Good Canadian Kid wrote, “I agree with all of your points, the main problem I have is the forum you’re bring it up in. The discussion is about police abuse and the police murder of Freddie Gray. Freddie Gray may not have been an upstanding paragon of virtue, but he didn’t deserve to be executed by a gang of vigilantes with badges.”
“Bringing up the issue of “Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect in African American* communities” only works to deflect attention away from the issue at hand and to justify the actions of the violent murderous thug cops.”
“I don’t believe it’s your intent, but your post is in effect saying, “it’s Freddie’s fault for being a street-thug”.
Being frank, Freddie was a street thug. The question is why did Freddie mature into a depressed man using and selling drugs to his neighbors?
I’ve read the family and their civil lawyers wish to blame Freddie’s anti-social behaviors on lead paint chips he ingested as a child.
While this could be possible it does not explain why Tupac, Kendrick, Dwayne Carter speak about depression, suicide and engaging in anti-social behaviors that harm themselves as well as their peaceful neighbors.
Tupac reveals his mom was a drug addict. Kendrick reveals he was a six-year-old child witnessing his parents “living wild” and other family relatives selling drugs to their neighbors while using shotguns to protect and enforce their drug operation.
IMO, Freddie Gray, Tupac Shakur and Kendrick Lamar were all victims of Early Childhood Abuse at the hands of irresponsible adults who made poor choices for their children. Choices that caused their children to mature into depressed teens and men lacking or choosing not to embrace empathy because their lives suck so why shouldn’t their peaceful neighbor’s lives suck too!
In relation to a lead paint civil suit, Darden was questioned about her education, parenting and drug use in an April 2009 deposition,
She said she had never been to high school, and when asked if she had been told to leave middle school, responded, “Yeah, something like that.” She also said she couldn’t read, which hampered her ability to help Freddie and his siblings.
Darden said she helped her son learn to count, but “that’s it, you know. I can’t teach him nothing else. … I can’t help him with nothing else but raise him.”
Under questioning, she said she began “sniffing” heroin when she was 23, according to the deposition transcript. She said she had used it perhaps once a day but then entered treatment.
GCK, Looking at Freddie’s upbringing it is clear to me he was doomed to live a life fraught with emotional issues that prevented him from maturing into a fairly well adjusted teen and adult.
Perhaps you or others wish to fault the system for Freddie’s demise, though I choose to point a finger directly at his PRIMARY caregiver. Why? Because I was raised by fairly responsible caretakers who pounded into my young mind the concept of personal accountability embraced by the overwhelming majority of Americans.
I understand Freddie’s mom was most likely raised by caregiver(s) who introduced her to a life of pain and hardships, resulting with Freddie and his sisters being introduced to a life of pain and hardships.
The question is how many generations of dysfunction and child abuse must children endure before society takes action to stop the generational cycle of Child Abuse and Neglect that deprives kids like Freddie, Tupac, Kendrick and Shawn Carter from experiencing a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood?
GCK, during the twelve years I provided police services to a struggling Brooklyn, NY community I met hundreds of peaceful people who were just as shaken, upset and deeply disturbed as I was by the daily displays of violence and other anti-social activities mostly caused by depressed, sometimes suicidal (NY Times May 18, 2015 – Rise in Suicide by Black Children Surprises Researchers) teens and adults who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect.
I was lucky, at the end of my workday I could leave the community, returning to a more peaceful residential community where concerns for me and my family’s safety were significantly lower.
However, virtually all of my civilian co-workers, mostly loving, competent moms living in this community were not as fortunate. They were burdened with stresses and challenges my parents did not face to any significant degree.
The added stresses and challenges my peaceful co-workers faced was preventing their children from being negatively influenced by abused, neglected, unsupervised children being raised and nurtured by immature, “living wild” teen moms and young women who irresponsibly begin building families before they acquired the skills, maturity, PATIENCE and means to independently provide for their family of developing children.
GCK, my civilian co-workers believed in personal accountability, raising their children in a responsible manner consistent with the peaceful values embraced by a overwhelming majority of American people.
With this said, I understand we are all different, each of us an individual born with varying tolerances and internal mechanisms for coping with emotional trauma and physical pain.
Some people have the mental fortitude to overcome challenges and obstacles they were forced to deal with as children, while other people’s minds are unable to cope with the human dysfunction and abusive childhood they were nurtured in, often causing them to mature into frustrated, angry, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults who don’t give a hoot about anyone’s lives, including their own.
GCK, these angry, frustrated, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal people are the depressed people society requires police to deal with.
Now, picture yourself as a police officer raised and nurtured in a mostly peaceful community where concerns for your personal safety were rarely an issue. During the first two decades of life you were slowly conditioned to believe most all of your neighbors were peaceful, law abiding people who respected their neighbor’s right to live a peaceful life.
Then picture yourself being assigned to police a community where most people are peaceful, though there is a significant population of “living wild” (Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar’s characterization of his parent’s lifestyle) indoctrinating or conditioning their young developing children to accept or embrace a “living wild” lifestyle.
GCK, as far as I am concerned parental figures embracing a “living wild” lifestyle are essentially embracing a lifestyle that exposes their developing children to a life of “Child Abuse and Neglect”.
Much like some people possess minds that are unable to cope with the trauma of an abusive childhood, there are police officers whose minds are unable to cope with witnessing mayhem and human depravity on a daily basis.
Each officer is unique, many can tolerate and deal with the human dysfunction they witness on a daily basis.
However, I believe some cop’s minds are unable to cope with constantly witnessing anti-social, life harming acts committed by depressed, angry, sometimes suicidal people who lack empathy and respect for their peaceful neighbors, mostly due to them being victims of horrific parenting, much like Freddie Gray.
GCk, when the NYPD assigned me to the community Shawn Jay Z Carter raps about attempting to destroy with his 24/7 drug trade and the semi-automatic Mack Milli he raps about using to intimidate and cause fear to his peaceful neighbors, I was required to serve this community for two years before the department would consider honoring a request for transfer.
I lasted twelve years serving this community, on a daily basis investigating shootings and robberies, and homicides on a weekly basis before I realized witnessing all this human dysfunction was taking a toll on my emotional well being, causing me anxiety and fear for my personal safety.
After twelve years of serving this community, which I came to view as my second home because I spent so much time there, I decided it was time to leave before my mind went totally bonkers.
GCK, I recognized I was emotionally burnt, I felt the empathy and compassion I embraced for much of my life slowly fading, causing me to become a different person, a jaded, angry person who I did not admire.
For my own emotional well being I requested a transfer to a more stable community where I did not have to deal with depressed, sometimes suicidal teens and adults on a daily basis.
Sadly, not all cops recognize their tolerances or limitations for dealing with the pain of others.
GCK, I will never makes excuses for people, sworn or otherwise, who violate the lawful rights of any of my American neighbors.
However, I do write about issues and social conditions such as Childhood Abuse and Neglect that I believe is the primary factor responsible for causing some police officers to act outside the scope of their employment or disregard their training and our laws.
GCK, I disdain the Police Wall of Silence that often protects police from being held accountable for their actions, just as much as I hold contempt for the Community Wall of Silence that often permits depressed, criminally conditioned people to continue victimizing their peaceful neighbors.
Both impeded or derailed police investigations designed to help peaceful people experience and enjoy a peaceful community with Safe Streets for children to travel and play on.
Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations
Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?
Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community
Victims of Child Abuse
This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.
A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea
What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.
Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect
Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.
Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.
Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.
Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.
In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.
Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.
“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway”