Does Angry American Author Charles M. Blow Know The Meaning of Truthfulness, Honesty & Compassion? – Medium

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Charles Blow, “No one need try to convince me otherwise. The effort is futile; my conviction is absolute. This is a culture war in which…

Source: Does Angry American Author Charles M. Blow Know The Meaning of Truthfulness, Honesty & Compassion? – Medium


Reading his writings and witnessing his media interviews, I am absolutely convinced NY Times writer and American author Mr. Charles M. Blow is an angry, emotionally ill American WILLFULLY IGNORING America’s National #T_H_U_G_L_I_F_E HEALTH CRISIS, aka America’s Culture of African American Child Abuse & Neglect, as well as #T_H_U_G_L_I_F_E’s remedy >>> #A_F_R_E_C_A_N.

“The Hate U Give Little Infants Fvvks Everyone” ~Tupac Shakur

“We need more people who care; you know what I’m saying? We need more women, mothers, fathers, we need more of that…” ~Tupac Shakur

Peace.


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“America’s Firm Resolve to End Childhood Abuse and Neglect”

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The late popular American urban-story-TRUTH-teller Tupac Shakur – https://medium.com/@AveryJarhman/tupac-addresses-african-american-child-abuse-neglect-9caad667f9c6/

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Video — Where is Charles M Blow’s Outrage Over The POTUS & FLOTUS Promoting Hate for American Girls… – Medium

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For the last several decades I’ve been listening to a significant number of popular American urban storytellers and music performers of…

Source: Video — Where is Charles M Blow’s Outrage Over The POTUS & FLOTUS Promoting Hate for American Girls… – Medium

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American Journalist Charles McRay Blow (born August 11, 1970)
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Video — Charles M Blow Reviews 1st 2016 Presidential Debate – Medium

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Source: Video — Charles M Blow Reviews 1st 2016 Presidential Debate – Medium


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I agree with Mr. Blow. No human being is a perfect person, simply because we belong to the human race, an imperfect, though intelligent species capable of learning and evolving toward becoming a perfect species.

Every day the human species is learning about our human condition and physical world, seeking to improve the Quality of Life for all human beings.

Understandably our imperfect human species makes mistakes, often depriving peaceful human beings from experiencing and enjoying their basic human rights.

In the early 1600s, around the same period of human history when unjust human oppression we call slavery began on the North American continent, a significant number of human beings ignorantly believe the Earth was the center of ‘everything.’

When Galileo Galilei (1564–1642) an Italian astronomer, physicist, engineer, philosopher, and mathematician who played a major role in the scientific revolution of the seventeenth century offered evidence our Sun did not revolve around the Earth, God and Bible people imprisoned him for the remainder of his life.

Galileo got off lucky, the God loving people savagely murdered or horrifically tortured other free thinkers who attempted using their human intellect to help the human race learn and evolve.

Sadly, today many people continue holding ignorant beliefs in Gods, though fortunately we have evolved to believe the Earth is not the center of the universe. An expanding universe that was not discovered until the 20th Century.

Our species will continue evolving, learning day by day about our physical world and adapting as we slowly plod along trying to make the best of life.

Frankly, I believe Mrs. Clinton does not genuinely wish to evolve, wanting to continue talking a good game while producing few positive results for my American neighbors.

While I believe Mrs. Clinton’s businessperson opponent can be a bit of a knucklehead, I also believe Mr. Trump’s ego will drive him to succeed in helping to improve the Quality of Life for all his/my/our American neighbors.

Peace.

FB Video – Charles M. Blow On Drug Abuse and Mass Incarceration

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Charles M. Blow - American Journalist & Author
Charles M. Blow – American Journalist & Author

In the late 60s I was a young Long Island suburban teen with access to virtually any drug available at the time, including heroin.

Lots of kids and young adults who grew up in safe, peaceful neighborhoods were experimenting with or regularly using alcohol, uppers, downers, man-made or natural psychedelics, weed. Toward the end of the 70s cocaine became a popular drug used by many of my neighbors.

At that time heroin was not very popular, though a few knuckleheads who in my experience were raised in abusive and neglectful family environments did use this life-debilitating substance.

Fortunately this widespread drug use did not result with the Quality of Life of entire communities being compromised by drug users running around neighborhoods using weapons, force and fear to obtain cash to purchase their favorite drug.

Sadly, this was not the case for many of my peaceful neighbors of African descent who were struggling with Poverty, aka Child Abuse and Neglect, created by irresponsible parenting that often resulted with depressed and emotionally abused children maturing into angry, frustrated teens and adults lacking empathy, compassion and respect for their peaceful neighbors.

Sadly, because many African American children were introduced to a life of hardships and struggles which far too often resulted with them resenting the painful lives they were forced to experience, many of these depressed teens and adults, unlike me and most of my neighbors who were raised with love, caring and affection, had little or no incentive to make sure they DID NOT disappoint their moms and dads.

Why? Because they did not respect the primary caregivers who introduced them to a life of hardships, struggle and pain.

There is a reason that today and for more than three decades many locally and nationally popular American recording artists of African descent demean and hate-on the MATERNAL HALF of our population, characterizing in their music art performances our moms, sisters, grandmas, daughters, aunts and nieces as less than human *itches and ^hores unworthy of respect.

Sadly, kids like Tupac were deprived of being raised in a GENUINE loving, caring family environment that understandably caused them to become depressed or suicidal, lacking empathy, compassion and respect for their peaceful neighbors because their lives sucked, so why shouldn’t their neighbors lives suck too!

Sadly, significant numbers of abused and/or emotionally neglected kids matured into depressed, angry teens and adults causing great harm to themselves, their peaceful neighbors and entire communities.

I guess instead of arresting and removing depressed, angry, drug abusers (many who were victims of abusive and neglectful childhoods) from communities and isolating them in prison where they could not emotionally terrorize and cause great physical harm (or worse) to their peaceful neighbors, society could have ignored these depressed, emotionally disturbed people and sat by watching them destroy and OPPRESSING entire communities populated by mostly peaceful people entitled to be protected from the dangers often presented to them by depressed children who mature into angry, frustrated teens and adults peeved for being deprived of a SAFE, fairly happy ‘Average Joe and Josie’ American kid childhood Grammy winner and victim of horrific childhood trauma Kendrick Lamar repeatedly laments he, his siblings and numerous cousins were deprived of by their violent felon embracing family and community members.

This is my theory explaining why far too many of our prisons and communities were and still are populated by depressed, angry, frustrated teens and adults.

Sadly, the human ignorance we term as racism that for generations OPPRESSED and deprived countless loving, caring human beings from enjoying the respect and equality all Americans are entitled to has largely been replaced with a more current form of HUMAN OPPRESSION and indignities known as Childhood Abuse and Neglect, or what many so-called concerned, caring Americans characterize as Poverty.

Before closing I should mention I spent twelve years of my life witnessing on a near-daily basis gun violence and other anti-social ‘people and community’ harming behaviors American recording artist Shawn Jay Z Carter joyously raps about inflicting on an entire Brooklyn community populated by mostly peaceful Americans just wanting to experience and enjoy a SAFE, peaceful life for them, their families and neighbors.

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Regarding society’s changing attitude (evolution) toward drug abusers, Charles Blow stated “It ticks me off to no end.”

Charles, with all due respect, are you ticked off about children being conditioned from a young age to accept and embrace anti-social lifetyles that far too often OPPRESSED the lives of children and deprives many of our peaceful, responsible neighbors from enjoying a SAFE, fairly happy American life experience?


In his 2015 Grammy award winning Rap Performance titled “I”, Kendrick Lamar writes, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

In paragraph eight of a January 20, 2011 LAWeekly interview  Kendrick, born in 1987, the same year songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy award, he told the interviewer:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”

“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment.”

“My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

Kendrick Lamar Talks About ‘u,’ His Depression & Suicidal Thoughts (Pt. 2) | MTV Video News April 2015

Peace.

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Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations

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Robert K. Ross, MD, President and CEO of The California Endowment

Robert K. Ross, MD, President and CEO of The California Endowment, gives a compelling overview of the role that exposure to childhood trauma plays in the lives of troubled and chronically ill Americans.

After watching Dr. Ross’ presentation one of the questions all concerned, compassionate Americans should seriously be asking ourselves, our elected, civil, social, community and religious leaders is, “What real substantial changes in our society’s attitude and laws need to occur to prevent Child Abuse and Neglect that often causes young kids to mature into depressed, frustrated, angry, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults as a result of experiencing the emotional and/or physical trauma of an abusive childhood?”

At 2:12:25 in this documentary about Mafia hitman and victim of Early Childhood Trauma/Abuse, Richard “The Iceman” Kuklinski, Dr. Park Dietz explains why young Richard most likely developed into a emotionally disturbed, paranoid, cruel, heartless teen and man who did not give a frig about anyone else, including his wife and kids.

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Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?

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Emotional Abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community

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Social Activist Sandra Bland

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/07/17/sandra-bland-indirectly-speaks-about-child-abuse-and-neglect-harming-her-quality-of-life-and-community/

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Victims of Child Abuse

This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.

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A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea

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Depraved Indifference for Human Life?

What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.

Unedited Mirror:

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=798_1437634337

red-dotVictims of Child Abuse – Brooklyn, NY:

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

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Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

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Victim of America’s expanding and shameful *National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect,* aka *Poverty*, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood!

#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

The Year’s Biggest Social Justice Stories – The New York Times

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The Year’s Biggest Social Justice Stories

via The Year’s Biggest Social Justice Stories – The New York Times.

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American Journalist Charles McRay Blow (born August 11, 1970)

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In regard to American social issues, NYTimes contributor Charles Blow writes, “The death of Sandra Bland in Texas and the ongoing Black Lives Matter movement to curb police violence,…”

During one of her 2015 video presentations, Ms. Bland indirectly speaks about Child Abuse and Neglect that in my experience often causes abused young children to develop into depressed, sometimes suicidal teens and adults (NY Times May 18, 2015 – Rise in Suicide by Black Children Surprises Researchers) lacking empathy, compassion and respect for themselves as well as their peaceful neighbors.

Much like Ms. Bland, many Americans characterize these abused, severely damaged kids who mature into emotionally damaged teens and adults, as “Gang-bangers or Thugs.”

I prefer to offer a more honest view of Gang-bangers and Thugs, characterizing them as victims of Childhood Abuse and Neglect inflicted on them by immature teen girls and women who irresponsibly begin building families before acquiring the skills, PATIENCE and means to provide their child or children with a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood.

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/07/17/sandra-bland-indirectly-speaks-about-child-abuse-and-neglect-harming-her-quality-of-life-and-community/

As for the The Black Lives Matter movement and its supporters, no doubt they have legit and credible concerns. Policing and our CJS should constantly be examined and amended or updated as our society evolves or when there are inequities found.

However, my beef with the BLM is they ignore one of the primary reason for why I believe some police fail to act in a manner consistent with their training and our laws.

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/11/28/is-police-misconduct-and-child-abuse-neglect-intertwined/

I am going to be very frank.

There is a significant population of immature teen girls and women raising and nurturing depressed, sometimes suicidal children who mature into Gang-bangers and Thugs, full of anger and resentment for being irresponsibly introduced to a life of hardships and struggle by their immature parents.

During the twelve years I provided police services to the Brooklyn, NY community Shawn Jay Z Carter raps about attempting to destroy with his 24/7 drug trade and semi-automatic Mack Milli, these angry, depressed sometimes suicidal Gang-bangers and Thugs caused me to fear for my safety whenever I was working in this community or traveling to and from work in this Brooklyn community.

Witnessing on a daily basis the emotional and physical harm inflicted on peaceful people by Gang-bangers and Thugs slowly ate away at my empathy and compassion, changing me into a jaded person experiencing fear and anxiety while working to help and protect my peaceful African American neighbors living or working in this community.

When I was assigned to this Brooklyn community the NYPD required me to serve the community for two years before it would consider honoring a transfer to another community.

I lasted nearly twelve years before concerns for my personal safety and emotional well being caused me to request a transfer to a more stable community.

Essentially Gang-bangers and Thugs, aka victims of Childhood Abuse and Neglect caused me to abandon a community I considered my second home because I spent so much time there.

The truth is cops are humans with different tolerances for emotional pain. My tolerances allowed me to serve this community for nearly twelve years before I realized that for my own emotional and physical well being I needed to leave.

However, individual cops have different tolerances for witnessing and dealing with the pain of others. Some can go thirty years without being affected by witnessing human sadness on a daily basis, while from the very beginning of their careers, some officer’s minds are not equipped to deal with the mayhem, chaos and human sadness they witness on a daily basis.

More honesty. When I became a cop I was ignorant to the fact that less than thirty miles from my home residence, there was a significant population of depressed teens and adults who did not give a flying hoot about human life, including their own.

I had no idea that on a near-daily basis I would be dealing with and pursuing depressed, sometimes suicidal young teens and adults armed cheap or high power firearms they used to protect drug operations or to forcibly remove property from their peaceful neighbors in order to purchase dangerous drugs offered by neglected and unsupervised teens like Shawn Jay Z Carter.

Frankly, I am seriously disappointed that virtually no one with a national voice, such as Mr. and Mrs. Obama or the members of the Black Lives Matter movement, are addressing the issue of Child Abuse and Neglect in African American communities.

Childhood Abuse and Neglect is seriously important issue that I believe is at the root for much of the police misconduct being reported by American citizens.

Honestly, it peeves me off that a significant number of people like Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar, Tupac Shakur, Dwayne Lil Wayne Carter, Michael Singleton and untold number of developing children much like them are being raised and nurtured to embrace the Street Life culture, and when they begin emotionally or physically harming their peaceful neighbors, resulting with the police being called to intervene or investigate allegations of criminal and/or anti-social behaviors, the police are often criticized or lambasted for manner in which they deal with angry, frustrated, unpredictable sometimes suicidal teens and adults full of rage and resentment for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by immature “living wild” (Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar’s characterization of his parent’s community harming lifestyle) caregivers.

I will never make excuses for police acting outside the scope of their employment. Though I will offer my opinions for why some police officers become jaded, fearful and anxious, resulting with some officers crossing the line, failing to maintain their professionalism and civility.

The question all concerned, compassionate Americans should seriously be asking ourselves, our elected, civil, social, community and religious leaders is, “What real substantial changes in our society’s attitude and laws need to occur to prevent abuse that often causes young kids to mature into depressed, frustrated, angry, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults as a result of experiencing the emotional and/or physical trauma of an abusive childhood?”

Peace and Happy Holidays!

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Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations

Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?

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Emotional Abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community

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Social Activist Sandra Bland

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/07/17/sandra-bland-indirectly-speaks-about-child-abuse-and-neglect-harming-her-quality-of-life-and-community/

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Victims of Child Abuse

This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.

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A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea

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Depraved Indifference for Human Life?

What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.

Unedited Mirror:

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=798_1437634337

red-dotVictims of Child Abuse – Brooklyn, NY:

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

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Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

knutesniche.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/shawn-jayz-carter-brooklyns-finest.png

In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

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Victim of America’s expanding and shameful *National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect,* aka *Poverty*, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood!

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#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

Charles Blow – First Time at a Gun Show – The New York Times

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Charles M. Blow

via First Time at a Gun Show – The New York Times.

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With all due respect I am willing to wager that during their discussion neither Charles or his brother considered the PRIMARY cause for much of Americas gun violence…which is America’s expanding and shameful National Epidemic of Childhood Abuse and Neglect, aka Poverty, that for more than two generations has deprived untold numbers of American kids from experiencing and enjoying a fairly happy American kid childhood with Safe Streets to travel and play on.

Child Abuse and Neglect that is primarily responsible for populating our prisons with depressed, angry, frustrated, undisciplined, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults full of resentment for irresponsibly being introduced to a life of hardships and struggles.

Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect that often leads depressed, sometimes suicidal (NY Times May 18, 2015 – Rise in Suicide by Black Children Surprises Researchers) children to develop into depressed, angry, frustrated, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults lacking empathy and compassion for others, though needing to vent their pent up negative emotions, often causing emotional and physical harm to peaceful people…instead of venting their anger, resentment and pain on the immature single moms and/or dads who introduced them to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsibly building a family before acquiring the practical skills, PATIENCE and means to successfully raise and nurture a developing young child who matures into a fairly happy responsible teen and adult with mostly fond memories of his or her childhood.

The question all concerned, compassionate Americans should seriously be asking ourselves, our elected, civil, social, community and religious leaders is, “What real, substantial changes in our society’s attitude and laws need to occur to prevent abuse that often causes young kids to mature into depressed, frustrated, angry teens and adults as a result of experiencing the emotional and/or physical trauma of an abusive childhood?”

Suicidal Behaviors in the African American Community

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1615885/

Abiola Abrams, “The Myth of The Strong Black Woman Is Killing Us, Literally!” | Welcome to Knute’s Niche – Recognizing Child Abuse/Neglect

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Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations

Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?

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Emotional Abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community

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Social Activist Sandra Bland

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/07/17/sandra-bland-indirectly-speaks-about-child-abuse-and-neglect-harming-her-quality-of-life-and-community/

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Victims of Child Abuse

This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.

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A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea

criminal-parenting
Depraved Indifference for Human Life?

What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.

Unedited Mirror:

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=798_1437634337

red-dotVictims of Child Abuse – Brooklyn, NY:

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/05/01/black-child-abuse/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyn-ny-newborn-raised-to-be-a-baddd-boy/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/brooklyns-boom-box-mom/

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/victim-of-abuse/

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Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

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Victim of America’s expanding and shameful *National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect,* aka *Poverty*, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children from experiencing and enjoying a safe, fairly happy American kid childhood!

#TakePrideInParenting
#EndChildAbuseNeglect
#ProtectKidsFromIrresponsibleCaregivers

Is Journalist Charles M. Blow Mired In Statistics, Ignorant To The Realities of Child Abuse/Neglect & Poverty?

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https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

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Charles McRay Blow
(born August 11, 1970)

via Black Dads Are Doing Best of All – NYTimes.com.

Child Abuse/Neglect Leads To Poverty, Resentment And Crime

For the past several months I have been following Mr. Charles Blow’s writings, viewing them through the eyes of a middle-class NYC suburbs “Average Joe” child who was a toddler when Motown music was in its infancy.

Years later, as a uniformed Brooklyn cop and robbery/homicide investigator, my eyes also witnessed the emotional pain and physical damage caused to peaceful people by the anti-social activities Brooklyn resident and American rapper Shawn “Jay Z” Carter raps/writes about causing to countless Brooklyn residents and “Average Joes” working in communities Shawn Carter raps/writes about actively and callously attempting to destroy.

In his 2015 Grammy award winning rap performance, “I”, American Rap Performance Artist Kendrick Lamar reveals, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”

In a January 20, 2011 LAWeekly interview American rapper and 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar, born in 1987, the same year songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and victim denial that was nominated for a Grammy award, he told the interviewer:

“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”*

*”I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles laying with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”

In a October 25, 2012 Kendrick again reveals who failed a young developing Kendrick Lamar and his siblings, causing him to experience emotional trauma that understandably lead to the depression he raps about in his Gammy Award winner performance of “I”.

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I am curious if Charles Blow would be interested in learning about the emotional trauma experienced by AVERAGE JOE elementary school children like Kendrick Lamar?

Perhaps Mr. Blow would like to speak with Kendrick’s immediate and extended families, as well as his depressed neighbors, asking them if they believe their chosen lifestyle deprived Kendrick, his siblings, cousins, neighborhood friends, elementary and JHS classmates, from experiencing a safe, some what happy AVERAGE JOE childhood?

After reading Kendrick Lamar’s comments, would Charles ask Kendrick, his siblings and friends if they feel resentment for being deprived from experiencing the safe, some-what happy life they are aware most American AVERAGE JOE kids are enjoying?

