Obama compares Republicans to Grumpy Cat – CNNPolitics.com

via Obama compares Republicans to Grumpy Cat – CNNPolitics.com.

Mr. Barack Obama
Mr. Barack Obama – President of The United States of America

I ride around my suburban community spying FOR RENT signs all over the place, signs that less than a decade ago were not there.

To top it off, a liquor store in my community actually closed for good, after thirty years and two owners.

What I’d like to know, who believes everything is great when mega-popular American music performers for the last few decades have been characterizing the MATERNAL HALF of our population as *itches and *hores, less than human creatures and people unworthy of respect?

You bet I have a gloomy face when I see very few Americans with voices, including my president, directly addressing in plain English the serious issue of America’s expanding and shameful National Epidemic of Childhood Abuse and Neglect, Poverty, that for more than two generations has deprived untold numbers of American kids from experiencing and enjoying a fairly happy American kid childhood with Safe Streets to travel and play on.

Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect that often leads depressed, sometimes suicidal (NY Times May 18, 2015 – Rise in Suicide by Black Children Surprises Researchers) children to develop into depressed, angry, frustrated, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults lacking empathy and compassion for others, though needing to vent their pent up negative emotions, often causing emotional and physical harm to peaceful people…instead of venting their anger, resentment and pain on the immature single moms and/or dads who introduced them to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsibly building a family before acquiring the practical skills, PATIENCE and means to successfully raise and nurture a developing young child who matures into a fairly happy responsible teen and adult.

 

 

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Emotional Abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community

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Social Activist Sandra Bland

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/07/17/sandra-bland-indirectly-speaks-about-child-abuse-and-neglect-harming-her-quality-of-life-and-community/

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Victims of Child Abuse

This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.

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A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea

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Depraved Indifference for Human Life?

What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.

red-dotVictims of Child Abuse – Brooklyn, NY:

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

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Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

Victim of America's expanding and shameful *National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect,* aka *Poverty*, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood!
Victim of America’s expanding and shameful *National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect,* aka *Poverty*, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood!


#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

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Rhymefest: Chief Keef’s Being Exploited Because He’s Autistic

“I think many rappers these days have afflictions, such as Asperger’s, bipolar disorder, or autism. They need advocates, but we turn it into entertainment.

via Rhymefest: Chief Keef’s Being Exploited Because He’s Autistic.

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Keith “Chief Keef” Cozart (born August 15, 1995)
Cheland “Rhymefest” Smith (born July 6, 1977)

Rhymefest shared, “I think many rappers these days have afflictions, such as Asperger’s, bipolar disorder, or autism.”

Let’s be honest, a good number of American rap artists like Kendrick Lamar, Tupac Shakur, Shawn Jay Z Carter, Dwayne Lil Wayne Carter, and untold numbers of American children of African descent were/are victims of America’s expanding and shameful National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect, aka Poverty, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood.

Child Abuse and Neglect that often causes depressed children to mature into depressed, angry, frustrated, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal (NY Times May 18, 2015 – Rise in Suicide by Black Children Surprises Researchers) teens and adults lacking empathy and compassion for our/their peaceful neighbors.child abuse and neglect.

Just keepin’ it real!

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Victims of Child Abuse:

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

knutesniche.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/shawn-jayz-carter-brooklyns-finest.png

In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”


#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

Black Lives Matter; Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence & Police Fear

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Black Lives Matter; Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Police Fear & Community Violence

Speaking At The Eulogy For The Honorable Reverend Clementa Pinckney, President Barack Obama said:

“Perhaps it causes us to examine what we’re doing to cause some of our children to hate.” (Applause.)

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With all due respect to my American neighbors supporting the Black Lives Matter movement, I believe your cause would better serve all Americans if your organization were to honestly, openly and compassionately address the National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect that for decades has deprived untold numbers of depressed children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood.

I strongly suggest members of the Black Lives Matter target communities that have embraced The Street Culture Baltimore Mom of The Year Toya Graham desperately struggles to keep her son from embracing.

In his 2015 Grammy award winning Rap Performance titled “I”, Kendrick Lamar writes, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

During a January 20, 2011 LAWeekly interview (Google search) Kendrick, born in 1987, the same year songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy award, he told the interviewer:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

It seems evident to me Kendrick identified the source of his depression, the roots of poverty, the child abuse/maltreatment that prevented him, his brothers, sisters, cousins, neighborhood friends, elementary and JHS classmates from enjoying a fairly happy, safe Average Joe and Josie American kid childhood.

Seems the adults responsible for raising the children in Kendrick’s immediate and extended family placed obstacles in their children’s way, causing their kids to deal with challenges and stresses young minds are not prepared to deal with….nor should they or any other children be exposed to and have to deal with.

It seems evident to me these PARENTAL INTRODUCED obstacles and challenges cause some developing children’s minds to become tormented and go haywire, not knowing OR NOT CARING ABOUT right from wrong…because as they mature, young victims of child abuse realize their parents introduced them to a life of pain and struggle, totally unlike the mostly safe, happy life the media showed them many American kids were enjoying. RESENTMENT

I cannot speak for anyone else, but if I was raised in Kendrick’s family I would most likely be silently peeved at my parents for being immature irresponsible “living wild” adults who deprived me of a safe, happy childhood.

Though like many victims of child abuse, most likely I would deny my parents harmed me, seeking to blame others for the pain my parents caused to me.

I wonder how little Kendrick and his classmates reacted when their elementary school teacher introduced the DARE presenter and they learned about the real dangers of drugs and how they harm people, including their parents?

In a Oct 25, 2012, LAWeekly interview (Google search) Kendrick talks about being a SIX-YEAR-OLD child who was not able to trust and rely on his mom…essentially he speaks about being emotionally abandon by his own mom.

Growing up during the 60-70s I listened to virtually ALL American music artists of African descent writing songs admiring, praising, respecting and loving the maternal half of our population.

I am curious to know if members and supporters of the Black Lives Matter movement have wondered why for the past three decades, many popular American music performers of African descent have been characterizing the maternal half of our population as *itches and *hores…essentially less than human creatures or people not worthy of respect?

Honestly, I have a feeling most BLM supporters don’t have the strength or will to face the truth about who is responsible for filling our prisons with depressed, angry, frustrated teens and young men who were victims of early childhood abuse and neglect at the hands of immature teen girls and women who irresponsibly begin building families before acquiring the skills, PATIENCE and means to properly raise a fairly happy American kid who enjoys a Safe Fun Street to play in.

This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.

With all due respect to my American neighbors of African descent, the oppression of humans that led to racism and slavery has been largely replaced with a new form of human oppression that impedes and deprives many American children from experiencing a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood.

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Restore Pride In Parenting; End Child Abuse & Neglect

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Victims of Child Abuse:

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

knutesniche.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/shawn-jayz-carter-brooklyns-finest.png

In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

#RestorePrideInParenting #EndChildAbuseNeglect

Teen mom with dead baby in shopping bag charged with murder – NY Daily News

Restore Pride In Parenting; End Child Abuse & Neglect

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via Teen mom with dead baby in shopping bag charged with murder – NY Daily News.

Tiona Rodriguez, 18, “carried out the murder of her newborn infant and then callously shoved him in a bag with the plan of — in her words — to ‘take this s— and dig a hole, put it somewhere, lol, then we go eat IHOP,’” prosecutor Rachel Ferrari said. She was quoting a text message Rodriguez sent at the teen’s arraignment on a second-degree murder charge.

“The defendant took a break from that plan in order to stop in to Victoria’s Secret here in Manhattan and steal, shoving clothes into the same bag that carried her dead son,” prosecutor Ferrari said.

She said Rodriguez “was not a panicked teenager who didn’t know what she was doing” and had been pregnant twice before.”

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We need leaders with balls, willing to address the issue of sick people birthing our nation’s young!!!

Victims of Child Abuse:

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

knutesniche.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/shawn-jayz-carter-brooklyns-finest.png

In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

#RestorePrideInParenting #EndChildAbuseNeglect

Is This Horrific Child Abuse, Minimal Child Abuse, Or Acceptable Child Abuse?

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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IS THIS HORRIFIC CHILD ABUSE, MINIMAL CHILD ABUSE, OR ACCEPTABLE CHILD ABUSE?

This is NOT a question about a music performer, this question HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MUSIC!

This IS a question about EMOTIONAL CHILD ABUSE & NEGLECT.

In his 2015 Grammy award winning rap performance, “I”, American Rap Performance Artist Kendrick Lamar reveals, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

In a January 20, 2011 LAWeekly interview (Google search), American rapper and 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar, born in 1987, the same year songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy award, he told the interviewer:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

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In your opinion, is it possible a child raised by “living wild” parents could develop into a emotionally damaged, troubled teen/adult who resents his or her parents for introducing them to a life that is/was NOT safe for them or their developing brothers and sisters?

Could a developing child raised and nurtured like Kendrick, develop into a depressed, angry teen who believes he has been deprived of an Average Joe childhood, resulting with the teen venting his anger and frustrations on his peaceful neighbors?

Is it possible some or many kids raised and nurtured in the “living wild” environment Kendrick describes might cause some police to fear for their safety, resulting with some cops using excessive force because they fear being physically injured or worse by depressed, angry, unsupervised children raised and nurtured by “living wild” caretakers?

Especially officers (humans) who on a daily basis witness the fear, sadness, emotional trauma and physical pain caused to peaceful people (humans) in Kendrick’s community by PARENTS who slowly condition their children to embrace and accept the “living wild” (human) lifestyle Kendrick writes about being victimized by?

Is Kendrick wrong for believing his brothers and sisters, cousins, neighborhood friends, elementary and JHS classmates (developing humans) were deprived of experiencing a safe, fairly happy Average Joe or Josie American kid life by the “living wild” lifestyle that he speaks about being raised and nurtured in?

Do you believe as I, that SYSTEMIC CHILD ABUSE/NEGLECT is the primary cause for most all the pain, struggle, hardships, anger and frustrations some or many of our American neighbors experience from childhood through adulthood?

If you do believe Child Abuse and Emotional Neglect are responsible for Kendrick and many American kids being deprived of experiencing a safe, fairly happy childhood, should the two most powerful voices in the United States of America, (POTUS/FLOTUS) aka “The Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave”, bravely and freely address the issue of children being deprived of their inalienable right to experience a safe, fairly happy American kid life?

In the 20th century American Society addressed the human ignorance of racism by creating laws to educate and eliminate this ignorance.

In the 21st century, should society strengthen child abuse laws to educate and help kids like Kendrick, Tupac Shakur and many others experience a safe American kid life?

red-dotVictims of Child Abuse:

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds from the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

https://knutesniche.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/shawn-jayz-carter-brooklyns-finest.png

In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

Surviving Child Sexual Abuse – NYTimes.com

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via Surviving Child Sexual Abuse – NYTimes.com.

June 1, 2015, Charles Blow, NYTimes, “It can take decades, or even a lifetime, to recover if recovery is even emotionally available for the survivor.”

Can the same can be said for child/teen victims of emotional and physical abuse they experience when their unskilled, immature single moms irresponsibly introduce them to a life filled with struggle and pain in a community populated by depressed people?

Quoting a January 2011 LAWeekly interview with 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 siblings, and they all got six kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

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Yes, sexual abuse is harmful and often leads individual victims to experience a lifetime of nightmares. However, the environment of emotional child abuse/neglect Kendrick clearly describes appears to harm scores if not thousands of children every day.

Dr. Joy DeGruy eloquently writes/speaks about ‘cognitive dissonance’ and its relation to Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome.

Imagine you’re Kendrick, being schooled by you’re teachers and society@large to be a good kid, then imagine Kendrick walking home from school to Lord knows what?

Is Kendrick’s life tormented by “cognitive dissonance?”

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/01/opinion/charles-blow-surviving-child-sexual-abuse.html

#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

Is American Journalist Charles M. Blow Racist?

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Is American Journalist Charles M. Blow Racist?

February 2, 2015

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American Journalist Charles McRay Blow (born August 11, 1970)

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Recent events in my country, concerning issues existing for many generations, have motivated me to share my life experiences that include dedicating twelve tears of my adult life to providing uniform and investigative police services to a predominantly poor NYC community.

Prior to publishing his thoughts and concerns for his family’s safety, as well as issues involving police procedures for detaining people reasonably suspected of being involved in criminal activity, I heard of Charles Blow yet knew nothing about his views of our world. After reading his thoughts and concerns for his son, as well as watching a few recorded on-air interviews, I still don’t know much about Charles Blow’s views of our world, though I do know his concerns for his child’s safety when dealing with police authority, have merit.

I know Mr. Blow’s concerns have merit because I’ve served alongside police officers with sour attitudes, I’ve stood next to police officers as they acted less than professional, allowing themselves to be baited by an angry, frustrated resident(s) of the community they serve. I’ve experienced the shame and embarrassment witnessing one of my colleagues perform his or her duties in a manner not consistent with our training. I’ve also experienced concerns for my safety because an officer decided it was more important to voice his/her personal opinions, then it was to quell a situation with a potential for violence. We are supposed to be the good guys who are expected to remain rational and calm, it pained me when some officers I worked with failed to remember that.

A good friend I’d known most of my young and adult life, a peaceful, well mannered college educated man with three years experience in the NYPD strongly implored me to apply for the job. After some discussion I decided to take his advice because I trusted and valued his opinions.

However, my friend did not prepare me for one important aspect of police service/culture that caused me much concern, a mind-set that cops never witness, expose or talk about unprofessional conduct, a mind-set that police officers never admit fault or expose other officer’s faults. A mind-set that officers who speak-up about unprofessional conduct need to be punished, no longer trusted and shunned for not adhering to the police code of silence.

From the beginning of my career I learned an unwritten rule in police work “Always have a [plausible] story ready.” In my experience, for the most part, this mentality existed from brass down to my patrol supervisor, “Always have a story ready!”

Setting aside the ‘protect another cop at almost all costs’ mentality, a vast majority of the cops and bosses I worked with were decent people doing a job that at times was thrilling, exciting, challenging, demanding, rewarding and boring as heck, yet at times is extremely dangerous…citing the sunny afternoon three of us chased an armed young man through a city housing project and I listened to the bullet he fired at us whiz by my ear at about a 1000 feet per second as he entered the lobby of a building. After the bad guy got away I asked three old timers sitting on the bench nearby why they did not scatter after the knucklehead let a round loose? Nodding their heads in agreement, one of the gentlemen spoke for them, “Officer, that kind of foolishness goes on around here all the time.”

Surprisingly, not one person enjoying this beautiful sunny day watching three plainclothes officers mired down with bullet-resistant vests, gun-belts, our equipment clanking away as we chased on foot this armed young man around the perimeter of a hi-rise housing complex building, not once but twice, as if he is taunting us before he entered the lobby, recognized the young man fleeing from police.

Nor did anyone except for colleagues I spoke with afterwards, come forward to express concern or fear after witnessing the young man attempting to seriously injure or murder one the people trying to protect their community from violence and harm posed to them by this young man when he clearly demonstrated his lack of empathy by aiming and firing a deadly projectile at me, causing me to hear a sound that if the young man had aimed his deadly weapon at me one half-inch or so to his right, I would have never heard.

I wonder if incidents like this have anything to do with why some/many cops at times act less than professional when interacting with some/many community members?

This was one of many occasions I pondered, which came first, The Police Blue Wall of Silence, or The Community Wall of Silence?

http://knutesniche.byethost7.com/lnks/police-unprofss.html

On my blog I write about a few of the reasons I believe some/many police officers adopt or at times exhibit a less than professional attitude.

Later in this writing I address Mr. Blow’s specific questions about why police act the way they do when detaining people. Though first I would like to share my thoughts about those who toss around the racist word, characterizing Mr. Blow as racist.

Growing up in the ’60s this is the definition of racism I was taught:

noun – a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human racial groups determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to dominate others or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others.

Through my years I noticed some/many people have a tendency to alter or broaden long-standing established definitions for words, I believe they do this to make a word fit their agenda or because they are not familiar with its established definition.

Frankly, I view racist/racism as words representing hate, anger and hostility. I have not read many of Mr. Blow’s writings, nor watched many of his on-air interviews, though I have to believe a man raised by a mother who nurtured him to become a educated, successful person does not believe one human race is inherently superior to another, as some people suggest in their Internet writings when characterizing Mr. Blow as a racist.

Do I believe Mr. Blow holds prejudice in his heart? Yes, I do. Perhaps his prejudices mirror or in some/many ways resemble mine?

I won’t list all of my prejudices, though I will share a few starting with Sheldon Silver, former longtime speaker of the New York State Assembly.

Sheldon Silver is a respected man and leader in his community.

A community/faction that wishes to live by their own standards and laws.

A community that according to some/many victims/witnesses residing in the community wishes to hide from public view crimes committed against spouses, women and children.

A community embracing religious views that IMO deny an American woman’s lawful right to experience her vision of Life, Liberty and The Pursuit of Happiness.

A community that according to victims/witnesses who mustered the strength and courage to speak out, chooses to protect violent men and/or men who emotionally and physically abuse their spouses or children.

A community where some/many will shun and attempt to shame those strong enough to expose the injustices within their community.

Based on these known facts, not only am I prejudice toward some/many of Sheldon Silver’s supporters and fellow community members, I believe these people are loathsome human beings for adopting and embracing a philosophy that protects the predatory criminals in their community.

I am certain not everyone in this community embraces the Community Wall of Silence mentality for protecting their criminal minded neighbors, I’m sure there are some/many who fear retribution if they speak out, however because they have not spoken out to protect their neighbors from harm, I believe the entire Sheldon Silver community is diseased, populated by anti-social people.

Until I learn there is a change in this community’s attitude, I will continue to view the entire Silver community as people not worthy or deserving of my respect. I have little compassion for educated people who abuse or maltreat their loved ones or neighbors.

Another of my prejudices is based on personally witnessing some/many females in the predominantly poor NYC community I served for over a decade, not only fail to provide a stable, healthy loving environment for their children, but in many instances fail to perceive/realize the environments they created for their kids is causing emotional and psychological damage that in some/many cases will last a lifetime.

Am I wrong for holding prejudice toward some/many teen/adult caregivers who in my opinion selfishly exploit the birth of a child in order to acquire public funds/support to rescue them from the dysfunctional family they were raised in as children?

Frankly, I view some/many of these irresponsible moms differently from Sheldon Silver supporters because I believe a majority of Silver supporters enjoy a better quality of life and do not face the same challenges a person living in a community where violence can and does erupt more frequently. Though the bottom-line is there are people from both communities who willfully and/or ‘cluelessly’ fail to protect/children from harm.

Yes, there are people from all communities and backgrounds who fail to value a child’s well being and fail to protect children from harm. When reliable evidence shows me there are clans/groups/factions/communities that embrace a philosophy for looking the other way when their neighbors are committing crimes against their spouses, children and neighbors, I will add them to the list of people I no longer trust or respect. They will become people I view with distrust and wariness, or what some people may define as racism or prejudice.

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I believe a quote from Mr. Blow’s website, http://www.charlesmblow.com where he comments about his mom’s steel in raising her children exposes the core reason for why some/many children mature into angry, frustrated people who often vent their negative emotions on their peaceful neighbors in the form of crime and violence.

Quoting from Mr. Blow’s website, “An isolated boy, Blow is fiercely attached to his mother, a woman with five sons, brass knuckles in her glove box, a job plucking poultry, a soon-to-be ex-husband, and a love of newspapers and learning.

Like every single one of us living on our tiny blue orb, we were given life by a woman.

Yeah, there is a man involved in the creation of life though most all cultures depend on women to nurture and raise children who mature into peaceful, happy teens/adults who understand and embrace empathy, as well as scores of other traits necessary for developing into a peaceful, healthy teen/adult.

Obviously Mr. Blow loves and respects his mom and her brass knuckles. My mom raised me and sis under the threat of a cat-and-nine-tails stored in our kitchen’s utility drawer, a subliminal reminder not to cross the lines she established.

My mom married a young Korean war vet who I learned developed a fondness for alcohol during his time overseas, though like many women who fall for a guy with a substance abuse issue, she accepted or ignored his character flaw and married him anyway.

Dad was a peaceful liquid drug addict who mom always maintained was a good provider and never physically abused her, though when she learned he stepped out on her with another woman she was soon on a Mexico bound plane, returning a few days later with a divorce decree.

My mom was left fending for three of us, she ended up being hospitalized with a nervous breakdown. I can only imagine the stresses and challenges Mr. Blow’s mom faced providing for six people, all boys no less. Feeding and clothing five boys is difficult enough for a single mom, add on the stress of supervising/disciplining five maturing boys and I’ll bet Mrs. Blow had more in her parenting arsenal than brass knuckles. 🙂

It cannot be easy for a single mom to assume all the roles required to socialize kids and keep them on the straight and narrow. Sadly if my mom had not ignored the red flags of substance abuse my dad was flying before she married him, her life may not have hit a rough patch. Though I understand, even empathize with young people who fall in lust and make poor choices.

Obviously Charles’ mom was a bit stronger than mine in coping with the loss of her children’s father and life mate. Seems she did a pretty good job raising and nurturing a motivated child who repaid her love by aspiring to become a man she would be proud of.

Most of us want to make our mom’s proud, because like Mr. Blow and myself, we appreciate and respect all they have done for us. We recognize there is one person in our lives who is primarily responsible for insuring we developed the skills required to be peaceful, fairly content people who respect our neighbors and communities.

However, unlike the majority of our children raised and nurtured by loving, caring moms, there are some/many mothers who make babies without first acquiring the skills required to nurture a developing human life.

Based on my experiences during a decade of providing uniform and investigative services to a predominantly poor NYC community, I have a theory for why some/many children lack empathy or compassion, and often mature into frustrated, angry teens/adults who vent their anger and frustrations on their peaceful neighbors.

This is one of many experiences that I base my theory on.

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If Mr. Blow and I were born to this mother, I believe our ability to develop into peaceful members of our society would have been seriously impaired. I also believe we may not respect our moms or any other women, regardless of whether or not they are part of our lives.

One evening a call for police service brought me to a young mom’s second floor walk-up apartment in a private dwelling, she was reporting the theft of a Boom-Box radio taken from her kitchen window sill by someone trespassing on her building’s fire escape.

Entering this young mom’s apartment I observed several children, some in diapers, a few older, sitting on a living room couch, an aluminum fifty-five gallon, half-filled trash can was sitting right in the middle of her tiny living room, as if it was her coffee table. One of her living room walls was smeared with several dark stains of what I believed to be human waste.

I calmly recorded her theft complaint and left, immediately reporting my observations to my sergeant who instructed me to contact child welfare. Forty-five minutes later the children were removed from this mom’s care, temporarily placed in the custody and care of the people of New York City.

Sadly, this was not my only interaction with this mom.

Months later I arrested her younger brother for robbery. According to the victims and one witness to this act of violence who recognized her brother from the neighborhood, he placed what appeared to be a handgun in the face of two victims and threatened their lives while demanding and taking their property.

Until she arrived at the precinct to protest her brother’s arrest, I had no idea my young prisoner was related to the mom whose maltreated children I caused to be taken from her months earlier. At the top of her lungs, much like Michael Brown’s father when he was recorded reacting to the perceived injustice to his family member, she adamantly insisted her brother was not a robber.

I showed her the gun I recovered from her brother’s pocket, I told her one witness knows her brother from the neighborhood, still not convinced she came very close to being arrested for becoming disorderly and refusing to leave the precinct once her business was done. Later I learned that she appeared in court when her younger brother was arrested months earlier for an unrelated robbery.

What was the point of lying about her brother not being a street thug, when there are public records indicating she knew he was committing acts of violence toward people months before she looked me in the eye and vehemently denied her brother is a robber?

I believe I know the answer to my own question. Again, I have no formal training in understanding why people tend to act the way they do, however based on my life experiences I believe Boom-Box mom lied to me without a care or second thought because she was raised to believe lying and denial is how people cope with uncomfortable situations..or..she never acquired and developed the critical thinking skills required to look past living in the moment, or the “here and now’.

Time and time again I interviewed adults and teens who lied to me about easily verifiable facts, often placing themselves at risk for being arrested for obstructing or impeding criminal investigations. Is this something most people with average critical thinking skills would do?

After every day or night’s work I had a 30-40 minute commute home, which gave me time to reflect on the day’s events, how I responded to them, and what I learned from them. Many nights I would drive home with a smile on my face, thinking to myself, “Holy smokes, I can’t believe I get paid to have this much fun identifying and locking up dangerous people.”

During many of these winding-down, reflective moments I would actually experience a euphoric feeling of being “high on life.” For me, at that time in my career, chasing down seriously dangerous bad people who illegally armed themselves with firearms for the purpose of committing mayhem on a mostly peaceful population of working class and poor fellow Americans was the ultimate high, as well as a fringe benefit of police work.

In many cases after taking an alleged dangerous person into custody, I had the opportunity to speak with them and gain ‘some’ insight into what makes them tick. I have no formal training in psychology, however, after meeting and talking with many people who are alleged to have committed crimes in this community, I personally concluded many of the people I arrested were raised and nurtured in environments that lacked real love, understanding, caring and guidance.

Driving home after my first interaction with the aforementioned Boom-Box mom, I thought about her values, her understanding of what is expected of the people who nurture our children, her consideration for laws that society imposes on all people who assume the serious responsibility of rearing children.

I concluded Boom-Box mom was “clueless,” lacking good judgment and skills in all areas required for her to be a good nurturer.

I asked myself, “What is going on in the mind of a mother who invites a law enforcement official into her home, in which she has created a environment for her children that posed a serious risk to their physical well being and health, as well as their psychological development?”

“Does she not realize what she is doing to her children or how her clueless behavior can imprint and affect them for life?”

“Before calling the police did Boom-Box mom not realize society enacted laws protecting her children from the physically harmful and emotionally abusive home she created for them?”

I have to believe Boom-Box mom’s method for parenting is a learned behavior, instilled either during her own upbringing or gleaned from the people she is friends or associates with. Which leaves me wondering if Boom-Box mom ever invited friends or guests to her apartment, and if she did, why didn’t they report the apparent maltreatment and emotional abuse she was exposing her helpless children to?

I am not trying to be harsh by characterizing Boom-Box mom as totally “clueless.” I believe she is a victim of a society accepted cycle of dysfunctional family and community environments…from birth, it appears Boom-Box mom was not shown what a loving environment is made of, it’s difficult for me to be mad at people who are victimized by the recurring cycle, and it certainly makes me better understand why so much rage, anger and frustration exists in the hearts and minds of young “black people” who are raised in these environments.

If I was being raised in the cycle of poverty by a “clueless” parent, as I mature, learning more about the world and witnessing how others are having fun, prospering, loving their families and lives, more than likely over time I’d be real upset, simmering, maybe even rage as I aged and my home environment does not improve.

I think about Boom-Box mom’s children and what they have to look forward to, what skills does she offer her children…what goes through her baby’s minds as they gather around the trash can mom placed in the middle of their living room, day after day watching television depicting the good lives Americans of all backgrounds are enjoying?

What really saddens me……is knowing, based on my experiences, that Boom-Box mom’s “clueless” mindset is replicated by mom’s and parents throughout this community. It saddens and angers me that little kids are in many cases, doomed from the start, or before they are conceived.

When I look back at the environment my parents created for me and how I responded to that environment, I realize my goals were to please my parents by respecting and appreciating what they were doing for me. And most importantly doing my best not to disappoint them because they loved me and made sure I knew it by actively being involved in my life, and aiding me in shaping my life as I developed into a peaceful person who felt loved and cared for.

Two immutable rules in our household were impressed upon me at a young age, “Always be truthful” and “Before judging, wear the other person’s shoes.” Thinking back mom and dad never used the word “empathy” when admonishing me for not thinking before I shot my mouth off, they always said “wear the other person’s shoes.”

I am thinking if my mom and dad placed a trash can in our living room, ignored feces smeared on our walls, got sis and I removed from their custody because they were not providing basic care for me and sis…I am thinking I’d be a pretty messed up kid incapable of embracing the concept of empathy, or purposefully not showing empathy for others because my life sucks and I don’t care about others.

Or perhaps I’d use my intentional lack of empathy as a means to peeve or ‘get-back’ at my parents by engaging in anti-social behaviors that would eventually get me arrested, causing my parents to recognize that I exist, or depending on their views of the police, causing them to interact with authority people they may not necessarily like or trust, thus peeving them.

As I wrote, my experiences occurred years ago.

Recently I looked at current crime stats for this community and learned there has been a significant decrease in reported crimes, though there is still a good amount of violent crimes being committed.

If society continues failing to monitor caregivers who require public funds to raise, nurture and support their children, these kids will continue to be raised in environments like the one Boom-Box mom created for her kids.

I am hoping when camera technology proves its mettle in protecting police officers, as well as identifying officers who require further training or officers who have no business serving the public in a LE capacity, we will use that same technology to protect children by monitoring the common area of homes in which caregivers have established a track record for failing to properly raise, nurture and/or supervise their children. Especially in communities with higher crime rates where kids are more often exposed to some/many neighbors with a mindset for lawlessness.

Recently I watched a video that saddened me as well as enlightened me when I learned child welfare investigators test the hair of child abuse victims for “ambient” exposure to drugs. Holy smokes, the numbers were critical. At the least cameras would expose signs of intoxication in homes identified as requiring extra care to prevent children from being emotionally and or physically harmed.

My Logic:

If a person requires public funds to raise and nurture a child, society is essentially investing in America’s future by offering support to irresponsible women who in many cases give life to children they are not prepared to care for without, and in some/many instances, with our support.

By bearing a child/children without having the means to provide for her child, a mom has already demonstrated that she is not a mature, responsible person.

Society compassionately, and because we do not have any other choice, provides support and care for a child born to a immature, irresponsible mother, and due to financial constraints we do little to insure our investment in immature mother’s children is being used to raised and nurture her kids in a physically and emotionally healthy environment.

Cameras would allow society to closely monitor our investment without being overly intrusive or having to hire more child welfare investigators to protect children from immature, irresponsible caregivers, which we should be doing now.

Society created laws to protect peaceful people from anti-social people.

To protect society from children who develop anti-social attitudes, we arrest teens for committing crimes, yet we do not hold accountable the mothers and fathers legally responsible for nurturing and supervising these kids?

Why is that?

Does society’s current and long-standing policy for ignoring children born to immature females and anonymous or immature males need to be re-evaluated?

Seems reasonable society should have a right to closely monitor our investments and insure that kids are being raised and nurtured with love >>> and not indifference.

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In January 2015 Mr. Blow reported his son was detained at gunpoint by a police officer.
(Video Interview)

I understand Mr. Blow’s concerns for his son’s safety. I also understand the officer’s concern for his personal as well as public safety at the time he is conducting an investigation in public.

I would like to answer the questions Mr. Blow asked in the article he published about his son.

Charles Blow asks, “Why was a gun drawn first?”

Without knowing the details available to the officer at the time he detained Mr. Blow’s son, it is difficult to determine if he was justified in pointing his weapon at a citizen. Though the officer was investigating a felony, burglars are known to carry firearms as well as possess them as proceeds of a burglary.

Charles Blow asks, “Why was he not immediately told why he was being detained? Why not ask for ID first?”

As a cop conducting a criminal investigation I would not show my cards to a suspect, possibly influencing his replies. Plus, does it make sense to stress a citizen by informing them they are being detained because I suspect they may be a criminal?

Or does it makes sense to first ask for an explanation for the person’s conduct, and when they provide a reasonable explanation, send them on their way without adding stress to their lives by insinuating they are a criminal?

Charles Blow asks, “Why not ask for ID first?”

Unless the investigating officer knows the name of the person suspected of committing a crime prior to detaining a citizen in public, what is the point for asking a detainees name without first asking questions to determine if the person being detained is a viable suspect?

When serving a predominantly poor NYC community I detained dozens and dozens of people pursuant to NYS CPL article 140.50…and never asked their names because they provided a reasonable explanation for their conduct at the time I detained and questioned them.

However there were times when approaching a suspect I immediately drew my service weapon, held it at my side or intentionally pointed it at them firmly advising them they may be harmed if they do not comply with my orders.

I am not sure if NYS’s CPL or the NYPD’s policy for temporarily detaining people in public places has changed since I was schooled?

During my time with the department I was trained that a PO detaining a person suspected of committing a “violent” crime, for the officer’s safety, was automatically subjected to a pat down before questioning began. As I did on this evening while patrolling a mostly poor NYC community.

On patrol, observe a young man who was the spitting image of a robbery suspect I was looking for, carried the suspect’s mug shot with me and looked at his face most everyday for weeks, so I was certain he was the guy I wanted to arrest.

We approach, no questions asked, immediately pat him down and recover a huge silver six-shot revolver from his person. Further investigation revealed he is not the ‘wanted person’ in the photo I was looking for.

Mr. Six-shot takes the case to trial beginning with a hearing to determine if I had lawful grounds to detain and search him. I showed the judge the official PD photo I used to base the stop on, testified why I stopped Mr. Six-shot. The judge decided there was sufficient evidence to proceed to trial, setting a trial date.

Sometime later the DA calls me to his office for trial prep…a day later he calls and tells me the trial is off, the young man I arrested walking around the streets of NYC with a loaded hi-power illegal firearm tucked in his waistband was the victim of a violent homicide in his Maryland hometown.

I have no doubt Mr. Blows concerns for his and his son’s safety when interacting with police officers are justified. As are the suburban families recorded expressing the thoughts, fears and concerns for their children. Watching this interview is pretty heart wrenching, certainly mirroring Mr Blow’s concerns and fears.

Sadly, as a police officer I too experience fear for my personal safety when interacting with people I do not know.

Especially people in a community with an established track record for raising and nurturing some/many of its children in homes/environments that emotionally conditions these kids to accept a life of lawlessness and disrespecting their peaceful neighbors.

Based on over a decade of providing uniformed and investigative police services to a predominantly poor NYC community, I have my own thoughts and concerns for why some/many children in poor communities mature into angry, frustrated teens/adults lacking empathy for others, often violently venting their anger and frustrations on their peaceful people.

On my Knute’s Niche blog I suggest why music artists from generations past wrote music loving and adoring woman, and the reasons I believe for why the love and respect for women has apparently evaporated for some/many of today’s music artists who characterize women and girls as “Bhores and Witches” in their popular music.

When & Why Did Women Become “Bitches & Whores?

I am curious to learn if anyone else has a theory for why some/many today’s artists write music >>> essentially disrespecting their moms, sisters, and daughters?

I understand and sympathize with Mr. Blows fears and concerns for his family’s safety, though I wonder if he is willing to recognize the core issue for why police and some/many Americans have concerns for their safety when interacting with dark complected people, some/many of whom are raised and nurtured by irresponsible caregivers who I believe are primarily responsible for causing much of the prejudice some/many Americans and others hold in their hearts.

When Mr. Charles Blow and others are willing to honestly identify the core reason fueling much of the prejudice brown or dark complected people experience, not only will he and others be protecting children from harm, they will be helping to eliminate a prejudice that at this time in American history I believe I have a moral right to embrace. For if we do not embrace our prejudices and speak about them, children and women will continue to be victimized…and continue to believe that no one cares or thinks about them.

#child-safety
#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

yellow-horizontalAmerican Journalist Charles McRay Blow (born August 11, 1970)

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American Journalist Charles McRay Blow
(born August 11, 1970)

http://www.kidsmatterinc.org/for-families/abuse-and-neglect-resources/emotional-abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

Do Some Mothers UNDERSTAND ALL Black Lives Matter?

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Georgia wrote, “NYC cop” – enough said! # black rappers matter

Hello, Georgia. I respectfully disagree, believing ALL lives matter.

Sadly I met people who believe otherwise, raising their children to become potential rappers who express in the performances the child abuse their moms subjected them to.

This is one example of the many tragic human events I witnessed in Brooklyn and other NYC communities. It is also an example of people in a community failing to police themselves by not reporting child abuse, or having the capacity to recognize child abuse when they witness it.

One evening a call for police service brought me to a young mom’s second floor walk-up apartment in a private dwelling, she was reporting the theft of a Boom-Box radio taken from her kitchen window sill by someone trespassing on her building’s fire escape.

Entering this young mom’s apartment I observed several children, some in diapers, a few older, sitting on a living room couch, an aluminum fifty-five gallon, half-filled trash can was sitting right in the middle of her tiny living room, as if it was her coffee table. One of her living room walls was smeared with several dark stains of what I believed to be human waste.

I calmly recorded her theft complaint and left, immediately reporting my observations to my sergeant who instructed me to contact child welfare. Forty-five minutes later the children were removed from this mom’s care, temporarily placed in the custody and care of the people of New York City.

Sadly, this was not my only interaction with this mom.

Months later I arrested her younger brother for robbery. According to the victims and one witness to this act of violence who recognized her brother from the neighborhood, he placed what appeared to be a handgun in the face of two victims and threatened their lives while demanding and taking their property.

Until she arrived at the precinct to protest her brother’s arrest, I had no idea my young prisoner was related to the mom whose maltreated children I caused to be taken from her months earlier. At the top of her lungs, much like Michael Brown’s father when he was recorded reacting to the perceived injustice to his family member, she adamantly insisted her brother was not a robber.

I showed her the gun I recovered from her brother’s pocket, I told her one witness knows her brother from the neighborhood, still not convinced she came very close to being arrested for becoming disorderly and refusing to leave the precinct station house once her business was done. Later I learned that she appeared in court when her younger brother was arrested months earlier for an unrelated robbery.

What was the point of lying about her brother not being a street thug, when there are public records indicating she knew he was committing acts of violence toward people months before she looked me in the eye and vehemently denied her brother is a robber?

I believe I know the answer to my own question. Again, I have no formal training in understanding why people tend to act the way they do, however based on my life experiences I believe Boom-Box mom lied to me without a care or second thought because she was raised to believe lying and denial is how people cope with uncomfortable situations..or..she never acquired and developed the critical thinking skills required to look past living in the moment, or the “here and now’.

Time and time again I interviewed adults and teens who lied to me about easily verifiable facts, often placing themselves at risk for being arrested for obstructing or impeding criminal investigations. Is this something most people with average critical thinking skills would do?

After every day or night’s work I had a 30-40 minute commute home, which gave me time to reflect on the day’s events, how I responded to them, and what I learned from them. Many nights I would drive home with a smile on my face, thinking to myself, “Holy smokes, I can’t believe I get paid to have this much fun identifying and locking up dangerous people.”

During many of these winding-down, reflective moments I would actually experience a euphoric feeling of being “high on life.” For me, at that time in my career, chasing down seriously dangerous bad people who illegally armed themselves with firearms for the purpose of committing mayhem on a mostly peaceful population of working class and poor fellow Americans was the ultimate high, as well as a fringe benefit of police work.

In many cases after taking an alleged dangerous person into custody, I had the opportunity to speak with them and gain ‘some’ insight into what makes them tick. I have no formal training in psychology, however, after meeting and talking with many people who are alleged to have committed crimes in this community, I personally concluded many of the people I arrested were raised and nurtured in environments that lacked real love, understanding, caring and guidance.

Driving home after my first interaction with the aforementioned Boom-Box mom, I thought about her values, her understanding of what is expected of the people who nurture our children, her consideration for laws that society imposes on all people who assume the serious responsibility of rearing children.

I concluded Boom-Box mom was “clueless,” lacking good judgment and skills in all areas required for her to be a good nurturer.

I asked myself, “What is going on in the mind of a mother who invites a law enforcement official into her home, in which she has created a environment for her children that posed a serious risk to their physical well being and health, as well as their psychological development?”

“Does she not realize what she is doing to her children or how her clueless behavior can imprint and affect them for life?”

“Before calling the police did Boom-Box mom not realize society enacted laws protecting her children from the physically harmful and emotionally abusive home she created for them?”

I have to believe Boom-Box mom’s method for parenting is a learned behavior, instilled either during her own upbringing or gleaned from the people she is friends or associates with. Which leaves me wondering if Boom-Box mom ever invited friends or guests to her apartment, and if she did, why didn’t they report the apparent maltreatment and emotional abuse she was exposing her helpless children to?

I am not trying to be harsh by characterizing Boom-Box mom as totally “clueless.” I believe she is a victim of a society accepted cycle of dysfunctional family and community environments…from birth, it appears Boom-Box mom was not shown what a loving environment is made of, it’s difficult for me to be mad at people who are victimized by the recurring cycle, and it certainly makes me better understand why so much rage, anger and frustration exists in the hearts and minds of young “black people” who are raised in these environments.

If I was being raised in the cycle of poverty by a “clueless” parent, as I mature, learning more about the world and witnessing how others are having fun, prospering, loving their families and lives, more than likely over time I’d be real upset, simmering, maybe even rage as I aged and my home environment does not improve.

I think about Boom-Box mom’s children and what they have to look forward to, what skills does she offer her children…what goes through her baby’s minds as they gather around the trash can mom placed in the middle of their living room, day after day watching television depicting the good lives Americans of all backgrounds are enjoying?

What really saddens me……is knowing, based on my experiences, that Boom-Box mom’s “clueless” mindset is replicated by mom’s and parents throughout this community. It saddens and angers me that little kids are in many cases, doomed from the start, or before they are conceived.

When I look back at the environment my parents created for me and how I responded to that environment, I realize my goals were to please my parents by respecting and appreciating what they were doing for me. And most importantly doing my best not to disappoint them because they loved me and made sure I knew it by actively being involved in my life, and aiding me in shaping my life as I developed into a peaceful person who felt loved and cared for.

Two immutable rules in our household were impressed upon me at a young age, “Always be truthful” and “Before judging, wear the other person’s shoes.” Thinking back mom and dad never used the word “empathy” when admonishing me for not thinking before I shot my mouth off, they always said “wear the other person’s shoes.”

I am thinking if my mom and dad placed a trash can in our living room, ignored feces smeared on our walls, got sis and I removed from their custody because they were not providing basic care for me and sis…I am thinking I’d be a pretty messed up kid incapable of embracing the concept of empathy, or purposefully not showing empathy for others because my life sucks and I don’t care about others.

Or perhaps I’d use my intentional lack of empathy as a means to peeve or ‘get-back’ at my parents by engaging in anti-social behaviors that would eventually get me arrested, causing my parents to recognize that I exist, or depending on their views of the police, causing them to interact with authority people they may not necessarily like or trust, thus peeving them.

As I wrote, my experiences occurred years ago.

Recently I looked at current crime stats for this community and learned there has been a significant decrease in reported crimes, though there is still a good amount of violent crimes being committed.

If society continues failing to monitor caregivers who require public funds to raise, nurture and support their children, these kids will continue to be raised in environments like the one Boom-Box mom created for her kids.

I am hoping when camera technology proves its mettle in protecting police officers, as well as identifying officers who require further training or officers who have no business serving the public in a LE capacity, we will use that same technology to protect children by monitoring the common area of homes in which caregivers have established a track record for failing to properly raise, nurture and/or supervise their children. Especially in communities with higher crime rates where kids are more often exposed to some/many neighbors with a mindset for lawlessness.

Recently I watched a video that saddened me as well as enlightened me when I learned child welfare investigators test the hair of child abuse victims for “ambient” exposure to drugs. Holy smokes, the numbers were critical. At the least cameras would expose signs of intoxication in homes identified as requiring extra care to prevent children from being emotionally and or physically harmed.

#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

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