and minds of young “black people” who are raised in these environments.

If I was being raised in the cycle of poverty by a “clueless” parent, as I mature, learning more about the world and witnessing how others are having fun, prospering, loving their families and lives, more than likely over time I’d be real upset, simmering, maybe even rage as I aged and my home environment does not improve.

I think about Boom-Box mom’s children and what they have to look forward to, what skills does she offer her children…what goes through her baby’s minds as they gather around the trash can mom placed in the middle of their living room, day after day watching television depicting the good lives Americans of all backgrounds are enjoying?

What really saddens me……is knowing, based on my experiences, that Boom-Box mom’s “clueless” mindset is replicated by mom’s and parents throughout this community. It saddens and angers me that little kids are in many cases, doomed from the start, or before they are conceived.

When I look back at the environment my parents created for me and how I responded to that environment, I realize my goals were to please my parents by respecting and appreciating what they were doing for me. And most importantly doing my best not to disappoint them because they loved me and made sure I knew it by actively being involved in my life, and aiding me in shaping my life as I developed into a peaceful person who felt loved and cared for.

Two immutable rules in our household were impressed upon me at a young age, “Always be truthful” and “Before judging, wear the other person’s shoes.” Thinking back mom and dad never used the word “empathy” when admonishing me for not thinking before I shot my mouth off, they always said “wear the other person’s shoes.”

I am thinking if my mom and dad placed a trash can in our living room, ignored feces smeared on our walls, got sis and I removed from their custody because they were not providing basic care for me and sis…I am thinking I’d be a pretty messed up kid incapable of embracing the concept of empathy, or purposefully not showing empathy for others because my life sucks and I don’t care about others.

Or perhaps I’d use my intentional lack of empathy as a means to peeve or ‘get-back’ at my parents by engaging in anti-social behaviors that would eventually get me arrested, causing my parents to recognize that I exist, or depending on their views of the police, causing them to interact with authority people they may not necessarily like or trust, thus peeving them.

As I wrote, my experiences occurred years ago.

Recently I looked at current crime stats for this community and learned there has been a significant decrease in reported crimes, though there is still a good amount of violent crimes being committed.

If society continues failing to monitor caregivers who require public funds to raise, nurture and support their children, these kids will continue to be raised in environments like the one Boom-Box mom created for her kids.

I am hoping when camera technology proves its mettle in protecting police officers, as well as identifying officers who require further training or officers who have no business serving the public in a LE capacity, we will use that same technology to protect children by monitoring the common area of homes in which caregivers have established a track record for failing to properly raise, nurture and/or supervise their children. Especially in communities with higher crime rates where kids are more often exposed to some/many neighbors with a mindset for lawlessness.

Recently I watched a video that saddened me as well as enlightened me when I learned child welfare investigators test the hair of child abuse victims for “ambient” exposure to drugs. Holy smokes, the numbers were critical. At the least cameras would expose signs of intoxication in homes identified as requiring extra care to prevent children from being emotionally and or physically harmed.

My Logic:

If a person requires public funds to raise and nurture a child, society is essentially investing in America’s future by offering support to irresponsible women who in many cases give life to children they are not prepared to care for without, and in some/many instances, with our support.

By bearing a child/children without having the means to provide for her child, a mom has already demonstrated that she is not a mature, responsible person.

Society compassionately, and because we do not have any other choice, provides support and care for a child born to a immature, irresponsible mother, and due to financial constraints we do little to insure our investment in immature mother’s children is being used to raised and nurture her kids in a physically and emotionally healthy environment.

Cameras would allow society to closely monitor our investment without being overly intrusive or having to hire more child welfare investigators to protect children from immature, irresponsible caregivers, which we should be doing now.

Society created laws to protect peaceful people from anti-social people.

To protect society from children who develop anti-social attitudes, we arrest teens for committing crimes, yet we do not hold accountable the mothers and fathers legally responsible for nurturing and supervising these kids?

Why is that?

Does society’s current and long-standing policy for ignoring children born to immature females and anonymous or immature males need to be re-evaluated?

Seems reasonable society should have a right to closely monitor our investments and insure that kids are being raised and nurtured with love >>> and not indifference.

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In January 2015 Mr. Blow reported his son was detained at gunpoint by a police officer.
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I understand Mr. Blow’s concerns for his son’s safety. I also understand the officer’s concern for his personal as well as public safety at the time he is conducting an investigation in public.

I would like to answer the questions Mr. Blow asked in the article he published about his son.

Charles Blow asks, “Why was a gun drawn first?”

Without knowing the details available to the officer at the time he detained Mr. Blow’s son, it is difficult to determine if he was justified in pointing his weapon at a citizen. Though the officer was investigating a felony, burglars are known to carry firearms as well as possess them as proceeds of a burglary.

Charles Blow asks, “Why was he not immediately told why he was being detained? Why not ask for ID first?”

As a cop conducting a criminal investigation I would not show my cards to a suspect, possibly influencing his replies. Plus, does it make sense to stress a citizen by informing them they are being detained because I suspect they may be a criminal?

Or does it makes sense to first ask for an explanation for the person’s conduct, and when they provide a reasonable explanation, send them on their way without adding stress to their lives by insinuating they are a criminal?

Charles Blow asks, “Why not ask for ID first?”

Unless the investigating officer knows the name of the person suspected of committing a crime prior to detaining a citizen in public, what is the point for asking a detainees name without first asking questions to determine if the person being detained is a viable suspect?

When serving a predominantly poor NYC community I detained dozens and dozens of people pursuant to NYS CPL article 140.50…and never asked their names because they provided a reasonable explanation for their conduct at the time I detained and questioned them.

However there were times when approaching a suspect I immediately drew my service weapon, held it at my side or intentionally pointed it at them firmly advising them they may be harmed if they do not comply with my orders.

I am not sure if NYS’s CPL or the NYPD’s policy for temporarily detaining people in public places has changed since I was schooled?

During my time with the department I was trained that a PO detaining a person suspected of committing a “violent” crime, for the officer’s safety, was automatically subjected to a pat down before questioning began. As I did on this evening while patrolling a mostly poor NYC community.

On patrol, observe a young man who was the spitting image of a robbery suspect I was looking for, carried the suspect’s mug shot with me and looked at his face most everyday for weeks, so I was certain he was the guy I wanted to arrest.

We approach, no questions asked, immediately pat him down and recover a huge silver six-shot revolver from his person. Further investigation revealed he is not the ‘wanted person’ in the photo I was looking for.

Mr. Six-shot takes the case to trial beginning with a hearing to determine if I had lawful grounds to detain and search him. I showed the judge the official PD photo I used to base the stop on, testified why I stopped Mr. Six-shot. The judge decided there was sufficient evidence to proceed to trial, setting a trial date.

Sometime later the DA calls me to his office for trial prep…a day later he calls and tells me the trial is off, the young man I arrested walking around the streets of NYC with a loaded hi-power illegal firearm tucked in his waistband was the victim of a violent homicide in his Maryland hometown.

I have no doubt Mr. Blows concerns for his and his son’s safety when interacting with police officers are justified. As are the suburban families recorded expressing the thoughts, fears and concerns for their children. Watching this interview is pretty heart wrenching, certainly mirroring Mr Blow’s concerns and fears.

Sadly, as a police officer I too experience fear for my personal safety when interacting with people I do not know.

Especially people in a community with an established track record for raising and nurturing some/many of its children in homes/environments that emotionally conditions these kids to accept a life of lawlessness and disrespecting their peaceful neighbors.

Based on over a decade of providing uniformed and investigative police services to a predominantly poor NYC community, I have my own thoughts and concerns for why some/many children in poor communities mature into angry, frustrated teens/adults lacking empathy for others, often violently venting their anger and frustrations on their peaceful people.

On my Knute’s Niche blog I suggest why music artists from generations past wrote music loving and adoring woman, and the reasons I believe for why the love and respect for women has apparently evaporated for some/many of today’s music artists who characterize women and girls as “Bhores and Witches” in their popular music.

When & Why Did Women Become “Bitches & Whores?

I am curious to learn if anyone else has a theory for why some/many today’s artists write music >>> essentially disrespecting their moms, sisters, and daughters?

I understand and sympathize with Mr. Blows fears and concerns for his family’s safety, though I wonder if he is willing to recognize the core issue for why police and some/many Americans have concerns for their safety when interacting with dark complected people, some/many of whom are raised and nurtured by irresponsible caregivers who I believe are primarily responsible for causing much of the prejudice some/many Americans and others hold in their hearts.

When Mr. Charles Blow and others are willing to honestly identify the core reason fueling much of the prejudice brown or dark complected people experience, not only will he and others be protecting children from harm, they will be helping to eliminate a prejudice that at this time in American history I believe I have a moral right to embrace. For if we do not embrace our prejudices and speak about them, children and women will continue to be victimized…and continue to believe that no one cares or thinks about them.

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#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

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American Journalist Charles McRay Blow
(born August 11, 1970)

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Taraji P. Henson/Wendy Williams – Are Some Celeb Moms Perpetuating Child Abuse & Racial Prejudice

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American Celebs Taraji P. Henson & Wendy Williams

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Hello. I try to calmly relate my experiences providing uniform and investigative police services for more than a decade to a Brooklyn, NY, Rap Hip Hop influenced community.

Though I am told my writings are not always sensitive. I apologize if my frustrations seep into the my accounts of personally witnessing child abuse, as well as how abuse/neglect adversely impacts the lives of developing newborns, infants, toddlers, children, teens and their communities.

After reviewing evidence available to me, in my opinion Taraji Henson is one of many African American women/mothers who is clueless about how her chosen lifestyle impacts her child’s growth and development, as well as the communities and millions of peaceful Americans negatively impacted by the lifestyle she chooses to glorify on screen and in her personal life.

Listening to Wendy Williams and Taraji Henson share a chat, it certainly seems like these two loving mothers are not concerned about the negative influences the men they admire are having on communities throughout our nation.

I opened this Wendy Williams interview with Taraji Henson and heard two popular American female television personalities gushing “love” and admiration a Rap performer named Armando “Pitbull” Christian Pérez (born January 15, 1981) and decided to check him out.

Went straight to his lyrics page, read the words to first his performance on his debut release “305 Anthem” (displayed below) and asked myself, “What world do these two women live in that they LOVE and speak fondly of a man who espouses hate, violence and disrespect for many Americans living in struggling communities throughout our nation?”

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During their chat Taraji complained about today’s men not courting her, treating her with the respect she believes she deserves.

Taraji shared her belief that “most” men in the all black college she attended were not emotionally prepared to take care of a woman’s “emotional and spiritual needs.”

Taraji related a scene in the “hit” television show she stars in, describing a father taking “hatred out on his own child” …adding, “And we know that really happens in real life.”

Wendy quickly, seemingly at the speed of light, moved the convo along to a more happi-face chat.

Listening to Taraji, I mean really listening…it is plain to see she has a problem with men. If my hunch is correct, I’m not saying she is wrong for embracing those feelings, considering the character and values if the men she dates it’s hard to blame her.

Though, after reading the thoughts, experiences, feelings expressed in many Rap or Hip-Hop performances by some or many of the men she admires, I do -seriously- question the culture and the values she chooses to embrace.

In fact, I may even become prejudice toward Ms. Henson for lending her celebrity to raise the stature of the angry damaged men she admires, instead of learning why they share so much pain, and taking measures to help heal them, instead of criticizing them for not having manners they were not taught by some or many of her sisters.

After reading lyrics penned by the men she selects to become friendly with,  learning the opinions these guys really and truly embrace for women, often characterizing/demeaning them as less than human, Taraji’s dilemma becomes even more interesting, fascinating and complex. Hard to believe a college educated person does not recognize her dilemma before get$$ting into it.

Does anyone else see the conflicts here, or just me?

Seriously….taking a deep breath…..does Ms. Henson live on the planet Earth?

Is Taraji Henson figuratively blind to the fact the men she dates and has intimate relationships with are shouting their dysfunction and anger to the world?

Has she read the hate-filled, angry, juvenile lyrics her lovers write? Does she not see they characterize the MATERNAL HALF of our population as witches and bhores, demeaning our moms, sisters, grandmas, daughters, aunts and nieces as less than human and undeserving of respect.

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I mean HOLY SMOKES Ms. Henson, what more do these men have to do to let you know that are damaged people!!!!!!!!!!!!

Perhaps if Ms. Henson took a critical look at why men are not meeting her expectations she will realize it is because many of these men have no respect for their own mothers.

If Ms. Henson wants to get really real with herself about the character of the men she dates, she might take a few moments to think about why many men and teens do not respect their moms.

Of course Taraji and Wendy are not alone. Seems Ms. Vivica Fox joins these ladies on the Clueless Red Carpet.  Is Mr.
Curtis ’50 Cent’ James Jackson III (born July 6, 1975) really the man she wants to proclaim to the world is the “love of her life?”

