Child Abuse/Neglect Leads To Poverty, Resentment And Crime
For the past several months I have been following Mr. Charles Blow’s writings, viewing them through the eyes of a middle-class NYC suburbs “Average Joe” child who was a toddler when Motown music was in its infancy.
Years later, as a uniformed Brooklyn cop and robbery/homicide investigator, my eyes also witnessed the emotional pain and physical damage caused to peaceful people by the anti-social activities Brooklyn resident and American rapper Shawn “Jay Z” Carter raps/writes about causing to countless Brooklyn residents and “Average Joes” working in communities Shawn Carter raps/writes about actively and callously attempting to destroy.
In his 2015 Grammy award winning rap performance, “I”, American Rap Performance Artist Kendrick Lamar reveals, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”
In a January 20, 2011 LAWeekly interview American rapper and 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar, born in 1987, the same year songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and victim denial that was nominated for a Grammy award, he told the interviewer:
“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”*
*”I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles laying with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”
In a October 25, 2012 Kendrick again reveals who failed a young developing Kendrick Lamar and his siblings, causing him to experience emotional trauma that understandably lead to the depression he raps about in his Gammy Award winner performance of “I”.
I am curious if Charles Blow would be interested in learning about the emotional trauma experienced by AVERAGE JOE elementary school children like Kendrick Lamar?
Perhaps Mr. Blow would like to speak with Kendrick’s immediate and extended families, as well as his depressed neighbors, asking them if they believe their chosen lifestyle deprived Kendrick, his siblings, cousins, neighborhood friends, elementary and JHS classmates, from experiencing a safe, some what happy AVERAGE JOE childhood?
After reading Kendrick Lamar’s comments, would Charles ask Kendrick, his siblings and friends if they feel resentment for being deprived from experiencing the safe, some-what happy life they are aware most American AVERAGE JOE kids are enjoying?
Seems to me Kendrick identified the source of his depression, the roots of poverty, the child abuse/maltreatment that prevented him, his brothers, sisters, cousins, neighborhood friends and elementary school classmates from enjoying a fairly happy safe AVERAGE JOE childhood.
Seems the adults responsible for raising the children in Kendrick’s immediate and extended family placed obstacles in their children’s way, causing their kids to deal with challenges and stresses young minds are not prepared to deal with…nor should they or any other children be exposed to and have to deal with.
Perhaps these obstacles and challenges cause some developing children’s minds to become tormented and go haywire, confused not knowing right from wrong, OR NOT CARING ABOUT right from wrong.
I’ve met depressed, frustrated kids like Kendrick. I’ve arrested them, witnessed their pain and sadness, learned the roots of their pain and sadness when I met their caretakers, mostly single moms.
I’ve watched young AVERAGE JOE teens tearfully express their anger at their moms, for introducing them to a life of pain and struggle, totally unlike the mostly safe, happy life the media showed them many American kids were enjoying.
I wonder how little Kendrick and his AVERAGE JOE classmates reacted when their elementary school teacher introduced the DARE presenter and they learned about the real dangers of drugs and how they harm people, including their parents?
In her book, “Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome: America’s Legacy of Enduring Injury and Healing (PTSS)”, author and researcher Dr. Joy DeGruy’s does an excellent job relating how “Cognitive Dissonance” affected Americans who embrace racism and were/are victims of racism that deeply tainted and impeded our evolving species.
Does Charles Blow believe “Cognitive Dissonance” is partly responsible for the frustration and anger many teens and adults embrace?
Does Charles Blow have the capacity to recognize the statistics he relies on to form his opinions do not reflect the REAL LIFE struggles and challenges developing minds encounter when those young minds are raised and nurtured by moms and dads like Mr. and Mrs. Lamar (Duckworth)?
Does Mr. Blow’s intellect include ferreting out and exposing the reasons for why my much admired Motown musicians and most all talented composers/musicians from the 60s wrote lyrics loving, praising and adoring females…and beginning in the 80s the children and grandchildren of my Motown friends began creating/writing rap performance lyrics that essentially characterizes females, aka moms, sisters, grandmas and daughters…as witches and bhores, or less than human people undeserving of respect?
Would the American public, his readers, fans and followers be better served if author, media commentator, journalist Mr. Charles M. Blow logged off the electronic devices he uses to locate the statistics he cites, and invited AVERAGE JOE Kendrick Lamar for a sit-down discussing the child abuse, neglect and maltreatment Kendrick raps about in his “Average Joe,” performance as well as the fifteen similar “Average Joe” raps Kendrick mentions in his LAWeekly interview?
When Kendrick was a “Average Joe” kid, his voice was stifled by his community, fear of being emotionally and/or physically harmed prevented him from talking about the emotional damage he experienced, and observed his parents and neighbors were inflicting on themselves, his siblings, his neighborhood friends, as well as many of his AVERAGE JOE elementary and JHS classmates.
Years later as an adult, Kendrick Lamar raps and speaks about the child abuse he was victimized by that prevented him from experiencing the Average Joe Kid life I pretty much experienced…yet no one is listening to Kendrick!!!
Instead, people with larger voices than Kendrick’s, people who have the power to more aggressively expose the childhood abuse that caused Kendrick to experience depression for much of his life, seem more concerned about focusing on and perpetuating racial issues that have very little to do with Kendrick’s parents making poor and irresponsible lifestyle choices for Kendrick and their other children.
As it stands today, I am not sure if Charles M. Blow has the strength and fortitude to support Kendrick Lamar, to help Kendrick spare thousands other American children from experiencing Cognitive Dissonance that caused him to develop into a man emotionally scarred for life by his “living wild” parents, extended family and neighbors.
Charles, it may cause you some pain, though if you sincerely want to help our struggling American neighbors, you will support Kendrick’s voice using plain English the AVERAGE JOE can easily understand.
Victims of Child Abuse:
Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.
Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds from the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.
Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.
Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.
In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.
Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.
“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway”