I understand dysfunctional parenting touches the lives of newborns, infants, toddlers, children and teens residing in EVERY single American community.
Though when I read stories about emotionally troubled young American children of African descent I think about one particular experience of many sad child-related experiences I regularly witnessed during the 80s-90s when I was providing police services to a Brooklyn, NY community populated by many aspiring, soon to be popular American Rap recording artists and Hip-Hop performers.
After witnessing his rise to American fame and glory, I learned one of these young rappers was a depressed, angry, neglected and unsupervised teen named Shawn Carter, today known as “Jay Z” a nationally and internationally mega-popular American recording artist who travels around our beautiful tiny blue orb informing our foreign neighbors as well as OUR nation’s children and teens that American girls and women, aka MATERNAL HALF of our population, are less than human ^itches and ^hores undeserving of basic human respect.
Mid-Sunday afternoon I’m directed to the Lafayette Gardens Houses to assist EMS with a birth. Enter a dingy apartment, observe several young women and children watching EMS tend to a woman lying on a shabby mattress laying in the middle of the apartment’s living room floor.
A man in his late 30s, apparently awakened by the noise, enters the living room rubbing sleep from his eyes, seemingly annoyed and wanting to know what all the commotion is about. When he learns he is about to become a father, he makes a remark that I cannot recall, as he heads back to bed.
However, there was a remark made by one of the women witnessing the birth of this male NEWBORN that will remain with me for my entire life, “He’s gonna be a baddd boy, I can tell by looking at him he’s gonna be baddd.”
The women witnessing this beautiful human event all laughed and chortled at the naysayer’s prediction for the newborn’s future, as if it was funny.
For me, it was one of the sadder moments I witnessed during my life and police career. I thought caring, loving, responsible family and friends would offer a newborn nothing but best wishes for a fun, SAFE, productive life. I still think that is true, yet sadly this, as well as other Brooklyn experiences I had tells me not all people celebrate or show respect for a new human life in the same way.
Witnessing the events and circumstances that surrounded this newborn baby’s entrance into our world, saddened and maddened me, knowing this child was doomed to be raised, nurtured and socialized surrounded by primary child care-givers and other adults who moments after his birth had already painted a bleak future for him. 😦
Sooner or later one realizes reporting what appears to be substandard child-rearing environments would take up much of the day and in the end the children end up where they started, back in the care of a irresponsible MATERNAL or other PRIMARY CHILD CAREGIVER failing to recognize that placing ABOVE ALL ELSE the EMOTIONAL WELL BEING of their child(ren) will most likely result with a fairly or wonderfully happy child maturing into a reasonably responsible teen and adult respecting themselves, their peaceful neighbors and the authority responsible for maintaining peace in all American neighborhoods.
Americans using the terms Gangsta Culture, Street Life, Street Hustle or Street Culture are describing what I term America’s expanding Culture of Child Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment, aka Poverty, that for decades has deprived untold numbers of emotionally abused and neglected young developing children, as well as teens, from experiencing and enjoying a SAFE, fairly or wonderfully happy American kid childhood!
I met this newborn more than thirty-years ago. I wish I could meet him today and learn about his life experiences.
I can only hope he was smart and strong enough to resist being mentally conditioned by his caretakers, their friends and/or community to embrace “The Street Culture” NYC gang member and admitted victim of Childhood Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment Little Carmen was forced and conditioned to embrace at a young age…through no fault of her own.
“The Hate U Give Little Infants Fvvks Everyone”. ~Tupac on T.H.U.G. L.I.F.E.
Tupac was well aware that not only are American kids being UNJUSTLY OPPRESSED and DEPRIVED from experiencing their full human potential, Tupac realized OUR NATION is being deprived of enjoying the potential achievements offered to ALL Americans by reasonably well adjusted kids maturing into responsible teens and adults who care about the future of OUR Nation.
One time White House guest Kendrick Lamar, a popular multiple Grammy Award winning American urban story teller and victim of some pretty horrific criminal early Childhood Trauma, Abuse, Neglect and Maltreatment is an adult who managed to physically survive the American terrorism he began witnessing when he was FIVE-YEARS-OLD.
However, in his music and interviews Kendrick has made it clear the TERRIFYING CHILDHOOD TRAUMA, Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment he experienced during a critical period of his Human/Childhood Development continues causing him to experience emotional pain and torment well into adulthood.
Kendrick Lamar Talks About ‘u,’ His Depression & Suicidal Thoughts (Pt. 2) | MTV Video News April 2015
It is time to end “America’s War on Poverty,” correctly renaming our Nation’s expanding social disorder and # ONE HEALTH CRISIS known as CHILDHOOD TRAUMA, to
“America’s War on Childhood Abuse, Neglect & Maltreatment”
Doctors Ross and Dietz offer insights into how our Early Childhood Development plays a key role in determining the type of individual we mature into.
Robert K. Ross, MD, President and CEO of The California Endowment, addressed inmates at Ironwood State Prison offering a compelling overview of the role that exposure to Childhood Trauma plays in the lives of Emotionally Troubled and chronically ill American teens and adults.
At 2:12:25 in this documentary about Mafia hit-man and victim of Early Childhood Trauma/Abuse, Richard “The Iceman” Kuklinski, Dr. Park Dietz explains why young Richard most likely developed into a emotionally disturbed, paranoid, cruel, heartless teen and man who did not give a frig about anyone else, including his wife and kids.
Childhood Maltreatment and the Developing Brain – Dr. Bruce D. Perry, M.D., PhD
(NY Times May 18, 2015 – Rise in Suicide by Black Children Surprises Researchers)
Black Women, Suicide, Depression, Self Harm & Mental Health; PSA from Abiola Abrams
American (Children’s) Lives Matter; Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations
Tagged: Jamyla Bolden, Tyshawn Lee, Julie Dombo
#MentalHealth #MentalIllness #MaternalResponsibility