Seems to me Kendrick identified the source of his depression, the roots of poverty, the child abuse/maltreatment that prevented him, his brothers, sisters, cousins, neighborhood friends and elementary school classmates from enjoying a fairly happy safe AVERAGE JOE childhood.

Seems the adults responsible for raising the children in Kendrick’s immediate and extended family placed obstacles in their children’s way, causing their kids to deal with challenges and stresses young minds are not prepared to deal with…nor should they or any other children be exposed to and have to deal with.

Perhaps these obstacles and challenges cause some developing children’s minds to become tormented and go haywire, confused not knowing right from wrong, OR NOT CARING ABOUT right from wrong.

I’ve met depressed, frustrated kids like Kendrick. I’ve arrested them, witnessed their pain and sadness, learned the roots of their pain and sadness when I met their caretakers, mostly single moms.

I’ve watched young AVERAGE JOE teens tearfully express their anger at their moms, for introducing them to a life of pain and struggle, totally unlike the mostly safe, happy life the media showed them many American kids were enjoying.

I wonder how little Kendrick and his AVERAGE JOE classmates reacted when their elementary school teacher introduced the DARE presenter and they learned about the real dangers of drugs and how they harm people, including their parents?

In her book, “Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome: America’s Legacy of Enduring Injury and Healing (PTSS)”, author and researcher Dr. Joy DeGruy’s does an excellent job relating how “Cognitive Dissonance” affected Americans who embrace racism and were/are victims of racism that deeply tainted and impeded our evolving species.

Does Charles Blow believe “Cognitive Dissonance” is partly responsible for the frustration and anger many teens and adults embrace?

Does Charles Blow have the capacity to recognize the statistics he relies on to form his opinions do not reflect the REAL LIFE struggles and challenges developing minds encounter when those young minds are raised and nurtured by moms and dads like Mr. and Mrs. Lamar (Duckworth)?

Does Mr. Blow’s intellect include ferreting out and exposing the reasons for why my much admired Motown musicians and most all talented composers/musicians from the 60s wrote lyrics loving, praising and adoring females…and beginning in the 80s the children and grandchildren of my Motown friends began creating/writing rap performance lyrics that essentially characterizes females, aka moms, sisters, grandmas and daughters…as witches and bhores, or less than human people undeserving of respect?

Would the American public, his readers, fans and followers be better served if author, media commentator, journalist Mr. Charles M. Blow logged off the electronic devices he uses to locate the statistics he cites, and invited AVERAGE JOE Kendrick Lamar for a sit-down discussing the child abuse, neglect and maltreatment Kendrick raps about in his “Average Joe,” performance as well as the fifteen similar “Average Joe” raps Kendrick mentions in his LAWeekly interview?

When Kendrick was a “Average Joe” kid, his voice was stifled by his community, fear of being emotionally and/or physically harmed prevented him from talking about the emotional damage he experienced, and observed his parents and neighbors were inflicting on themselves, his siblings, his neighborhood friends, as well as many of his AVERAGE JOE elementary and JHS classmates.

Years later as an adult, Kendrick Lamar raps and speaks about the child abuse he was victimized by that prevented him from experiencing the Average Joe Kid life I pretty much experienced…yet no one is listening to Kendrick!!!

Instead, people with larger voices than Kendrick’s, people who have the power to more aggressively expose the childhood abuse that caused Kendrick to experience depression for much of his life, seem more concerned about focusing on and perpetuating racial issues that have very little to do with Kendrick’s parents making poor and irresponsible lifestyle choices for Kendrick and their other children.

As it stands today, I am not sure if Charles M. Blow has the strength and fortitude to support Kendrick Lamar, to help Kendrick spare thousands other American children from experiencing Cognitive Dissonance that caused him to develop into a man emotionally scarred for life by his “living wild” parents, extended family and neighbors.

Charles, it may cause you some pain, though if you sincerely want to help our struggling American neighbors, you will support Kendrick’s voice using plain English the AVERAGE JOE can easily understand.

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Victims of Child Abuse:

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds from the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

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In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

Charles Blow: In Charleston, a millennial race terrorist | National columnists | Kentucky.com

 Charles Blow: In Charleston, a millennial race terrorist

June 22, 2015

red-dotCharles Blow asks important questions, “Who radicalized Roof? Who passed along the poison? We must never be lulled into a false belief that racism is dying off with older people.”

http://www.kentucky.com/2015/06/22/3912721_charles-blow-in-charleston-a-millennial.html

Hi. Perhaps I am being naively simplistic, however, I am thinking if more people, in particular single females, begin to responsibly raise children who are fairly happy kids, maturing into teens and adults who DO NOT flood popular music with lyrics depicting hate, disrespect, violence, poison drug sales, and very little respect for females who more often than not, are characterized as witches and bhoers, or less than human, undeserving of respect, much like the ignorant Americans of our past who embraced the human ignorance we call racism…

…I’m thinking if fuel was not being fed to the fire, the fire will extinguish itself.

People won’t hate on people they do not fear. Removing the reason for fear, ends the hate. Again, I am probably being extremely simplistic asking my fellow humans to recognize a majority of human beings become fearful when they hear people acting crazy and promoting hate.

Sadly many human will stereotype, believing an entire population is responsible for craziness when they nurture children who rap and write about harming peaceful people in the communities they live in.

What really makes me sad are people who write to incite, for notoriety and profit, without a hint of wanting to learn the core reason for why many kids are so angry.

Their writings rarely include finding real solutions so kids no longer experience depression causing them to characterize their moms, sisters, grandmas and aunts as less than human witches and bhores, much like some or many ignorant Americans characterized African hostages of early American slavery.

Lucky for me, I grew up with Motown musicians who wrote and composed sounds that made me, my friends and neighbors dance and smile. Their music told me, and influenced me, to believe they are good people, deserving of my admiration and respect. As I matured Stevie came along, Sly Stone visited my life, Jimi came along too. All these men wrote and performed some of the greatest peaceful music filled with love that has ever been ever produced, and I was there to witness it all.

Gotta tell ya, I feel pretty lucky to grow up during the period of American history these mega-talented American men and women were making me smile, AND I was able to witness them share their musical magic during their prime.

Their music influenced and conditioned a young, developing me to respect and admire them for their peacefulness and talent, loving and purchasing their music was my way of thanking them for sharing it. No doubt my life would have many fewer happy moments and smiles in it, if it were not for these talented American composers, lyricists and musicians.

Unfortunately, young people today, they wake up in the morning, tuning into contemporary music stations, hearing performers rapping or singing about anti-social activities that might possible scare the heck out of them, causing them to fear these musicians and performers, not wanting to respect them because they are abhorred by the messages being conveyed in the sounds they produce.

I was about ten-years-old when I began building a music collection of 45s and record albums. It was not the lyrics that attracted me, it was the musical production that caught my ear. I could not even discern the lyrics for many bands or performers, didn’t matter cause I liked the sound of a particular voice or harmonies and the musical sounds they made.

I have a feeling kids today aren’t much different. They listen to beats and rhythms they like, the lyrics being secondary or unimportant.

I have a feeling if most young people where really listening to the lyrics, grasping their meaning, understanding the anti-social behaviors inspiring the lyrics, and how peaceful people are emotionally and physically harmed by these anti-social behaviors, they might view these performers differently then I viewed the peaceful American music makers back in my day, before women were characterized as less than human creatures by many of their rap hip hop artist sons and daughters.

Americans of African descent who wrote and performed music during my formative years ‘conditioned’ me to believe they are no different from most all freedom loving Americans. As far as I was concerned they are cool, talented people I would like to meet and/or watch perform.

Is it possible popular Americans of African descent, today are writing and performing music that in many people’s minds inspires hatred and fear, leading these people to believe the performers are not worthy of respect or even fit to share in the blessings of our free society?

Considering the size of our population and the number of kids from every single American community who grow up feeling unloved or emotionally abandon by their parent(s), kids who suffer abuse, neglect and maltreatment during a period in their lives when they MOST need attention and guidance, I am not surprised when some of these kids vent in a violent fashion.

Another thing that does not surprise me is the silence I witness when I ask people why all Motown music artists wrote beautiful music praising and adoring women, yet many of today’s popular and aspiring music performers really do not inspire much love or respect for our moms, sisters, grandmas daughter and aunts.

Right now I am thankful the overwhelming majority of my American neighbors simply want to live peaceful lives, raising peaceful children who further aide our species toward following the footsteps of the outside intelligence that seeded us here a million years ago to study our development, or perhaps wager whether or not we evolve into a intelligent, peaceful life form. 🙂

I’d wager we can, well before the next asteroid strike has us following the footsteps of Dino, Fred and family.

Victims of Child Abuse:

Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.

Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.

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Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.

Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.

https://knutesniche.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/shawn-jayz-carter-brooklyns-finest.png

In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.

Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.

“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again

Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say

And it’s not your business anyway”

http://www.kidsmatterinc.org/for-families/abuse-and-neglect-resources/emotional-abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/

#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers-and-errant-asteroids

Is American Journalist Charles M. Blow Racist?

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Is American Journalist Charles M. Blow Racist?

February 2, 2015

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American Journalist Charles McRay Blow (born August 11, 1970)

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Recent events in my country, concerning issues existing for many generations, have motivated me to share my life experiences that include dedicating twelve tears of my adult life to providing uniform and investigative police services to a predominantly poor NYC community.

Prior to publishing his thoughts and concerns for his family’s safety, as well as issues involving police procedures for detaining people reasonably suspected of being involved in criminal activity, I heard of Charles Blow yet knew nothing about his views of our world. After reading his thoughts and concerns for his son, as well as watching a few recorded on-air interviews, I still don’t know much about Charles Blow’s views of our world, though I do know his concerns for his child’s safety when dealing with police authority, have merit.

I know Mr. Blow’s concerns have merit because I’ve served alongside police officers with sour attitudes, I’ve stood next to police officers as they acted less than professional, allowing themselves to be baited by an angry, frustrated resident(s) of the community they serve. I’ve experienced the shame and embarrassment witnessing one of my colleagues perform his or her duties in a manner not consistent with our training. I’ve also experienced concerns for my safety because an officer decided it was more important to voice his/her personal opinions, then it was to quell a situation with a potential for violence. We are supposed to be the good guys who are expected to remain rational and calm, it pained me when some officers I worked with failed to remember that.

A good friend I’d known most of my young and adult life, a peaceful, well mannered college educated man with three years experience in the NYPD strongly implored me to apply for the job. After some discussion I decided to take his advice because I trusted and valued his opinions.

However, my friend did not prepare me for one important aspect of police service/culture that caused me much concern, a mind-set that cops never witness, expose or talk about unprofessional conduct, a mind-set that police officers never admit fault or expose other officer’s faults. A mind-set that officers who speak-up about unprofessional conduct need to be punished, no longer trusted and shunned for not adhering to the police code of silence.

From the beginning of my career I learned an unwritten rule in police work “Always have a [plausible] story ready.” In my experience, for the most part, this mentality existed from brass down to my patrol supervisor, “Always have a story ready!”

Setting aside the ‘protect another cop at almost all costs’ mentality, a vast majority of the cops and bosses I worked with were decent people doing a job that at times was thrilling, exciting, challenging, demanding, rewarding and boring as heck, yet at times is extremely dangerous…citing the sunny afternoon three of us chased an armed young man through a city housing project and I listened to the bullet he fired at us whiz by my ear at about a 1000 feet per second as he entered the lobby of a building. After the bad guy got away I asked three old timers sitting on the bench nearby why they did not scatter after the knucklehead let a round loose? Nodding their heads in agreement, one of the gentlemen spoke for them, “Officer, that kind of foolishness goes on around here all the time.”

Surprisingly, not one person enjoying this beautiful sunny day watching three plainclothes officers mired down with bullet-resistant vests, gun-belts, our equipment clanking away as we chased on foot this armed young man around the perimeter of a hi-rise housing complex building, not once but twice, as if he is taunting us before he entered the lobby, recognized the young man fleeing from police.

Nor did anyone except for colleagues I spoke with afterwards, come forward to express concern or fear after witnessing the young man attempting to seriously injure or murder one the people trying to protect their community from violence and harm posed to them by this young man when he clearly demonstrated his lack of empathy by aiming and firing a deadly projectile at me, causing me to hear a sound that if the young man had aimed his deadly weapon at me one half-inch or so to his right, I would have never heard.

I wonder if incidents like this have anything to do with why some/many cops at times act less than professional when interacting with some/many community members?

This was one of many occasions I pondered, which came first, The Police Blue Wall of Silence, or The Community Wall of Silence?

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On my blog I write about a few of the reasons I believe some/many police officers adopt or at times exhibit a less than professional attitude.

Later in this writing I address Mr. Blow’s specific questions about why police act the way they do when detaining people. Though first I would like to share my thoughts about those who toss around the racist word, characterizing Mr. Blow as racist.

Growing up in the ’60s this is the definition of racism I was taught:

noun – a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human racial groups determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to dominate others or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others.

Through my years I noticed some/many people have a tendency to alter or broaden long-standing established definitions for words, I believe they do this to make a word fit their agenda or because they are not familiar with its established definition.

Frankly, I view racist/racism as words representing hate, anger and hostility. I have not read many of Mr. Blow’s writings, nor watched many of his on-air interviews, though I have to believe a man raised by a mother who nurtured him to become a educated, successful person does not believe one human race is inherently superior to another, as some people suggest in their Internet writings when characterizing Mr. Blow as a racist.

Do I believe Mr. Blow holds prejudice in his heart? Yes, I do. Perhaps his prejudices mirror or in some/many ways resemble mine?

I won’t list all of my prejudices, though I will share a few starting with Sheldon Silver, former longtime speaker of the New York State Assembly.

Sheldon Silver is a respected man and leader in his community.

A community/faction that wishes to live by their own standards and laws.

A community that according to some/many victims/witnesses residing in the community wishes to hide from public view crimes committed against spouses, women and children.

A community embracing religious views that IMO deny an American woman’s lawful right to experience her vision of Life, Liberty and The Pursuit of Happiness.

A community that according to victims/witnesses who mustered the strength and courage to speak out, chooses to protect violent men and/or men who emotionally and physically abuse their spouses or children.

A community where some/many will shun and attempt to shame those strong enough to expose the injustices within their community.

Based on these known facts, not only am I prejudice toward some/many of Sheldon Silver’s supporters and fellow community members, I believe these people are loathsome human beings for adopting and embracing a philosophy that protects the predatory criminals in their community.

I am certain not everyone in this community embraces the Community Wall of Silence mentality for protecting their criminal minded neighbors, I’m sure there are some/many who fear retribution if they speak out, however because they have not spoken out to protect their neighbors from harm, I believe the entire Sheldon Silver community is diseased, populated by anti-social people.

Until I learn there is a change in this community’s attitude, I will continue to view the entire Silver community as people not worthy or deserving of my respect. I have little compassion for educated people who abuse or maltreat their loved ones or neighbors.

Another of my prejudices is based on personally witnessing some/many females in the predominantly poor NYC community I served for over a decade, not only fail to provide a stable, healthy loving environment for their children, but in many instances fail to perceive/realize the environments they created for their kids is causing emotional and psychological damage that in some/many cases will last a lifetime.

Am I wrong for holding prejudice toward some/many teen/adult caregivers who in my opinion selfishly exploit the birth of a child in order to acquire public funds/support to rescue them from the dysfunctional family they were raised in as children?

Frankly, I view some/many of these irresponsible moms differently from Sheldon Silver supporters because I believe a majority of Silver supporters enjoy a better quality of life and do not face the same challenges a person living in a community where violence can and does erupt more frequently. Though the bottom-line is there are people from both communities who willfully and/or ‘cluelessly’ fail to protect/children from harm.

Yes, there are people from all communities and backgrounds who fail to value a child’s well being and fail to protect children from harm. When reliable evidence shows me there are clans/groups/factions/communities that embrace a philosophy for looking the other way when their neighbors are committing crimes against their spouses, children and neighbors, I will add them to the list of people I no longer trust or respect. They will become people I view with distrust and wariness, or what some people may define as racism or prejudice.

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I believe a quote from Mr. Blow’s website, http://www.charlesmblow.com where he comments about his mom’s steel in raising her children exposes the core reason for why some/many children mature into angry, frustrated people who often vent their negative emotions on their peaceful neighbors in the form of crime and violence.

Quoting from Mr. Blow’s website, “An isolated boy, Blow is fiercely attached to his mother, a woman with five sons, brass knuckles in her glove box, a job plucking poultry, a soon-to-be ex-husband, and a love of newspapers and learning.

Like every single one of us living on our tiny blue orb, we were given life by a woman.

Yeah, there is a man involved in the creation of life though most all cultures depend on women to nurture and raise children who mature into peaceful, happy teens/adults who understand and embrace empathy, as well as scores of other traits necessary for developing into a peaceful, healthy teen/adult.

Obviously Mr. Blow loves and respects his mom and her brass knuckles. My mom raised me and sis under the threat of a cat-and-nine-tails stored in our kitchen’s utility drawer, a subliminal reminder not to cross the lines she established.

My mom married a young Korean war vet who I learned developed a fondness for alcohol during his time overseas, though like many women who fall for a guy with a substance abuse issue, she accepted or ignored his character flaw and married him anyway.

Dad was a peaceful liquid drug addict who mom always maintained was a good provider and never physically abused her, though when she learned he stepped out on her with another woman she was soon on a Mexico bound plane, returning a few days later with a divorce decree.

My mom was left fending for three of us, she ended up being hospitalized with a nervous breakdown. I can only imagine the stresses and challenges Mr. Blow’s mom faced providing for six people, all boys no less. Feeding and clothing five boys is difficult enough for a single mom, add on the stress of supervising/disciplining five maturing boys and I’ll bet Mrs. Blow had more in her parenting arsenal than brass knuckles. 🙂

It cannot be easy for a single mom to assume all the roles required to socialize kids and keep them on the straight and narrow. Sadly if my mom had not ignored the red flags of substance abuse my dad was flying before she married him, her life may not have hit a rough patch. Though I understand, even empathize with young people who fall in lust and make poor choices.

Obviously Charles’ mom was a bit stronger than mine in coping with the loss of her children’s father and life mate. Seems she did a pretty good job raising and nurturing a motivated child who repaid her love by aspiring to become a man she would be proud of.

Most of us want to make our mom’s proud, because like Mr. Blow and myself, we appreciate and respect all they have done for us. We recognize there is one person in our lives who is primarily responsible for insuring we developed the skills required to be peaceful, fairly content people who respect our neighbors and communities.

However, unlike the majority of our children raised and nurtured by loving, caring moms, there are some/many mothers who make babies without first acquiring the skills required to nurture a developing human life.

Based on my experiences during a decade of providing uniform and investigative services to a predominantly poor NYC community, I have a theory for why some/many children lack empathy or compassion, and often mature into frustrated, angry teens/adults who vent their anger and frustrations on their peaceful neighbors.

This is one of many experiences that I base my theory on.

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If Mr. Blow and I were born to this mother, I believe our ability to develop into peaceful members of our society would have been seriously impaired. I also believe we may not respect our moms or any other women, regardless of whether or not they are part of our lives.

One evening a call for police service brought me to a young mom’s second floor walk-up apartment in a private dwelling, she was reporting the theft of a Boom-Box radio taken from her kitchen window sill by someone trespassing on her building’s fire escape.

Entering this young mom’s apartment I observed several children, some in diapers, a few older, sitting on a living room couch, an aluminum fifty-five gallon, half-filled trash can was sitting right in the middle of her tiny living room, as if it was her coffee table. One of her living room walls was smeared with several dark stains of what I believed to be human waste.

I calmly recorded her theft complaint and left, immediately reporting my observations to my sergeant who instructed me to contact child welfare. Forty-five minutes later the children were removed from this mom’s care, temporarily placed in the custody and care of the people of New York City.

Sadly, this was not my only interaction with this mom.

Months later I arrested her younger brother for robbery. According to the victims and one witness to this act of violence who recognized her brother from the neighborhood, he placed what appeared to be a handgun in the face of two victims and threatened their lives while demanding and taking their property.

Until she arrived at the precinct to protest her brother’s arrest, I had no idea my young prisoner was related to the mom whose maltreated children I caused to be taken from her months earlier. At the top of her lungs, much like Michael Brown’s father when he was recorded reacting to the perceived injustice to his family member, she adamantly insisted her brother was not a robber.

I showed her the gun I recovered from her brother’s pocket, I told her one witness knows her brother from the neighborhood, still not convinced she came very close to being arrested for becoming disorderly and refusing to leave the precinct once her business was done. Later I learned that she appeared in court when her younger brother was arrested months earlier for an unrelated robbery.

What was the point of lying about her brother not being a street thug, when there are public records indicating she knew he was committing acts of violence toward people months before she looked me in the eye and vehemently denied her brother is a robber?

I believe I know the answer to my own question. Again, I have no formal training in understanding why people tend to act the way they do, however based on my life experiences I believe Boom-Box mom lied to me without a care or second thought because she was raised to believe lying and denial is how people cope with uncomfortable situations..or..she never acquired and developed the critical thinking skills required to look past living in the moment, or the “here and now’.

Time and time again I interviewed adults and teens who lied to me about easily verifiable facts, often placing themselves at risk for being arrested for obstructing or impeding criminal investigations. Is this something most people with average critical thinking skills would do?

After every day or night’s work I had a 30-40 minute commute home, which gave me time to reflect on the day’s events, how I responded to them, and what I learned from them. Many nights I would drive home with a smile on my face, thinking to myself, “Holy smokes, I can’t believe I get paid to have this much fun identifying and locking up dangerous people.”

During many of these winding-down, reflective moments I would actually experience a euphoric feeling of being “high on life.” For me, at that time in my career, chasing down seriously dangerous bad people who illegally armed themselves with firearms for the purpose of committing mayhem on a mostly peaceful population of working class and poor fellow Americans was the ultimate high, as well as a fringe benefit of police work.

In many cases after taking an alleged dangerous person into custody, I had the opportunity to speak with them and gain ‘some’ insight into what makes them tick. I have no formal training in psychology, however, after meeting and talking with many people who are alleged to have committed crimes in this community, I personally concluded many of the people I arrested were raised and nurtured in environments that lacked real love, understanding, caring and guidance.

Driving home after my first interaction with the aforementioned Boom-Box mom, I thought about her values, her understanding of what is expected of the people who nurture our children, her consideration for laws that society imposes on all people who assume the serious responsibility of rearing children.

I concluded Boom-Box mom was “clueless,” lacking good judgment and skills in all areas required for her to be a good nurturer.

I asked myself, “What is going on in the mind of a mother who invites a law enforcement official into her home, in which she has created a environment for her children that posed a serious risk to their physical well being and health, as well as their psychological development?”

“Does she not realize what she is doing to her children or how her clueless behavior can imprint and affect them for life?”

“Before calling the police did Boom-Box mom not realize society enacted laws protecting her children from the physically harmful and emotionally abusive home she created for them?”

I have to believe Boom-Box mom’s method for parenting is a learned behavior, instilled either during her own upbringing or gleaned from the people she is friends or associates with. Which leaves me wondering if Boom-Box mom ever invited friends or guests to her apartment, and if she did, why didn’t they report the apparent maltreatment and emotional abuse she was exposing her helpless children to?

I am not trying to be harsh by characterizing Boom-Box mom as totally “clueless.” I believe she is a victim of a society accepted cycle of dysfunctional family and community environments…from birth, it appears Boom-Box mom was not shown what a loving environment is made of, it’s difficult for me to be mad at people who are victimized by the recurring cycle, and it certainly makes me better understand why so much rage, anger and frustration exists in the hearts and minds of young “black people” who are raised in these environments.

If I was being raised in the cycle of poverty by a “clueless” parent, as I mature, learning more about the world and witnessing how others are having fun, prospering, loving their families and lives, more than likely over time I’d be real upset, simmering, maybe even rage as I aged and my home environment does not improve.

I think about Boom-Box mom’s children and what they have to look forward to, what skills does she offer her children…what goes through her baby’s minds as they gather around the trash can mom placed in the middle of their living room, day after day watching television depicting the good lives Americans of all backgrounds are enjoying?

What really saddens me……is knowing, based on my experiences, that Boom-Box mom’s “clueless” mindset is replicated by mom’s and parents throughout this community. It saddens and angers me that little kids are in many cases, doomed from the start, or before they are conceived.

When I look back at the environment my parents created for me and how I responded to that environment, I realize my goals were to please my parents by respecting and appreciating what they were doing for me. And most importantly doing my best not to disappoint them because they loved me and made sure I knew it by actively being involved in my life, and aiding me in shaping my life as I developed into a peaceful person who felt loved and cared for.

Two immutable rules in our household were impressed upon me at a young age, “Always be truthful” and “Before judging, wear the other person’s shoes.” Thinking back mom and dad never used the word “empathy” when admonishing me for not thinking before I shot my mouth off, they always said “wear the other person’s shoes.”

I am thinking if my mom and dad placed a trash can in our living room, ignored feces smeared on our walls, got sis and I removed from their custody because they were not providing basic care for me and sis…I am thinking I’d be a pretty messed up kid incapable of embracing the concept of empathy, or purposefully not showing empathy for others because my life sucks and I don’t care about others.

Or perhaps I’d use my intentional lack of empathy as a means to peeve or ‘get-back’ at my parents by engaging in anti-social behaviors that would eventually get me arrested, causing my parents to recognize that I exist, or depending on their views of the police, causing them to interact with authority people they may not necessarily like or trust, thus peeving them.

As I wrote, my experiences occurred years ago.

Recently I looked at current crime stats for this community and learned there has been a significant decrease in reported crimes, though there is still a good amount of violent crimes being committed.

If society continues failing to monitor caregivers who require public funds to raise, nurture and support their children, these kids will continue to be raised in environments like the one Boom-Box mom created for her kids.

I am hoping when camera technology proves its mettle in protecting police officers, as well as identifying officers who require further training or officers who have no business serving the public in a LE capacity, we will use that same technology to protect children by monitoring the common area of homes in which caregivers have established a track record for failing to properly raise, nurture and/or supervise their children. Especially in communities with higher crime rates where kids are more often exposed to some/many neighbors with a mindset for lawlessness.

Recently I watched a video that saddened me as well as enlightened me when I learned child welfare investigators test the hair of child abuse victims for “ambient” exposure to drugs. Holy smokes, the numbers were critical. At the least cameras would expose signs of intoxication in homes identified as requiring extra care to prevent children from being emotionally and or physically harmed.

My Logic:

If a person requires public funds to raise and nurture a child, society is essentially investing in America’s future by offering support to irresponsible women who in many cases give life to children they are not prepared to care for without, and in some/many instances, with our support.

By bearing a child/children without having the means to provide for her child, a mom has already demonstrated that she is not a mature, responsible person.

Society compassionately, and because we do not have any other choice, provides support and care for a child born to a immature, irresponsible mother, and due to financial constraints we do little to insure our investment in immature mother’s children is being used to raised and nurture her kids in a physically and emotionally healthy environment.

Cameras would allow society to closely monitor our investment without being overly intrusive or having to hire more child welfare investigators to protect children from immature, irresponsible caregivers, which we should be doing now.

Society created laws to protect peaceful people from anti-social people.

To protect society from children who develop anti-social attitudes, we arrest teens for committing crimes, yet we do not hold accountable the mothers and fathers legally responsible for nurturing and supervising these kids?

Why is that?

Does society’s current and long-standing policy for ignoring children born to immature females and anonymous or immature males need to be re-evaluated?

Seems reasonable society should have a right to closely monitor our investments and insure that kids are being raised and nurtured with love >>> and not indifference.

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In January 2015 Mr. Blow reported his son was detained at gunpoint by a police officer.
(Video Interview)

I understand Mr. Blow’s concerns for his son’s safety. I also understand the officer’s concern for his personal as well as public safety at the time he is conducting an investigation in public.

I would like to answer the questions Mr. Blow asked in the article he published about his son.

Charles Blow asks, “Why was a gun drawn first?”

Without knowing the details available to the officer at the time he detained Mr. Blow’s son, it is difficult to determine if he was justified in pointing his weapon at a citizen. Though the officer was investigating a felony, burglars are known to carry firearms as well as possess them as proceeds of a burglary.

Charles Blow asks, “Why was he not immediately told why he was being detained? Why not ask for ID first?”

As a cop conducting a criminal investigation I would not show my cards to a suspect, possibly influencing his replies. Plus, does it make sense to stress a citizen by informing them they are being detained because I suspect they may be a criminal?

Or does it makes sense to first ask for an explanation for the person’s conduct, and when they provide a reasonable explanation, send them on their way without adding stress to their lives by insinuating they are a criminal?

Charles Blow asks, “Why not ask for ID first?”

Unless the investigating officer knows the name of the person suspected of committing a crime prior to detaining a citizen in public, what is the point for asking a detainees name without first asking questions to determine if the person being detained is a viable suspect?

When serving a predominantly poor NYC community I detained dozens and dozens of people pursuant to NYS CPL article 140.50…and never asked their names because they provided a reasonable explanation for their conduct at the time I detained and questioned them.

However there were times when approaching a suspect I immediately drew my service weapon, held it at my side or intentionally pointed it at them firmly advising them they may be harmed if they do not comply with my orders.

I am not sure if NYS’s CPL or the NYPD’s policy for temporarily detaining people in public places has changed since I was schooled?

During my time with the department I was trained that a PO detaining a person suspected of committing a “violent” crime, for the officer’s safety, was automatically subjected to a pat down before questioning began. As I did on this evening while patrolling a mostly poor NYC community.

On patrol, observe a young man who was the spitting image of a robbery suspect I was looking for, carried the suspect’s mug shot with me and looked at his face most everyday for weeks, so I was certain he was the guy I wanted to arrest.

We approach, no questions asked, immediately pat him down and recover a huge silver six-shot revolver from his person. Further investigation revealed he is not the ‘wanted person’ in the photo I was looking for.

Mr. Six-shot takes the case to trial beginning with a hearing to determine if I had lawful grounds to detain and search him. I showed the judge the official PD photo I used to base the stop on, testified why I stopped Mr. Six-shot. The judge decided there was sufficient evidence to proceed to trial, setting a trial date.

Sometime later the DA calls me to his office for trial prep…a day later he calls and tells me the trial is off, the young man I arrested walking around the streets of NYC with a loaded hi-power illegal firearm tucked in his waistband was the victim of a violent homicide in his Maryland hometown.

I have no doubt Mr. Blows concerns for his and his son’s safety when interacting with police officers are justified. As are the suburban families recorded expressing the thoughts, fears and concerns for their children. Watching this interview is pretty heart wrenching, certainly mirroring Mr Blow’s concerns and fears.

Sadly, as a police officer I too experience fear for my personal safety when interacting with people I do not know.

Especially people in a community with an established track record for raising and nurturing some/many of its children in homes/environments that emotionally conditions these kids to accept a life of lawlessness and disrespecting their peaceful neighbors.

Based on over a decade of providing uniformed and investigative police services to a predominantly poor NYC community, I have my own thoughts and concerns for why some/many children in poor communities mature into angry, frustrated teens/adults lacking empathy for others, often violently venting their anger and frustrations on their peaceful people.

On my Knute’s Niche blog I suggest why music artists from generations past wrote music loving and adoring woman, and the reasons I believe for why the love and respect for women has apparently evaporated for some/many of today’s music artists who characterize women and girls as “Bhores and Witches” in their popular music.

When & Why Did Women Become “Bitches & Whores?

I am curious to learn if anyone else has a theory for why some/many today’s artists write music >>> essentially disrespecting their moms, sisters, and daughters?

I understand and sympathize with Mr. Blows fears and concerns for his family’s safety, though I wonder if he is willing to recognize the core issue for why police and some/many Americans have concerns for their safety when interacting with dark complected people, some/many of whom are raised and nurtured by irresponsible caregivers who I believe are primarily responsible for causing much of the prejudice some/many Americans and others hold in their hearts.

When Mr. Charles Blow and others are willing to honestly identify the core reason fueling much of the prejudice brown or dark complected people experience, not only will he and others be protecting children from harm, they will be helping to eliminate a prejudice that at this time in American history I believe I have a moral right to embrace. For if we do not embrace our prejudices and speak about them, children and women will continue to be victimized…and continue to believe that no one cares or thinks about them.

#child-safety
#protect-kids-from-irresponsible-caregivers

yellow-horizontalAmerican Journalist Charles McRay Blow (born August 11, 1970)

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American Journalist Charles McRay Blow
(born August 11, 1970)

http://www.kidsmatterinc.org/for-families/abuse-and-neglect-resources/emotional-abuse

https://knutesniche.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/dr-joy-degruy-addresses-black-depression-violence-and-healing/