Seriously? Again, my prejudice is rearing its ugly head. I try to suppress it, make it go away but my mind keeps seeing stuff that ain’t right, way out of kilter with reality, civility and peacefulness as I envision it.

In our great country each is free to choose our heading, just as we are free to identify those we individually or collectively believe are heading for disaster, criticize them, and eventually shun or fear them when they make choices we believe are harmful to our peace@large. Some may call this prejudice or use a more hate-inspired word, racism.

Is this a rant on Taraji Henson? Yes!

But more-so it is a rant defining some of the reasons for why many children born to American nurtured females of African descent are confused, angry and frustrated with the women responsible for raising and nurturing them.

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/09/24/end-americas-shameful-destructive-epidemic-of-child-abuse-and-neglect/

Prior to being presented with evidence that clearly shows either she or her son inflated and misrepresented facts (lied) of the circumstances surrounding her son Marcell’s police encounter, Taraji Henson made public accusations her son’s civil rights were impaired by a civil servant and declined to do the right thing by not following up and cooperating with authorities to correct the officer’s alleged uncivil and illegal conduct? After being invited to do so!

Sorry, this is either irresponsible, immature behavior, or it is contrived malarkey exploiting the current negative feelings some or many embrace for our law enforcement officials, to bring attention to her stardom.

“Hey look at me girls, I made it, my son’s education costs a cool fifty-Gs I can well afford to spend, unlike yall’ bhores and witches the rich and powerful men I admire and entertain write about.”

“Oops, I’m sorry, guess some of my lover’s ‘put-others-down-to-make-me-feel-better’ mentality must have rubbed off on me?”

Women were victimized by Bill Cosby, they remained silent, more were victimized, the list of victims who made the choice to remain silent goes on. Hard to respect or feel compassion for anyone who remains tight-lipped after being violently victimized. Especially when in their heart they know the attacks will continue.

Hard to respect a citizen who makes allegations of serious civil misconduct and does not follow up preventing future misconduct.

Now, only days after Ms. Taraji Henson shouted public allegations of serious police misconduct, we learn the TRUTH about the police officer who correctly detained her son for failing to yield to a pedestrian/neighbor in a crosswalk, was nothing less than polite, professional and…..if reports are true that Marcel possessed a controlled substance without a lawful prescription, we learn the police officer may have placed his career at risk by not arresting her son for possessing a controlled substance with a legal prescription.

When I was an active duty NYC police officer I was trained that sworn officers in NYS have discretion when determining to cite a person for committing a “traffic infraction”. Though when we personally observe crimes defined as misdemeanors and felonies, we MUST make an arrest, discretion does not apply.

How Making and Not Making Drug Arrests Threatened My Police Career

If this is true in California, the polite, professional officer who allowed Marcel to walk without charging him for unlawfully possessing a controlled substance could be brought up on internal police department charges and be disciplined, possibly terminated for failing to perform his sworn duty.

red-dotYes, this is a rant about SOME American women of African descent, certainly not all women of African descent are clueless. I know this because I worked with many moms who lived in a community negatively affected by the angry, hateful type of rap artistry creators and performers Taraji dates and adores, the men she purports to her son are quality people who deserve his and her respect.

In my opinion because women like Wendy Williams, Vivica Fox and Taraji Henson, the American women of African descent I worked with and respected for their peacefulness and competence, were forced to work harder at parenting in order to protect their children from the negative influences of the women-hating men these celebrities adulate and admire. Men who promote hate and violence in their art performances.

Then we have an American lawmaker named Vanessa Summers who went on public record informing our world she believes a toddler is mature enough to embrace what she perceives as prejudice or racism. Seriously!

Is Rep. Summers a mom, did not she observe her children’s development, realizing children at that age are incapable of forming these types of opinions?

Of course there are humans with distorted values and poor character in every city, town and village across our nation. However at this time in American history there is clearly a segment of our population that has been conditioned to believe lawlessness is an acceptable way of life.

Sadly each of the humans I named in this writing is contributing to this cluelessness and as a result, many children are being raised and nurtured in environments that will cause me to experience prejudice toward their caregivers for as long as they continue exposing their children to this type of emotional child abuse.

In closing, Wendy is right, Taraji’s boots are pretty cute and so is the rest of her package, though sadly, her exterior is way more appealing to me than the values she embraces in her head, which I hope she gets straightened out.

Hopefully her son gets his head straightened out as well. I have no problem with responsible marijuana users, though messing with prescription drugs can lead a human down a road that often results in many becoming less than human, as Taraji’s friends and lovers attest to in their Rap and Hip-Hop performances she apparently enjoys so much.

**Correction – Read a LA Times article reporting the police did not find the controlled substance Marcel Johnson admitted he possessed at the time he was detained.  Therefore my remarks about the officer possibly disregarding his training are not valid.

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Take Pride In Parenting; End Child Abuse & Neglect; End Community Violence & Police Fear

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”


#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

Why Police Love/Hate American Drug Dealer/Rapper Shawn ‘Jay Z’ Carter

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American Rap Producers Ignoring/Promoting Child Abuse!

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Hello. When I watch and listen to Rap Hip Hop performers produced and promoted by Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969), Marion “Suge” Knight, Jr. (born April 19, 1965) and other Rap Hip Hop record producers, I see and hear men and teens whose depression, frustration and anger are being exploited for profit and fame.

For instance, when I look at the infancy of Dwayne “Lil Wayne” Michael Carter, Jr’s (Born September 27, 1982) rap career and learn he was a child less than a decade old when he became involved in rap performing, I see a man who was a victim of pre-adolescent child abuse at the hands of record producers who used him for their own selfish reasons. At the end of this writing I quote from Lil Wayne’s Wiki page.

I believe teens and young men like Lil Wayne may have fallen victim to modern day slave masters James “Jimmy” Iovine (born March 11, 1953), Anthony “Top Dawg” Tiffith (born; unknown), Sean “Puff Daddy”, “Diddy”, “P. Diddy” John Combs (born November 4, 1969) and Marion “Suge” Knight, Jr. (born April 19, 1965) as well as dozens more Rap and/or Hip-Hop record producers.

The root causes of depression that often leads to aggression and violence are in part related to some/many children’s early up-bringing and care.

In his 2015 Grammy award winning rap performance, “I”, Kendrick Lamar reveals, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

During a January 20, 2011 LAWeekly interview Kendrick, born in 1987, the same year songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy award, he told the interviewer:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

It seems evident to me Kendrick identified the source of his depression, the roots of poverty, the child abuse/maltreatment that prevented him, his brothers, sisters, cousins, neighborhood friends and elementary and JHS classmates from enjoying a fairly happy, safe Average Joe and Josie American kid childhood.

Seems the adults responsible for raising the children in Kendrick’s immediate and extended family placed obstacles in their children’s way, causing their kids to deal with challenges and stresses young minds are not prepared to deal with…nor should they or any other children be exposed to and have to deal with.

After looking over some of the rap lyrics written by Kendrick, I recognize he and I have both tread in similar worlds or communities.

Kendrick doing so as a depressed adolescent, me as a often frustrated uniformed NYC police officer dealing with children suffering from depression. In my experience, depressed children who often resort to committing anti-social harmful acts against their peaceful neighbors.

Reading lyrics to a few of Kendrick’s raps and media interviews, watching a few of his on-air radio interviews, it appears Kendrick is a fairly peaceful man not nearly as depressed, frustrated or openly angry as many other rappers and their followers/supporters I’ve observed on YouTube and in the neighborhoods I served during my more than two decade police career.

I spent some time reading lyrics penned by Rap and Hip-Hop performers produced and promoted by each of the record producers I mentioned.

What I read are juvenile, angry lyrics describing much of the pain, chaos, violence, harm, including physical and emotional trauma I personally witnessed peaceful people experience…harm caused by depressed teens and adults who empathize with these lyrics because they live in communities where they witness some or many caregivers/parents condition their young to accept a life of lawlessness and encourage disrespect for their peaceful neighbors.

Read the lyrics for yourself and consider if these Rap and Hip-Hop record producers promote violence and disrespect as well as exploit young men and teens writing lyrics expressing their pain, frustrations and anger?

Sadly, it seems quite apparent these modern day slave masters would rather cash in on their brother’s depression than seek ways to genuinely help and heal them.

In my opinion, Rap and Hip-Hop record producers often sign angry, violence prone, depressed adults who are/were directly responsible for actively and gleefully contributing to the physical and emotional harm many peaceful people living in urban communities have to contend with on a 24/7 basis.

I am not just talking about the physical violence described in some/many Rap performers lyrics, I am thinking about the emotional trauma that results from the violence I witnessed countless innocent and many not-so-innocent violent and non-violent crime victims of ALL ages experience during the nearly dozen years I provided uniform and investigative police services to a Brooklyn, NY community populated by aspiring or popular Rap and Hip-Hop performers.

I am definitely thinking and writing about the emotional harm caused to peace-minded people living in communities populated by some or many caregivers/parents who embrace negativity while raising and nurturing depressed rap and hip-hop performers.

I fear when my neighbors from all American communities hear violence riddled, female-demeaning lyrics penned by rap or hip-hop ‘artists’ >>>> some or many of our neighbors may/will, rightfully or not, embrace negative stereotypes about some or many of these record producer’s Rap and Hip-Hop artists, their fans who empathize with them and the communities they live in.

History tells us human nature leans toward creating stereotypes. Some or many Americans love stereotypes so much they have made popular, comedians who write material addressing stereotypes, enriching them beyond their wildest dreams for sharing their thoughts.

Sadly, some or many Americans have enriched slave masters like Anthony “Top Dawg” Tiffith, as well as the emotionally depressed teens and men that Anthony has exploited, instead of trying to learn why his brothers are so damn angry that they write lyrics essentially characterizing their moms, sister, grandmas and daughters as bhores and witches.

Does Sean “Puffy” Combs really believe he is helping “the cause” or making “the struggle” easier by promoting ‘music’ that expresses messages of anger and hate, TOTALLY undoing all the good-work immensely talented ‘music artists’ of the civil rights era did by writing beautiful music praising and loving females, music that a broad/large/vast number of Americans and people around our tiny orb embraced and empathized with? Music that many of us still boogie to and enjoy most every day?

When they weren’t peacefully expressing their thoughts about social issues, most all music artists from the ’60s civil rights generation wrote music informing the world, “Look, we are peaceful people, listen to the music we write for all to enjoy. We praise and respect women, as well as all peaceful people.”

As a public school kid growing up during that tumultuous, exciting/disturbing era in American and world history, (I looked forward to periodic bomb shelter training) I listened to very appealing, well produced music shared by talented black music artists while contemporaneously learning about racism.

I was trying to figure out why I was being taught All Men Are Created Equal and all peaceful men have an absolute right to enjoy their vision for Life, Liberty and Happiness, yet there seemed to be a number of freedom loving Americans having a problem with black people who were writing music that made me smile and fought in wars to help preserve our/my freedom. What’s up with them?

It was not making sense until I actually began living life, experiencing and learning of the many human ignorances some of my fellow humans embrace, as well as the human proclivity for being wary of and questioning the character or background of people who are not like them, or from totally different cultures.

As I aged acquiring life experiences, evaluating them for their usefulness, tucking away in my aging sometimes corrupt memory files, I realized the scope of racism, the pain it caused, would most likely take generations for the pain to subside, and a few more generations to heal the wounds caused by human ignorance.

Today in 2015 I believe most Americans realize the ignorance embraced by our predecessors was just that, ignorant.

I also see damaged people like Shawn ‘JayZ’ Carter and his ‘music artists’ struggling to UNDO all the efforts of peace and unity offered by peaceful, well-adjusted, talented music artists from our not-too-distant past.

What really irks me, yesterday’s imaginative and ‘talented music artists’ created beautiful sounds…that some or many of today’s ‘performers’ have totally disrespected by sampling/thieving these beautiful sounds and associating them with today’s hateful, angry lyrics that demean people as well characterize their moms, sister, grandmas and daughters as witches and bhores.

Hard to believe mature, talented, music artists are not up in arms, voicing their disappointment about how their children, grand-kids and great-grand-kids have devalued the messages of peace, love and respect they shared with our world.

Though ‘if’ they are being $paid$ by the youngsters who sample/thieve their musical talent, I can understand why the aging generation remains silent about their music being used to spread anger and hate…I understand because greed is a powerful human trait, just like ignorance and the willingness to embrace negative stereotypes.

Rap and Hip-Hop record producers Jimmy Iovine, Shawn “Jay Z” Carter, Kanye Omari West, Anthony “Top Dawg” Tiffith, Sean “Puffy” Combs and Marion “Suge” Knight should be facing societal charges of perpetuating negative stereotypes that harm peaceful people living in many communities populated by aspiring or popular Rap and Hip-Hop stars, and for failing to assist damaged teens and men who are obviously suffering much emotional pain >>>> instead of exploiting these depressed human beings for profit and notoriety.

Humans are constantly evolving, trying to improve ourselves by learning from our past mistakes, taking steps to correct our mistakes as we progress into our future.

Sadly there are people who cannot let go and move forward, apparently wishing to remain victims of the human ignorance of our past.

Why?

Because men like Shawn “Jay Z” Carter, Kanye Omari West, Jimmy Iovine, Anthony “Top Dawg” Tiffith, Sean “Puffy” Combs and Suge Knight profit and gain notoriety from exploiting and embracing the ignorance of our past.


Wiki: True Story was originally the debut album by American hip hop duo B.G.’z, released on July 29, 1995, by Cash Money. Originally, B.G.’z were a group consisting of Lil Doogie (B.G.), who was 14 years old, and Baby D (Lil Wayne), who was 12. This album was released in 1995…

I am curious how old Lil Wayne was when the album was recorded?

…Due to his age, Wayne’s mother didn’t allow him to record such profane lyrics but he still did, and the name B.G. was given to Doogie. “True Story” and “Fuck Big Boy” are diss tracks towards Mystikal and Big Boy Records, another independent label from New Orleans.[3]

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Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations

Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?

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Emotional Abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community

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Social Activist Sandra Bland

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/07/17/sandra-bland-indirectly-speaks-about-child-abuse-and-neglect-harming-her-quality-of-life-and-community/

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Victims of Child Abuse

This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.

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A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea

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Depraved Indifference for Human Life?

What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.

Unedited Mirror:

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=798_1437634337

red-dotVictims of Child Abuse – Brooklyn, NY:

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

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Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

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Victim of America’s expanding and shameful *National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect,* aka *Poverty*, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood!

#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

Do Some Mothers UNDERSTAND ALL Black Lives Matter?

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Georgia wrote, “NYC cop” – enough said! # black rappers matter

Hello, Georgia. I respectfully disagree, believing ALL lives matter.

Sadly I met people who believe otherwise, raising their children to become potential rappers who express in the performances the child abuse their moms subjected them to.

This is one example of the many tragic human events I witnessed in Brooklyn and other NYC communities. It is also an example of people in a community failing to police themselves by not reporting child abuse, or having the capacity to recognize child abuse when they witness it.

One evening a call for police service brought me to a young mom’s second floor walk-up apartment in a private dwelling, she was reporting the theft of a Boom-Box radio taken from her kitchen window sill by someone trespassing on her building’s fire escape.

Entering this young mom’s apartment I observed several children, some in diapers, a few older, sitting on a living room couch, an aluminum fifty-five gallon, half-filled trash can was sitting right in the middle of her tiny living room, as if it was her coffee table. One of her living room walls was smeared with several dark stains of what I believed to be human waste.

I calmly recorded her theft complaint and left, immediately reporting my observations to my sergeant who instructed me to contact child welfare. Forty-five minutes later the children were removed from this mom’s care, temporarily placed in the custody and care of the people of New York City.

Sadly, this was not my only interaction with this mom.

Months later I arrested her younger brother for robbery. According to the victims and one witness to this act of violence who recognized her brother from the neighborhood, he placed what appeared to be a handgun in the face of two victims and threatened their lives while demanding and taking their property.

Until she arrived at the precinct to protest her brother’s arrest, I had no idea my young prisoner was related to the mom whose maltreated children I caused to be taken from her months earlier. At the top of her lungs, much like Michael Brown’s father when he was recorded reacting to the perceived injustice to his family member, she adamantly insisted her brother was not a robber.

I showed her the gun I recovered from her brother’s pocket, I told her one witness knows her brother from the neighborhood, still not convinced she came very close to being arrested for becoming disorderly and refusing to leave the precinct station house once her business was done. Later I learned that she appeared in court when her younger brother was arrested months earlier for an unrelated robbery.

What was the point of lying about her brother not being a street thug, when there are public records indicating she knew he was committing acts of violence toward people months before she looked me in the eye and vehemently denied her brother is a robber?

I believe I know the answer to my own question. Again, I have no formal training in understanding why people tend to act the way they do, however based on my life experiences I believe Boom-Box mom lied to me without a care or second thought because she was raised to believe lying and denial is how people cope with uncomfortable situations..or..she never acquired and developed the critical thinking skills required to look past living in the moment, or the “here and now’.

Time and time again I interviewed adults and teens who lied to me about easily verifiable facts, often placing themselves at risk for being arrested for obstructing or impeding criminal investigations. Is this something most people with average critical thinking skills would do?

After every day or night’s work I had a 30-40 minute commute home, which gave me time to reflect on the day’s events, how I responded to them, and what I learned from them. Many nights I would drive home with a smile on my face, thinking to myself, “Holy smokes, I can’t believe I get paid to have this much fun identifying and locking up dangerous people.”

During many of these winding-down, reflective moments I would actually experience a euphoric feeling of being “high on life.” For me, at that time in my career, chasing down seriously dangerous bad people who illegally armed themselves with firearms for the purpose of committing mayhem on a mostly peaceful population of working class and poor fellow Americans was the ultimate high, as well as a fringe benefit of police work.

In many cases after taking an alleged dangerous person into custody, I had the opportunity to speak with them and gain ‘some’ insight into what makes them tick. I have no formal training in psychology, however, after meeting and talking with many people who are alleged to have committed crimes in this community, I personally concluded many of the people I arrested were raised and nurtured in environments that lacked real love, understanding, caring and guidance.

Driving home after my first interaction with the aforementioned Boom-Box mom, I thought about her values, her understanding of what is expected of the people who nurture our children, her consideration for laws that society imposes on all people who assume the serious responsibility of rearing children.

I concluded Boom-Box mom was “clueless,” lacking good judgment and skills in all areas required for her to be a good nurturer.

I asked myself, “What is going on in the mind of a mother who invites a law enforcement official into her home, in which she has created a environment for her children that posed a serious risk to their physical well being and health, as well as their psychological development?”

“Does she not realize what she is doing to her children or how her clueless behavior can imprint and affect them for life?”

“Before calling the police did Boom-Box mom not realize society enacted laws protecting her children from the physically harmful and emotionally abusive home she created for them?”

I have to believe Boom-Box mom’s method for parenting is a learned behavior, instilled either during her own upbringing or gleaned from the people she is friends or associates with. Which leaves me wondering if Boom-Box mom ever invited friends or guests to her apartment, and if she did, why didn’t they report the apparent maltreatment and emotional abuse she was exposing her helpless children to?

I am not trying to be harsh by characterizing Boom-Box mom as totally “clueless.” I believe she is a victim of a society accepted cycle of dysfunctional family and community environments…from birth, it appears Boom-Box mom was not shown what a loving environment is made of, it’s difficult for me to be mad at people who are victimized by the recurring cycle, and it certainly makes me better understand why so much rage, anger and frustration exists in the hearts and minds of young “black people” who are raised in these environments.

If I was being raised in the cycle of poverty by a “clueless” parent, as I mature, learning more about the world and witnessing how others are having fun, prospering, loving their families and lives, more than likely over time I’d be real upset, simmering, maybe even rage as I aged and my home environment does not improve.

I think about Boom-Box mom’s children and what they have to look forward to, what skills does she offer her children…what goes through her baby’s minds as they gather around the trash can mom placed in the middle of their living room, day after day watching television depicting the good lives Americans of all backgrounds are enjoying?

What really saddens me……is knowing, based on my experiences, that Boom-Box mom’s “clueless” mindset is replicated by mom’s and parents throughout this community. It saddens and angers me that little kids are in many cases, doomed from the start, or before they are conceived.

When I look back at the environment my parents created for me and how I responded to that environment, I realize my goals were to please my parents by respecting and appreciating what they were doing for me. And most importantly doing my best not to disappoint them because they loved me and made sure I knew it by actively being involved in my life, and aiding me in shaping my life as I developed into a peaceful person who felt loved and cared for.

Two immutable rules in our household were impressed upon me at a young age, “Always be truthful” and “Before judging, wear the other person’s shoes.” Thinking back mom and dad never used the word “empathy” when admonishing me for not thinking before I shot my mouth off, they always said “wear the other person’s shoes.”

I am thinking if my mom and dad placed a trash can in our living room, ignored feces smeared on our walls, got sis and I removed from their custody because they were not providing basic care for me and sis…I am thinking I’d be a pretty messed up kid incapable of embracing the concept of empathy, or purposefully not showing empathy for others because my life sucks and I don’t care about others.

Or perhaps I’d use my intentional lack of empathy as a means to peeve or ‘get-back’ at my parents by engaging in anti-social behaviors that would eventually get me arrested, causing my parents to recognize that I exist, or depending on their views of the police, causing them to interact with authority people they may not necessarily like or trust, thus peeving them.

As I wrote, my experiences occurred years ago.

Recently I looked at current crime stats for this community and learned there has been a significant decrease in reported crimes, though there is still a good amount of violent crimes being committed.

If society continues failing to monitor caregivers who require public funds to raise, nurture and support their children, these kids will continue to be raised in environments like the one Boom-Box mom created for her kids.

I am hoping when camera technology proves its mettle in protecting police officers, as well as identifying officers who require further training or officers who have no business serving the public in a LE capacity, we will use that same technology to protect children by monitoring the common area of homes in which caregivers have established a track record for failing to properly raise, nurture and/or supervise their children. Especially in communities with higher crime rates where kids are more often exposed to some/many neighbors with a mindset for lawlessness.

Recently I watched a video that saddened me as well as enlightened me when I learned child welfare investigators test the hair of child abuse victims for “ambient” exposure to drugs. Holy smokes, the numbers were critical. At the least cameras would expose signs of intoxication in homes identified as requiring extra care to prevent children from being emotionally and or physically harmed.

#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

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Kanye West; A Modern Day Slave Master Exploiting Damaged People

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Two Men Profiting From Perpetuating Poverty, Racism & Racial Prejudice
Two Men Profiting From Perpetuating Poverty, Racism & Racial Prejudice

http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/kendall-kylie-booed-kanye-bleeped-out-at-billboard-music-awards-2015185

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Kanye’s much anticipated performance of “All Day”

I must be getting old or not keeping up with our evolving culture.

Looking at the lyrics Kanye’s penned for his “All Day” rap performance I am reading juvenile put-downs of people less fortunate than him, characterizations of women as less than human *itches, demeaning references to other people’s complexions and words about people being popped? Popped, that’s murder, isn’t it?

Perhaps it is me and the biases I’ve embraced since witnessing the pain and suffering Kanye’s best buddy and business associate Shawn JayZ Carter caused to peaceful people living a Brooklyn housing project and surrounding neighborhoods.

Shawn JayZ Carter was a poor inner city kid and victim of child abuse/neglect who developed into a emotionally damaged adult who continues to promote child abuse and exploit the victims of child abuse.

Jay “Young Jeezy” Wayne Jenkins (born September 28, 1977) is one of the damaged human beings Shawn Carter exploits for profit and fame.

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Kanye was a suburban kid who grew up in a mainstream American, developing into a puppet-master who exploits kids who were victims of child abuse and developed into emotionally damaged adults.

Dwayne “Lil Wayne” Michael Carter, Jr. (Born September 27, 1982) is the perfect example of a damaged human being who Kanye West collaborates with, exploiting Dwayne for profit and fame.

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Dwayne “Lil Wayne” Michael Carter, Jr. (Born September 27, 1982)

Check out the lyrics to “True Story,” a rap Dwayne Carter recorded when he was still a preteen.

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For the record, I was a Brooklyn cop who personally witnessed the fear, emotional and physical damage Shawn JayZ Carter raps about causing to peaceful people living the Marcy Houses or living and working in the surrounding neighborhoods.

I witnessed teen children become hooked on the Crack JayZ raps about selling to his neighbors, and subsequently harming their peaceful neighbors to acquire the funds needed to purchase the drugs JayZ proudly reveals he sold to people in his struggling community.

I find it extremely sad that Shawn JayZ Carter has become a popular celebrity when his past if filled with causing pain to thousands of poor and struggling Americans…of course, puppet and modern day slave master Kanye West is no better for aligning himself with JayZ, a self-proclaimed American Drug Dealer who would have had no problem selling his dangerous drugs to Tupac Skakur’s substance addicted mom..

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Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations

Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?

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Emotional Abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community

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Social Activist Sandra Bland

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/07/17/sandra-bland-indirectly-speaks-about-child-abuse-and-neglect-harming-her-quality-of-life-and-community/

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Victims of Child Abuse

This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.

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A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea

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Depraved Indifference for Human Life?

What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.

Unedited Mirror:

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=798_1437634337

red-dotVictims of Child Abuse – Brooklyn, NY:

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

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Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

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Victim of America’s expanding and shameful *National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect,* aka *Poverty*, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood!

#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

 

Video – American College Student Torn Between ‘Black & White’ Worlds?

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Hello. The suburb where I live forces customers who hire cabs to share them with other passengers.

One afternoon I get off a commuter train, go the taxi office where I am told what car to enter. I get into the cab’s back seat, noticing a young dark complected woman is sitting in the front seat. The young woman turns, smiles, says “Hello” and informs me the cabby will be right back, before returning to reading the magazine on her lap. Her casual manner gave me the impression this ride is a regular part of her world.

A few minutes later our driver shows up with two other passengers who cram themselves into the back seat, with me stuck in the middle, sitting on the transmission hump.

As we are leaving the station the young woman takes out her phone and makes a call, apparently leaving a message for a person who ran a ad offering an apartment for rent. Listening to her speak as she left this message it was apparent she was articulate and paid attention during English class. I like people who offer a friendly smile and are not wary about speaking to strangers, so silently I wished her luck in getting her new digs.

After leaving the message she made another call, however, this call was remarkably different in that the diction and tone she used during the first call had disappeared, replaced with a diction and tone that I immediately recognized as being widely used in the mostly poor NYC community I served as a police officer for over a decade of my adult life.

Apparently she called her mom, advising mom she left a message for a prospective landlord. They spoke for a minute or two before hanging up and she returned to reading her magazine.

Me, I’m a friendly chap, I like talking to people I don’t know. Most often it amounts to nothing more than idle chat, on a few occasions it worked in my favor by meeting someone who has a service or product that I might be interested in, or an interesting life experience to share.

For instance, one afternoon I am waiting for the deli man to complete my order when a man about my age comes to the counter and places an order. When he is done I look at him with a straight face and say, “So, you’re one of those people?”

His expression turns to puzzled, perhaps even a bit annoyed as he asks, “What kind of people?”

Now I smile replying, “You know, one of those people mom and dad raised to be a “Please and Thank you” person.

His expression immediately changes, now both of us are smiling. We begin to chat, he mentions he owns a computer repair business down the block, hands me his business card telling to stop by if I need some work done, he’ll hook me up.

Because of a silly little remark to a stranger, not only did I make a business contact, I made someone smile. Not a big deal in the scheme of things, but I like seeing people smile so this brief human interaction added to one of the many “little” positive experiences I had in my life.

As our cab was heading for the college the young woman apparently attended, I asked myself if I should inquire about her phone conversations because I was interested in learning why she spoke near perfect English during her first phone call and spoke in another dialect during the call to her mom.

After considering we already shared a smile and some pleasantries, I decided to ask, because I was real curious about her two apparent personalities.

“Miss, do you mind if I ask a questions?”

She turns to face me and replies, “Sure, what’s on your mind?”

“During your first call you spoke perfect English, yet when you were speaking with your mom you spoke in a totally different fashion? What’s up with that?”

She breaks out into a big toothy grin replying, “Sometimes you just got to know when to switch it up.”

I replied, “Cool, thanks.”

After she was dropped in front of her dormitory and we were driving away headed to the next destination, one of the other passengers said, “Do you believe that?”

He seemed somewhat annoyed and I was not about to fuel a potential fire so I replied, “Yeah, I guess that’s just the way some people are.”

Though I was thinking to myself, “Wow, I could not imagine going through life juggling multiple personalities depending on the people I was associating at the moment.”

I have no training for knowing why people are they way they are, though it seemed fairly evident to me that some people are going through life confused, being dishonest with themselves, deceiving others about who they are because they have not figured out who they are, or because they believe they have to morph their personality to fit in with whomever they are interacting with at the time.

I asked myself, why would this young college educated women not speak to her mother as if she is a college educated person?

Did she feel her mom would think less of her if she spoke proper English during their conversations?

What would her mom think if she heard the message her daughter left for the prospective landlord?

Would mom approve or be disappointed hearing her daughter speaking to one person in one dialect and addressing her mother in a totally different dialect?

What began as a short cab ride with strangers, ended with me asking questions I will never know the answer to.

Hopefully this young woman found her first apartment and will someday nurture children who grow up speaking one language, the language that a majority of Americans use to grow and prosper.

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http://www.kidsmatterinc.org/for-families/abuse-and-neglect-resources/emotional-abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Is FLOTUS Ignoring Child Abuse?

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US First Lady Michelle Obama, “I guarantee you that right now, there are kids living less than a mile from here who would never in a million years dream that they would be welcome in this museum.”

Based on my experiences providing police services to a Brooklyn, NY Rap Hip Hop influenced community, I will guarantee Mrs. Obama there are hundreds of children living within 5 miles of the Whitney Museum who were irresponsibly introduced to a life by immature caregivers who fail to properly nurture and raise their children to be peaceful people.

In other words there are hundreds of victims of child abuse ‘existing’ within a few miles of where my president’s wife is speaking.

At this moment the focus should be on preventing this child abuse so children don’t grow up like Tupac Shakur and Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar, writing rap lyrics describing the child abuse/neglect they suffered or rapping about harming their peaceful neighbors in order to survive.

In his 2015 Grammy award winning Rap Performance titled “I”, Kendrick Lamar writes, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

Quoting a January 2011 LAWeekly interview with Kendrick:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 siblings, and they all got six kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

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Prejudice, Racism & Human Ignorance

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Seems to me a compassionate, empathetic, well educated person might recognize our history of human ignorances for what they are/were…ignorance.

Wouldn’t it be really cool if some/many Americans and other free people were willing to recognize and accept that mankind, aka the human species, is constantly evolving, learning from our ignorance and taking affirmative steps to correct the ignorances some or many humans embrace?

Sadly, slavery and racism are human ignorances that many humans once embraced and encouraged.

Sadly, today there are Americans who obviously prefer to focus on the ignorance/mistakes of our human past, causing continued resentment, pain and mistrust, and in my opinion placing obstacles for healing now and in our future.

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In part, Leona wrote, “Odd, again- that you claim black females are so angry, inarticulate and abusive…”

Leona, are you suggesting after all I have written and you have read, that I believe ALL women of color are damaged people?

Leona, I am trying to think of a more appropriate title for this human interaction I had a few years ago? Perhaps you have an idea for a more appropriate title?

Currently I titled this writing, “Is This “Cultural Abandonment” or A Person Torn Between Two Identities?”

One afternoon I get off a commuter train, go the taxi office where I am told what car to enter. I get into the cab’s back seat, noticing a young dark complected woman is sitting in the front seat. The young woman turns, smiles, says “Hello” and informs me the cabby will be right back, before returning to reading the magazine on her lap. Her casual manner gave me the impression this ride is a regular part of her world.

A few minutes later our driver shows up with two other passengers who cram themselves into the back seat, with me stuck in the middle, sitting on the transmission hump.

As we are leaving the station the young woman takes out her phone and makes a call, apparently leaving a message for a person who ran a ad offering an apartment for rent. Listening to her speak as she left this message it was apparent she was articulate and paid attention during English class. I like people who offer a friendly smile and are not wary about speaking to strangers, so silently I wished her luck in getting her new digs.

After leaving the message she made another call, however, this call was remarkably different in that the diction and tone she used during the first call had disappeared, replaced with a diction and tone that I immediately recognized as being widely used in the mostly poor NYC community I served as a police officer for over a decade of my adult life.

Apparently she called her mom, advising mom she left a message for a prospective landlord. They spoke for a minute or two before hanging up and she returned to reading her magazine.

Me, I’m a friendly chap, I like talking to people I don’t know. Most often it amounts to nothing more than idle chat, on a few occasions it worked in my favor by meeting someone who has a service or product that I might be interested in, or an interesting life experience to share.

For instance, one afternoon I am waiting for the deli man to complete my order when a man about my age comes to the counter and places an order. When he is done I look at him with a straight face and say, “So, you’re one of those people?”

His expression turns to puzzled, perhaps even a bit annoyed as he asks, “What kind of people?”

Now I smile replying, “You know, one of those people mom and dad raised to be a “Please and Thank you” person.

His expression immediately changes, now both of us are smiling. We begin to chat, he mentions he owns a computer repair business down the block, hands me his business card telling to stop by if I need some work done, he’ll hook me up.

Because of a silly little remark to a stranger, not only did I make a business contact, I made someone smile. Not a big deal in the scheme of things, but I like seeing people smile so this brief human interaction added to one of the many “little” positive experiences I had in my life.

As our cab was heading for the college the young woman apparently attended, I asked myself if I should inquire about her phone conversations because I was interested in learning why she spoke near perfect English during her first phone call and spoke in another dialect during the call to her mom.

After considering we already shared a smile and some pleasantries, I decided to ask, because I was real curious about her two apparent personalities.

“Miss, do you mind if I ask a questions?”

She turns to face me and replies, “Sure, what’s on your mind?”

“During your first call you spoke perfect English, yet when you were speaking with your mom you spoke in a totally different fashion? What’s up with that?”

She breaks out into a big toothy grin replying, “Sometimes you just got to know when to switch it up.”

I replied, “Cool, thanks.”

After she was dropped in front of her dormitory and we were driving away headed to the next destination, one of the other passengers said, “Do you believe that?”

He seemed somewhat annoyed and I was not about to fuel a potential fire so I replied, “Yeah, I guess that’s just the way some people are.”

Though I was thinking to myself, “Wow, I could not imagine going through life juggling multiple personalities depending on the people I was associating at the moment.”

I have no training for knowing why people are they way they are, though it seemed fairly evident to me that some people are going through life confused, being dishonest with themselves, deceiving others about who they are because they have not figured out who they are, or because they believe they have to morph their personality to fit in with whomever they are interacting with at the time.

I asked myself, why would this young college educated women not speak to her mother as if she is a college educated person?

Did she feel her mom would think less of her if she spoke proper English during their conversations?

What would her mom think if she heard the message her daughter left for the prospective landlord?

Would mom approve or be disappointed hearing her daughter speaking to one person in one dialect and addressing her mother in a totally different dialect?

What began as a short cab ride with strangers, ended with me asking questions I will never know the answer to.

Hopefully this young woman found her first apartment and will someday nurture children who grow up speaking one language, the language that a majority of Americans use to grow and prosper.

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Leona correctly observed, “The history of New York, Brooklyn, Harlem,Newark’s black community is not a pretty one.”

Leona, I appreciate our past, the pain human ignorance has caused black people, and other people who over the past centuries were harmed by ignorant human religious beliefs.

However, I choose to look to the future with a desire to heal my fellow humans affected by human ignorance. Healing can only begin once a problem has been identified and appropriately addressed.

Leona, our life experiences shape our opinions, values, and character, which we put on display when commenting on the Web.

You choose to look to the past, pointing to injustice of human ignorance, I choose to look to the future for healing.

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With all due respect, in the American Society I was raised in during the 1960s, a father was a man who fell in love with a woman, who fell in love with the man she fancied.

This man and woman made a social and legal commitment to one another before they began building their family, born from love and their commitment to one another.

“Where Is The Love?”

Arrested mutiple times in two years? This depressed 14-yr-old child is a victim of child abuse/neglect.

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I like Doc Carson, agreeing with many of the thoughts he’s shared in public, admiring his life’s many accomplishments, especially his determination early in life that lead to his successes.

Though after making comments about gay people I did some looking into Dr. Carson’s background and I’m glad I did.

I gotta learn to investigate before shooting my mouth off…at my age I should have learned this lesson by now.

Great man with many admirable accomplishments beginning early in life, though after learning he supports creationist cults I realized his comments about gays people were not guffaws.

In my opinion Dr. Carson was protecting his god, believing his perfect god could not create gay people.

I believe Mother Nature imbues most humans with opposite sex attractions, but who is to say Mother Nature did not also create people who are attracted to their gender?

I learned early in life our brains are not wired or develop in exactly the same manner, when the girl seated in front of me in Algebra class correctly computed and solved equations in her head while I was muddled down with pencil and paper, and still not finding the correct answer.

Obviously she and I were wired differently. Today this difference between us, the manner in which our brains were wired or developed, leads me to believe that embracing same sex attractions is very natural for some people.

When CNN questioned him about his ‘Americans resemble Nazis’ statement, after he wrote and published a book a titled ‘America the Beautiful: Rediscovering What Made This Nation Great’, Dr. Carson, imo, dodged the question.

The first time I listened to Doc Carson I instantly admired his tone and attitude.

Though after learning of his comments about my peaceful gay neighbors and friends I learned his mind is clouded by a sickness attributed to religious beliefs that deny respect to peaceful people and more importantly, disregard America’s basic beliefs that All Men Are Created Equal and have a right to peacefully pursue their vision for Life, Liberty and Happiness.

I tend do dismiss/reject potential candidates who in my opinion are hypocritical and embrace anti-American beliefs.

I’m not casting Dr. Carson aside just yet, I know all his competitors are believers or feign belief in a supernatural being. Just have to figure out which is least affected by their beliefs in the supernatural.

There are thousands of abandon, depressed, neglected, unloved children/developing human beings living/existing in our country.

I seriously doubt foster children looking for love, safety and consistency in their lives really care if the people willing to adopt, raise and nurture them are gay or hetero.

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Victims of Child Abuse:

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”


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