When learning about the death of young Tamir Rice my heart sunk as I watched the operator of the PD car roll right up on a possible armed suspect, leaving the recorder and himself with no opportunity to seek cover before challenging a potentially armed suspect.
I understand the operator was a training officer who should have had the experience and common sense to use more appropriate tactics. Horrible police tactics, coupled with an environment with a reputation for violence killed a twelve-year-old child playing in a local community park.
I also believe mental conditioning may have played a role.
The same mental/emotional conditioning many African American kids experience as they mature witnessing on a daily basis the the mayhem and violence in their community that over time conditions some or many kids to accept or become jaded by the violence that is a part of community life.
I believe this same slow mental/emotional conditioning to accept or become jaded by violence that affects young children and teens who regularly witness it, affects police officers in much the same way.
After twelve years serving the Brooklyn community Shawn Jay Z Carter raps about attempting to destroy with his poison drug trade and semi-automatic Mack Milli, I realized it was time to transfer when concerns for my emotional and physical well being were telling me I needed change.
I wasn’t happy leaving friendships I made during those nearly twelve years, though I’ll be damned if I was going to continue risking my life and emotional well being for a community that largely refused to assist the police in removing seriously emotionally disturbed, violent people from their neighborhoods. In my opinion, sadly I believe most all of the angry, violent people I encountered were emotionally harmed during a critical period of the childhood development.
Some cops can witness the daily mayhem, sadness and human suffering for thirty years and seemingly not bat an eyelash.
Other cops like me lasted near a dozen years before my mind had enough of dealing with stresses mostly created by constantly dealing with depressed, angry, frustrated, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults who were emotionally scarred by abusive childhoods that deprived them of experiencing and enjoying a SAFE, fairly happy American kid childhood.
Then there are the cops who wanted a transfer as soon as they were eligible to get away from the near-constant madness and stresses of often dealing with depressed, angry, frustrated teens and adults mostly lacking empathy, compassion and respect for their peaceful neighbors because as children they were never imbued with these qualities or rarely experienced them outside of school.
In school educators provide children with information and instill society’s basic values required for maturing into peaceful, fairly or well educated people.
After class many children head home to deal with community and/or family life where a different set of less peaceful values is in many cases, forced upon them because if they don’t keep their lil mouths shut when their elementary school teacher introduces the DARE lesson presenter, they know there could be repercussions for them and/or their family.
Essentially at home many kids like 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar who as a six-year-old first grade student was being taught to respect his classmates, while at home he witnessed “living wild” family members selling narcotics, using shotguns to protect and enforce their community-people harming drug operation in front of his home where little Kendrick, his siblings and cousins are supposed to feel safe.
After learning this info it was not difficult to figure out why Kendrick raps about depression and reveals he’s experienced suicidal thoughts.
And of course there are the small number of cops who meet and complete all the requirements of police training, though when it’s time to take the stage and perform, they just don’t have the skills, talent or temperament to deal with the harsh reality of life and all the human madness, suffering and excessive nonsense that comes their way.
Sadly, Tamir lived in a community that caused extraordinary stress for some or most cops. In this case a rookie officer, working in a community where gun violence is prevalent was forced to make a split second decision, because in my opinion his training officer totally disregarded proper tactics for approaching a person suspected of being armed. I have few doubts the rookie’s mind is tormented with nightmares about taking another person’s life..especially an innocent kid.
Being frank, there are a good number of teen girls and young women birthing newborns before they are emotionally prepared to deal with the 24/7 responsibility.
More frank, many moms are ignoring their parental duty/obligations to their child(ren) and their community/societal responsibility to their neighbors by making their developing children’s emotional development their number one priority.
Today, far too many immature maternal caregivers are responsible for raising newborns, infants, toddlers and children who often mature into depressed, angry sometimes suicidal-thinking teens and adults much like Tupac Shakur, Kendrick Lamar and countless other victims of Childhood Trauma, Abuse, Neglect and Maltreatment.
Yes, some police officers need to do a better job of remaining professional, adhering to their training, keeping cool and not allowing the madness to erode their humanity or basic human respect for others.
Just as some single and married moms need to do a much better job of raising, nurturing and socializing infants, toddlers and children who mature into fairly happy, responsible teens and adults respecting their peaceful neighbors and the police officers who serve our neighborhoods.
I’m sorry to pick on moms, though they are the caregivers we look to keep us safe, cared for and loved right from our start.
Take Pride In Parenting; End Our National Epidemic of Child Abuse and Neglect; End Community Violence, Police Fear & Educator’s Frustrations
Robert K. Ross, MD, President and CEO of The California Endowment, gives a compelling overview of the role that exposure to childhood trauma plays in the lives of troubled and chronically ill Americans.
After watching Dr. Ross’ presentation one of the questions all concerned, compassionate Americans should seriously be asking ourselves, our elected, civil, social, community and religious leaders is, “What real substantial changes in our society’s attitude and laws need to occur to prevent Child Abuse and Neglect that often causes young kids to mature into depressed, frustrated, angry, unpredictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults as a result of experiencing the emotional and/or physical trauma of an abusive childhood?”
Is Jaye DeBlack incorrect about his assessment of many SINGLE MOMS and how they are emotionally harming a substantial population of our nation’s children by irresponsibly building families out of selfishness – instead of caring and love between two committed adult partners?
Sandra Bland Indirectly Speaks About Child Abuse and Neglect Harming Her Quality of Life And Community
Victims of Child Abuse
This video depicts horrific examples of men who were victims of childhood abuse and neglect, conditioning a young teen to embrace ‘The Street’ culture Baltimore Mom of The Year failed to protect her teen son from…not to mention representing the fear peaceful people living and WORKING in the community experience knowing depressed, angry, unpredictable teens and young adults need to vent their angers and frustrations for being introduced to a life of pain and struggle by irresponsible, “living wild” single moms and/or dads.
A little girl, catching a cool breeze from an air conditioning unit in the yard, was blindsided by another child about her same age, who had evidently had some practice with fighting fierce. The small victim wasn’t alone, as there were plenty of nearby witnesses, who could have protected her but didn’t because they were too busy recording the brutal beat down and encouraging it. | Written By Amanda Shea
What I see in this recorded act of criminal child abuse, is adults conditioning children to embrace the cycle of child abuse, child maltreatment and violence passed down from generation to generation by depressed Americans who are content living in the poverty they are primarily responsible for fueling when irresponsibly birthing children from selfishness, instead of the love between two committed adult partners.
Nationally Popular Victims of Early Childhood Abuse and Neglect
Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.
Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.
Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.
Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.
In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.
Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.
“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway”