Hello. I try to calmly relate my experiences providing uniform and investigative police services for more than a decade to a Brooklyn, NY, Rap Hip Hop influenced community.
Though I am told my writings are not always sensitive. I apologize if my frustrations seep into the my accounts of personally witnessing child abuse, as well as how abuse/neglect adversely impacts the lives of developing newborns, infants, toddlers, children, teens and their communities.
After reviewing evidence available to me, in my opinion Taraji Henson is one of many African American women/mothers who is clueless about how her chosen lifestyle impacts her child’s growth and development, as well as the communities and millions of peaceful Americans negatively impacted by the lifestyle she chooses to glorify on screen and in her personal life.
Listening to Wendy Williams and Taraji Henson share a chat, it certainly seems like these two loving mothers are not concerned about the negative influences the men they admire are having on communities throughout our nation.
I opened this Wendy Williams interview with Taraji Henson and heard two popular American female television personalities gushing “love” and admiration a Rap performer named Armando “Pitbull” Christian Pérez (born January 15, 1981) and decided to check him out.
Went straight to his lyrics page, read the words to first his performance on his debut release “305 Anthem” (displayed below) and asked myself, “What world do these two women live in that they LOVE and speak fondly of a man who espouses hate, violence and disrespect for many Americans living in struggling communities throughout our nation?”
During their chat Taraji complained about today’s men not courting her, treating her with the respect she believes she deserves.
Taraji shared her belief that “most” men in the all black college she attended were not emotionally prepared to take care of a woman’s “emotional and spiritual needs.”
Taraji related a scene in the “hit” television show she stars in, describing a father taking “hatred out on his own child” …adding, “And we know that really happens in real life.”
Wendy quickly, seemingly at the speed of light, moved the convo along to a more happi-face chat.
Listening to Taraji, I mean really listening…it is plain to see she has a problem with men. If my hunch is correct, I’m not saying she is wrong for embracing those feelings, considering the character and values if the men she dates it’s hard to blame her.
Though, after reading the thoughts, experiences, feelings expressed in many Rap or Hip-Hop performances by some or many of the men she admires, I do -seriously- question the culture and the values she chooses to embrace.
In fact, I may even become prejudice toward Ms. Henson for lending her celebrity to raise the stature of the angry damaged men she admires, instead of learning why they share so much pain, and taking measures to help heal them, instead of criticizing them for not having manners they were not taught by some or many of her sisters.
After reading lyrics penned by the men she selects to become friendly with, learning the opinions these guys really and truly embrace for women, often characterizing/demeaning them as less than human, Taraji’s dilemma becomes even more interesting, fascinating and complex. Hard to believe a college educated person does not recognize her dilemma before get$$ting into it.
Does anyone else see the conflicts here, or just me?
Seriously….taking a deep breath…..does Ms. Henson live on the planet Earth?
Is Taraji Henson figuratively blind to the fact the men she dates and has intimate relationships with are shouting their dysfunction and anger to the world?
Has she read the hate-filled, angry, juvenile lyrics her lovers write? Does she not see they characterize the MATERNAL HALF of our population as witches and bhores, demeaning our moms, sisters, grandmas, daughters, aunts and nieces as less than human and undeserving of respect.
I mean HOLY SMOKES Ms. Henson, what more do these men have to do to let you know that are damaged people!!!!!!!!!!!!
Perhaps if Ms. Henson took a critical look at why men are not meeting her expectations she will realize it is because many of these men have no respect for their own mothers.
If Ms. Henson wants to get really real with herself about the character of the men she dates, she might take a few moments to think about why many men and teens do not respect their moms.
Of course Taraji and Wendy are not alone. Seems Ms. Vivica Fox joins these ladies on the Clueless Red Carpet. Is Mr.
Curtis ’50 Cent’ James Jackson III (born July 6, 1975) really the man she wants to proclaim to the world is the “love of her life?”
Seriously? Again, my prejudice is rearing its ugly head. I try to suppress it, make it go away but my mind keeps seeing stuff that ain’t right, way out of kilter with reality, civility and peacefulness as I envision it.
In our great country each is free to choose our heading, just as we are free to identify those we individually or collectively believe are heading for disaster, criticize them, and eventually shun or fear them when they make choices we believe are harmful to our peace@large. Some may call this prejudice or use a more hate-inspired word, racism.
Is this a rant on Taraji Henson? Yes!
But more-so it is a rant defining some of the reasons for why many children born to American nurtured females of African descent are confused, angry and frustrated with the women responsible for raising and nurturing them.
Prior to being presented with evidence that clearly shows either she or her son inflated and misrepresented facts (lied) of the circumstances surrounding her son Marcell’s police encounter, Taraji Henson made public accusations her son’s civil rights were impaired by a civil servant and declined to do the right thing by not following up and cooperating with authorities to correct the officer’s alleged uncivil and illegal conduct? After being invited to do so!
Sorry, this is either irresponsible, immature behavior, or it is contrived malarkey exploiting the current negative feelings some or many embrace for our law enforcement officials, to bring attention to her stardom.
“Hey look at me girls, I made it, my son’s education costs a cool fifty-Gs I can well afford to spend, unlike yall’ bhores and witches the rich and powerful men I admire and entertain write about.”
“Oops, I’m sorry, guess some of my lover’s ‘put-others-down-to-make-me-feel-better’ mentality must have rubbed off on me?”
Women were victimized by Bill Cosby, they remained silent, more were victimized, the list of victims who made the choice to remain silent goes on. Hard to respect or feel compassion for anyone who remains tight-lipped after being violently victimized. Especially when in their heart they know the attacks will continue.
Hard to respect a citizen who makes allegations of serious civil misconduct and does not follow up preventing future misconduct.
Now, only days after Ms. Taraji Henson shouted public allegations of serious police misconduct, we learn the TRUTH about the police officer who correctly detained her son for failing to yield to a pedestrian/neighbor in a crosswalk, was nothing less than polite, professional and…..if reports are true that Marcel possessed a controlled substance without a lawful prescription, we learn the police officer may have placed his career at risk by not arresting her son for possessing a controlled substance with a legal prescription.
When I was an active duty NYC police officer I was trained that sworn officers in NYS have discretion when determining to cite a person for committing a “traffic infraction”. Though when we personally observe crimes defined as misdemeanors and felonies, we MUST make an arrest, discretion does not apply.
If this is true in California, the polite, professional officer who allowed Marcel to walk without charging him for unlawfully possessing a controlled substance could be brought up on internal police department charges and be disciplined, possibly terminated for failing to perform his sworn duty.
Yes, this is a rant about SOME American women of African descent, certainly not all women of African descent are clueless. I know this because I worked with many moms who lived in a community negatively affected by the angry, hateful type of rap artistry creators and performers Taraji dates and adores, the men she purports to her son are quality people who deserve his and her respect.
In my opinion because women like Wendy Williams, Vivica Fox and Taraji Henson, the American women of African descent I worked with and respected for their peacefulness and competence, were forced to work harder at parenting in order to protect their children from the negative influences of the women-hating men these celebrities adulate and admire. Men who promote hate and violence in their art performances.
Then we have an American lawmaker named Vanessa Summers who went on public record informing our world she believes a toddler is mature enough to embrace what she perceives as prejudice or racism. Seriously!
Is Rep. Summers a mom, did not she observe her children’s development, realizing children at that age are incapable of forming these types of opinions?
Of course there are humans with distorted values and poor character in every city, town and village across our nation. However at this time in American history there is clearly a segment of our population that has been conditioned to believe lawlessness is an acceptable way of life.
Sadly each of the humans I named in this writing is contributing to this cluelessness and as a result, many children are being raised and nurtured in environments that will cause me to experience prejudice toward their caregivers for as long as they continue exposing their children to this type of emotional child abuse.
In closing, Wendy is right, Taraji’s boots are pretty cute and so is the rest of her package, though sadly, her exterior is way more appealing to me than the values she embraces in her head, which I hope she gets straightened out.
Hopefully her son gets his head straightened out as well. I have no problem with responsible marijuana users, though messing with prescription drugs can lead a human down a road that often results in many becoming less than human, as Taraji’s friends and lovers attest to in their Rap and Hip-Hop performances she apparently enjoys so much.
**Correction – Read a LA Times article reporting the police did not find the controlled substance Marcel Johnson admitted he possessed at the time he was detained. Therefore my remarks about the officer possibly disregarding his training are not valid.
Take Pride In Parenting; End Child Abuse & Neglect; End Community Violence & Police Fear
Read popular American rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur (Lesane Parish Crooks; June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996) lyrics to learn about his love-hate relationship with his mom, his great disappointment with his dad, and about Tupac’s frequent suicidal thoughts.
Read about how Tupac’s drug addicted mother accepted proceeds of the harmful anti-social acts Tupac raps/writes about committing against his peaceful neighbors. I have to tell you, reading Tupac’s lyrics brings back a lot memories of the horrific emotional child abuse I witnessed during the nearly twelve year I provided police services to Shawn Carter’s community.
Shawn “Jay Z” Carter (born December 4, 1969) is another victim of child abuse/neglect who raps/writes about the physical harm and fear he caused to his peaceful neighbors and community.
Reading Shawn “Jay Z” Carter describe the pain he caused to his neighbors and community, brought back painful memories, causing me experience much of the same anxiety and pain I experienced from personally witnessing the physical and emotional pain young Shawn Carter caused to individuals as well as an entire housing complex and surrounding neighborhoods.
In 1987, the same year emotionally depressed 2015 Grammy winner Kendrick Lamar was born, songwriter Suzanne Vega wrote a song about child abuse and VICTIM DENIAL that was nominated for a Grammy.
Suzanne nailed it, parents and caregivers do the most horrific things to their kids, yet many kids will defend their abusers, blaming themselves for their “blues,” bruises and injuries before admitting a parent/caretaker harmed them.
“Yes I think I’m okay I walked into the door again
Well, if you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway”