Hi. I spent nearly twelve years providing police services to a Rap Hip Hop influenced Brooklyn, NY community, most all my civilian co-workers were competent, responsible loving moms, most all lived in this community. Ms. Jackson’s calm, well spoken words remind me of many of my co-workers.
Sadly these caring moms, their families and peaceful neighbors were potential victims of harmful anti-social acts committed by depressed, frustrated, unpredictable angry teens and adults, who as children were emotionally abused, neglected and/or maltreated by MANY immature teen and young moms living in this community. Moms who irresponsibly built small or large families before acquiring life experiences, practical skills, PATIENCE, and the means to independently provide for their children.
A question or observation I often heard in this community, “Do you see how she is raising that child!?”
In his 2015 Grammy Award winning rap performance, “I”, American Rap Performance Artist Kendrick Lamar reveals, “I’ve been dealing with depression ever since an adolescent.”
In a January 2011 LAWeekly interview American rapper and 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar, born in 1987, the same year songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and victim denial that was nominated for a Grammy award, he told the interviewer:
“Lamar’s parents moved from Chicago to Compton in 1984 with all of $500 in their pockets. “My mom’s one of 13 [THIRTEEN] siblings, and they all got SIX kids, and till I was 13 everybody was in Compton,” he says.”
“I’m 6 years old, seein’ my uncles playing with shotguns, sellin’ dope in front of the apartment. My moms and pops never said nothing, ’cause they were young and living wild, too. I got about 15 stories like ‘Average Joe.'”
Ms. Jackson correctly speaks about holding parents accountable. How does society hold accountable Kendrick Lamar’s immediate and extended families, as well as his depressed neighbors for depriving Kendrick, his siblings, cousins, neighborhood friends, elementary and JHS classmates from experiencing the safe, some-what happy life he is aware most American kids are enjoying?
Seems to me Kendrick identified the source of his depression, the roots of poverty, the child abuse/maltreatment that prevented him, his brothers, sisters, cousins, neighborhood friends and elementary school classmates from enjoying a fairly happy safe childhood.
Seems the adults responsible for raising the children in Kendrick’s immediate and extended family placed obstacles in their children’s way, causing their kids to deal with challenges and stresses young minds are not prepared to deal with…nor should they or any other children be exposed to and have to deal with.
Perhaps these obstacles and challenges cause some developing children’s minds to become tormented and go haywire, confused not knowing right from wrong, OR CARING ABOUT right from wrong.
I’ve met depressed, frustrated kids like Kendrick. I’ve arrested them, witnessed their pain and sadness, learned the roots of their pain and sadness when I met their caretakers, mostly single moms. I’ve watched young teens tearfully express their anger at their moms, for introducing them to a life of pain and struggle, totally unlike the mostly safe, happy life the media showed them many American kids were enjoying.
I wonder how little Kendrick and his classmates reacted when their elementary school teacher introduced the DARE presenter and they learned about the real dangers of drugs and how they harm people, including their parents?
I am not certain how society holds accountable caregivers who, let’s be honest, according to Kendrick Lamar inflict egregious criminal acts of maltreatment and long-lasting emotional child abuse on their children, causing many children to experience “Cognitive Dissonance, ” a debilitating mental condition researcher Dr. Joy DeGruy describes in her book, “Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome: America’s Legacy of Enduring Injury and Healing (PTSS)”.
Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.
Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.
Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.
Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.
In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.
Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.
“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway”